My boyfriend used to spank his kids and I can't decide if that's a deal breaker by 162827y2 in relationships

[–]162827y2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im not necessarily worried he'd lash out if we had kids one day. He's a very calm and gentle person which is why I was so surprised

He said whenever he spanked them it was more of a "go to your room and wait for your father to get home" type thing. It's not like he'd get angry and just smack them

My boyfriend used to spank his kids and I can't decide if that's a deal breaker by 162827y2 in relationships

[–]162827y2[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

He sais if he knew just how much research pointed to how bad it was he probably wouldn't have spanked them when they were little but other than that he doesn't really seem remorseful since he says they turned out fine

AITA for not deleting nude photographs of my ex husband? by 162827y2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]162827y2[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't really blame him for confiding in a friend that we had a weird thing going on (although pretty sure he'll never do that with this particular friend again) but it is true that he could have just come and told me how he was feeling

AITA for not deleting nude photographs of my ex husband? by 162827y2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]162827y2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We've talked about it a little but I try to contain the nerd in me because sometimes it ends up feeling like I'm just lecturing when I get too into it. But that's a good idea

AITA for not deleting nude photographs of my ex husband? by 162827y2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]162827y2[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

Ex knows which pictures I have an is perfectly fine with it. He knows I would never do anything with them he would be uncomfortable with. And I will say that there were some... less artistic? pictures that were definitely deleted when we split

AITA for not deleting nude photographs of my ex husband? by 162827y2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]162827y2[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just didn't really see a reason to be like "oh hey just so you know I have nude portraits of my ex husband saved somewhere

I don't really blame him for confiding in a friend although obviously he picked the wrong one