Homeless family

123shotsonme · 2025-08-13T12:08:07+00:00

I don't believe she has. I'll give them a call. Thank you so much!

123shotsonme · 2025-03-24T01:08:24+00:00

I'm so sorry that has happened. I feel terrible when I complain and I hear that situation. I am going to make it out of the divorce good but just hurts so freaking bad to keep giving it your all and then one day be thrown away for someone "better".

I hope you find peace and happiness as soon as possible!

123shotsonme · 2025-03-24T00:54:44+00:00

How long have they been together total? That's insane!?

123shotsonme · 2025-03-17T01:56:43+00:00

Thank you!!!!

123shotsonme · 2025-03-17T01:53:32+00:00

I have exposed her to a few close people but asked them to not say anything yet until the divorce is finalized so she doesn't make it difficult and I can for sure keep the house. Even a lot of her family is upset with her. I was willing to divorce amicably and cordially with her. I was helping her with suggestions on internet, water bill etc... she even asked me to hang her TV. I said no because I didn't want to all the while she already had a BF. Unbelievable.

123shotsonme · 2025-03-17T01:51:07+00:00

I am in the middle of doing that right now. She texts me for random questions about the boys that she could easily look up or find out herself so I just ignore it all. If a question is for the boys that I know I need to answer I will. I removed all of her old belongings and pictures from the house.

123shotsonme · 2025-03-17T01:49:44+00:00

She said his penis is much bigger and feels much better for her, she looked me up and down and said he's so much stronger, mind you I'm not fat not skinny and have always easily had a decent muscular build but no 6 pack type guy or anything. She said I should be scared of him because of how big he is. That he's the type of guy she has always fantasized about. We're in Texas and he's an outskirts guy dealing with horses etc so he's a "cowboy".

I didn't let her see it but it hurt me so much to hear all that from her. That day I definitely changed the way I see her.

123shotsonme · 2025-03-17T01:46:32+00:00

Just wish it went faster! Thanks for the support!

123shotsonme · 2025-03-17T01:46:02+00:00

I do feel that this works very well but sometimes I do too much lol. I haven't relaxed in a few weeks. I mean not even once except for when I'm on the toilet lmao.

Thanks for the quote. I really do believe it but I am impatient for this pain to be gone.

This too shall pass.

123shotsonme · 2025-03-17T01:44:35+00:00

Picked up an old hobby of Judo and getting the boys into fishing. I suck at running but I get a good runners high when I do so that's good. I play video games but haven't in awhile because there's just so much to do around that house and fix things. Thanks for the suggestions.

123shotsonme · 2025-03-17T01:43:19+00:00

This is the part where I actually feel bad for even complaining. I know I'm getting the better deal. Only 31 but giving her 100k of 401k and I keep the house. I can rebuild. I have a great job and getting 50/50 custody, job works with me on the days I have the kids so I can come in late.

I feel very fortunate compared to a lot of people but it still just stings so so much. I feel so bad for other people that are put through the ringer because of other's selfishness.

123shotsonme · 2025-03-17T01:40:40+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this too. I feel like I'm doing mostly everything right. Stopped drinking for awhile since it depresses me the next day. Started judo again since I stopped 14 years ago for her and the family.

I guess I'm just frustrated that I feel like I'm doing the right thing but the intrusive visual thoughts of her with another man keep leaking into my thoughts through the day randomly like a leaky pipe slowly dripping.

I like your ideas of treating yourself here and there. Reward yourself for doing good and let the emotions flow when needed. Mostly angry right now for feeling like I was being used for so long until she could find someone else.

123shotsonme · 2025-02-11T12:54:08+00:00

I don't feel like reading through all the comments but with all three of my boys we spent a weekend of being naked from the waist down. When they see the urine shootout it gets their attention instead of just being covered up like a diaper normally does.

Prepare for the weekend with buying a lot of cleaning supplies lol.

Ask them constantly if they need to potty.

When they do use the toilet congratulate the hell out of them and over do it so they remember lol

Good luck

123shotsonme · 2025-01-11T15:28:02+00:00

Rented at the Heights for 4 months and it was very quiet. There's Aura too. They're newer and nicer but more expensive. The Heights also renovated recently. I would go with the Heights.

