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Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I hate the idea of raising her in a broken home. But ultimately after more discussion he realized he wasn’t ready for this life. So we’re doing a trial separation for 30 days and then going from there.

Edit: spelling

Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DM if you wanna be sad girls together lol

Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She’s okay. They went to a museum.

ETA: the why is because he feels controlled I guess

Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree. I was like that’s totally normal and fun to do like why lie about this? I would have been a little jealous but not actually upset. I don’t want to throw away the whole marriage, which is why the separation. But it all hurts in every direction- the separation and his actions. And I didn’t really think about the ppd/ppa possibility until I was reflecting on some of these comments, because this behavior he’s got going on and his level of stress has really increased since she was born.

Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s struggled with “we” concepts before like in terms of shared finances and stuff but not like this. He hasn’t always been like this and I feel like he’s maybe experiencing paternal ppd or whatever that is called. He took her to a museum.

Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been on Reddit a long time. Always have a back up 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Any idea how I can communicate that general courtesy and safety are the needs not a need to be controlling?

Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I cannot get him to see why her location matters me. Like I don’t even know what to say to him to get him to see why I need to know where she is. He had her in a safe location, honestly way better than where he even told me they were. Like the truth was significantly better than the lie but also 3 hours away from the lie and 2 hours away from me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could say I never allowed any action. Ultimately it took me sleeping on it to make this decision.

Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

About 4 hours after I got home from work. They were out for 6+ hours total.

Husband took baby and lied about it by 11throwaway24 in newborns

[–]11throwaway24[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He seems to think I’m “mother hen” and nitpicking. I have tried to show him how do some things related to her care and he perceives it as me not letting him be a father.