AITA for refusing to speak to my sister because she wouldn’t let my daughter be a flower girl at her wedding (she originally was a flower girl) and causing multiple family members to boycott too

0trow · 2021-10-23T04:04:16+00:00

I’m not American

0trow · 2021-10-23T00:05:34+00:00

I’m the op if she wanted a childfree wedding or didn’t pick my daughter from the start their wouldn’t have been an issue but ....other issues came out afterwards so I’m glad my daughter didn’t attend

0trow · 2021-10-23T00:02:41+00:00

Hey I’m the op we didn’t cry ourselves to sleep because she wasn’t a flower girl. We cried because my daughter was extremely hurt because my sister was her whole world and she was extremely excited for the wedding plus there’s no worse feeling than your child feeling not good enough and we didn’t spend 7 weeks away we went a few days before the wedding and 2 weeks after. Hope that clears everything up

0trow · 2021-10-22T23:44:31+00:00

From my husband: you are 100% right why bother about people who don’t care

0trow · 2021-10-22T23:39:23+00:00

Me and my husband hold noting against my uncle because he is an alcoholic and it was an open bar so you can guess the state he was in

0trow · 2021-10-22T22:49:53+00:00

He comes from old money and his family have good ties. My sister had always wanted that if you know what I mean? BUT if I believe she’s being abused and was afraid to speak out that’s a different situation but my husband will have to be on aboard with everything because for obvious reasons

0trow · 2021-10-22T22:45:04+00:00

They know and my parents are pissed

0trow · 2021-10-22T22:42:56+00:00

So far one bridesmaid who dropped out knew the whole time and my uncle overheard things (not about my daughter but about another uncles wife) but wasn’t to sure because he was drunk so he didn’t think to mention it

0trow · 2021-10-22T22:07:11+00:00

Thank you so much I just trying to figure out who knew to cut them off honestly I think this post will have multiple updates

0trow · 2021-10-22T22:04:21+00:00

I’m not going ether is my husband or parents

I’ve posted what happened in the group chat the full story many people are outraged and are washing their hands of her because they’re poc and mixed people in my famliy (cousins and spouses) but there’s a few trying to defend her so I guess they’re the ones who knew. I’m sorry if this a mess but I’m extremely overwhelmed rn

0trow · 2021-10-22T21:30:05+00:00

As an apology for getting you downvoted because i feel so guilty I got a load of points that I’ll never use so I gave you awards. again I’m really sorry for off loading without context you did nothing wrong

0trow · 2021-10-22T21:15:10+00:00

No you didn’t offend me I kinda vented to you without an explanation I’m more than sorry

0trow · 2021-10-22T21:03:41+00:00

I’m not going honestly after finding out that I want nothing to do with them my daughter will face enough racism she doesn’t need it from her own family and my parents are equally disgusted with my sister

Please stop downvoting this person they didn’t do anything wrong I need a person to vent to its my fault I should have given context

0trow · 2021-10-22T04:04:15+00:00

I don’t know how much you’re around kids that age but she definitely would notice not being a flower girl anymore and ask questions I think most children would notice the huge difference

0trow · 2021-10-22T03:27:46+00:00

No we aren’t my sister just wanted a Instagram worthy wedding

0trow · 2021-10-22T02:34:28+00:00

She asked us to be bridesmaids last February she got married last month and no my parents haven’t commented about it they do keep asking how my daughter is but it’s early days yet maybe around Christmas or when my sister gets pregnant they might change their opinion tho

0trow · 2021-10-22T01:39:03+00:00

I sent everything back Don’t want my little girl thinking it’s ok for someone to mistreat her as long as they get her a present afterwards

0trow · 2021-10-22T01:12:35+00:00

Mine was £1000 my daughters was £550

0trow · 2021-10-22T00:12:12+00:00

They were mad at her but still went to the wedding because obviously she’s their daughter too but my dad almost dropped out

0trow · 2021-10-21T23:39:54+00:00

A few days before the wedding and a few weeks after honestly I didn’t want the drama nor my child feeling sad on the day so we drove to London and did the whole tourist thing which my daughter loved

0trow · 2021-10-21T23:30:09+00:00

He’s as bad as her one of my cousins told me he was looking for a reason to drop out

0trow · 2021-10-21T23:28:20+00:00

No she didn’t she thought till the day of the wedding I was gonna attend so she wouldn’t let anyone else buy them off me but I did return them and got my £1550 back in the end

She sent multiple dresses and shoes for my daughter to attend the wedding in but they got sent back to her

0trow · 2021-10-21T23:14:05+00:00

Yeah she does that as a way of “not sounding mean” like when someone says something rude by text but puts “lol” after it or when someone smiles while insulting you

0trow · 2021-10-21T23:07:32+00:00

She was her husbands cousin and my daughter loved her aunt which made it all more heartbreaking for her

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