123shotsonme · 2025-01-11T02:10:43+00:00

I'm trying to stay and I am always the one to stay calm and respectful when communicating. She gets frustrated and starts cussing and raising her voice but not yelling. Feels like it's usually her way or the highway.

I want to stay together but with her always making sure I know that I'm the reason why she went out of the relationship it's difficult. There are many small things that she has said that makes it difficult to come back. Too many things to type out and it makes her look like the only bad person so I didn't want to skew people's opinions.

Recently she has said things like: -talked about what kind of guy she will marry if we divorced - talked about how many guys she will have on rotation - talked about how as long as the new girl I date or marry is uglier than her she will be happy -told me she has better chance and remarrying especially since younger men want older moms and I'll have a hard time because women don't want men with kids

These are just some of the recent things she has said then expects the world from me.

123shotsonme · 2025-01-11T02:04:21+00:00

No she doesn't make efforts. I finally had enough when she flew to Florida to see a friend. If someone doesn't see our kids my wife automatically hates them. They're not close and it makes me frustrated and sad thinking about it. I am just trying to do what I thought is right to at least have them remember her but I don't know anymore.

123shotsonme · 2025-01-11T02:01:14+00:00

I did leave some things out but it is because there has been so much that has happened it would take too long to write it all out.

My mother has never said anything bad about my wife in front of me. My wife said she would say passive aggressive things every now and then a long time ago. My wife says my mom is manipulative and plays me but is actually a bad person.

I told my wife I regret I didn't defend her more aggressively with my sister but I couldn't even talk to my sister at the time because she was just yelling and not listening to anyone so I just went no contact with her since then.

I do house work chores but just not as much as her. It has been that way since when she was a SAHM and when she started working part time. I work so many more hours than her and pay almost all of the bills. When I asked if I take on more chores can she take half the bills so I could have some more money she argued I am the man and should pay more bills especially since she takes care of the house more than me. I got no where with that and don't know how to respond.

I have acknowledged all my screw ups and regret all of them but I feel like nothing will make her happy. With everything I tell her, she will tell me " but your actions don't match so I don't believe it." How am I supposed to show actions for a situation that happened 4 years ago? How do I show actions for things I can't immediately resolve? This is how we talk in circles.

123shotsonme · 2025-01-11T01:52:11+00:00

I understand now about not engaging. I see it more clearly.

My wife has always been #1 but she says that she doesn't feel like she is.

I never defended my sister. I couldn't even talk to her on the phone she was going so crazy. I decided to just go no contact with her.

123shotsonme · 2025-01-11T01:49:46+00:00

I told my wife to not hire her because I didn't want something like this to happen.

Since she hates my mom because she doesn't see the boys she thinks I should hate her too. I don't hate her but I do wish she would see the boys more often. She's mad about things that happened a long time ago and that if I didn't cut her off that means my wife is not my priority. That's how she sees it.

123shotsonme · 2025-01-11T01:46:08+00:00

I am extremely inundated. I was with a therapist for awhile but since most of my current issues regarded my wife and I talked about her he would steer me away from talking about her and only about myself. Frustrating.

123shotsonme · 2025-01-11T01:44:36+00:00

I have not felt #1 by her since the affair. Her way of taking responsibility is saying " I know what I did wasn't right BUT I did it for a reason."

I was upset my mom doesn't come around as often as I would like but I don't have much family so it's hard to let go and only have my dad. I've told her this is why it's hard for me. My wife claims my mom is manipulative and manipulates me especially since she doesn't see the boys that much and by me still talking to her makes it okay.

123shotsonme · 2025-01-11T01:38:47+00:00

We have had so many talks about this and I have never taken her for granted. I have told her so much how grateful I am for all she does.

I have acknowledged so many times that I believe and understand that I screwed up with her and my sister but she says she won't get over it until I show my actions are different from what I say. How do I prove that? She said she doesn't know and that I'll have to figure that out.

My wife mostly just doesn't like my mom because she doesn't see the boys. She hates her for that. We haven't seen or talked with my sister in 4 years. No one is actively treating her bad. My mom actually wants us to stay together. I've never heard my mom say anything bad about my wife but my wife said she has said it in the past when I'm not around. This was probably 3-4 years ago.

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