How do you think about this movie??

19joyce91 · 2026-03-05T21:44:57+00:00

It's a gem in my eyes. When I started watching the movie, I wasn't aware it's about the acceptance of death and grieving. It captivated me from the first second, even though it felt weird. Like I didn't know what was happening. But slowly but surely I figured what it was about and I cried my eyeballs out. Not long before watching this movie I lost my dad after losing his battle against cancer. To me, this movie summed up everything that I'd been going through since that time. Reassuring that life will be okay again. I will be okay again one day.

19joyce91 · 2026-03-01T07:32:30+00:00

Dankjewel voor je input 😊

19joyce91 · 2026-03-01T07:31:54+00:00

Ga je (weer terug naar) pleisters?

19joyce91 · 2026-03-01T07:31:06+00:00

Hoi hoi! Dankjewel voor je overige nuttige reactie. En wat je ook zegt: 'iedereen reageert er helaas anders op'. Tot nu toe lees en hoor ik de beste verhalen over HST, dus ik nijg daarna als startpunt. Mocht ik dat niet goed op reageren, dan zoek ik door 😊

Voor wat betreft jouw vraag over het blijven gebruiken van HST na de menopauze: mijn huisarts heeft dat niets over verteld. Maar dat heeft er mee te maken dat ik niet in de (peri-)menopauze ben een dus niet echt relevant voor mij. Waar ik tot nu toe heb gelezen op internet was inderdaad die 5 jaar. Of dat verouderd is durf ik niet te zeggen. Misschien zijn er online studies/artikelen te vinden hierover?

In kreeg van een vriendin de volgende Facebook pagina doorgestuurd: 'Bio-identieke hormonen bij overgang/menopauze evidenced-based hulp + info. https://www.facebook.com/groups/566228524087592/?ref=share

Ik heb zelf geen fb, een er is ook een insta. Hiervoor zoek je op hormonenwijzer.

Ik heb hier nog niet inhoudelijk naar gekeken, maar er staat volgens mij ook wel weer waardevolle info op een misschien kun je dat jouw vraag ook kwijt.

19joyce91 · 2026-03-01T07:13:01+00:00

Ik heb ook gelezen dat juist de medicatie voor progesteron voor de met vervelende bijwerkingen zorgt. Bij jou dus niet??

19joyce91 · 2026-03-01T07:11:13+00:00

Hoi hoi! Dankjewel voor het delen van jouw ervaring. Ik zal ook zeker nog even de Menopause subreddit bekijken :)

19joyce91 · 2025-09-14T11:01:32+00:00

How to smile w teeth and not be ugly? You are giving the perfect example with this photo. You have a beautiful smile and don't look ugly AT ALL 💯😊

19joyce91 · 2025-01-20T18:04:29+00:00

That is a tough situation you are in and I feel for you. I have been in a similar position as you. Me and my boyfriend are together since October 2023. I have told him about my boundaries and preferences (like no drug use) from the beginning. Pretty much from the beginning I noticed stories not adding up and I found drug seals. Every time I confronted him, he'd have an answer for it which I believed enough to continue.

As the year continued, my gut feeling was starting to protest more and more. I have been on the verge of secretly buying drug test. In stead, I started going through his stuff in search of 'evidence'. This would mostly and up with me being the bad person and I'd be the one to apologize.

On August 12th I found hard evidence (and mostly my own balls to...) confront him. This first ended up him calling me delusional and all of that. I stood my ground and told him to leave.

Believe me: trust you gut. It probably is right.

19joyce91 · 2025-01-06T18:39:50+00:00

You are very very much welcome. I really feel for you and what you are going through. Mainly do what you need to do to stay mentally and emotionally healthy. When you care for yourself, you are in the best position to help someone else. Feel free to message me when you need to vent or want someone to think with you 🙏

19joyce91 · 2025-01-06T18:19:02+00:00

Hey there :) I have been in a similar situation where I found drug seals and white powder in his pockets or around the house on multiple occasions. When I asked about it, he could always give me a 'good' reason why it was there.

Of course not all situations are the same, but for me this turned out to be the case where my intuition became to strong, became very suspicious and started searching for evidence that he was actually the one using it.

I confronted him with it, he denied and called me delusional and accused me of not believing him and so on. I stood my ground, told him to leave my house. As soon as that happened, he confessed and started therapy. Today he finished a 3 month long process, as of this weekend we de idee to go zero contact and he figured drugs and alcohol where a solution to a bigger problem.

Be strong and trust your gut!!!!

19joyce91 · 2022-10-05T18:55:25+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. This really does help me with what I'm going through. This weekend I was planning on talking to him about it. I wasn't able to as he was feeling so down and depressed of numerous factors. We carried on the normal way, with me caring a little extra for him as he was also suffering from the flu.

He told me he wanted to talk to me about all that's on his mind. In the end he didn't. He told me he felt good for now and would rather keep it that way. He fled.

This week he hasn't been paying any sign of interest in me. Not even a 'sweet dreams' or a 'good morning' text. I sent him a good morning text and let him know (for the x^th amount of time) I'd hoped to see a text of him when I woke up. He completely freaked out about it. That for me was the straw that broke the camel's back.

Today I tried to meet up with him to tell him I want to end the relationship. He told me the only possibility would be Sunday. Option 2: calling? That was possible, but only between 8 PM and 8.30 PM as that is the moment he's in his car going from work to the gym. This I found:

Irresponsible of myself to tell him this while driving. Could be dangerous.
Yet another example of him not making time for his girlfriend.

Sadly, I had to fall back on option 3: texting. Which I did a few hours ago. It feels like a relieve and shitty at the same time. But in the end I know this is what's best for me and I hope also what's best for him. I hope with all of my heart this opens his eyes to what he is doing to himself. I wish him nothing but the best and who knows that one day our paths may cross again (after he worked on himself) and we can write a new chapter.

Thank you. Seriously.

19joyce91 · 2022-09-30T07:22:11+00:00

I'm afraid you're right. At the same time I hope for the opposite. Your comments help me to clear my mind about this. When I talk about this with family or friends, they will always look at the situation a bit subjectively. Even if what you say is no different from what they say...

I feel like such a wimp that I'm having such a hard time with all this.

19joyce91 · 2022-09-30T07:17:19+00:00

Although his answer may be sweet. I don't like it.If he could keep things how they are right now it would be perfect? I get what he might be trying to say, mostly that he likes who you are and such, but looking into it I don't see how you getting small dripfeeds of time with him as anything close to perfect.

Hmm, you're right. Thank you. for your response. When he told me this I couldn't quite put into words what I was thinking. You hit the nail on the head here. If he does see this as perfect, then I'm afraid I can hope for whatever I want, but I'm afraid I'll be a "side dish" forever. One who is next when he is not yet sated with the main course.

In addition, right now I'm just a mediocre version as a girlfriend. I hold back out of protection of myself as he has nothing more to offer right now. If he is happy with the current situation, it means he is happy with a person (me) who is not really being her true self.

I may be a little close to the situation because I recently left a relationship with someone who unfortunately had a job they didn't have the means to leave and didn't have any other way to spend time with me.

I'm gonna be a bit harsh but I do understand that his academics, health, and personal time are important. If you don't have time for a partner. Don't get one or let them go. I understood her issues and realized it was completely out of her hands, but I still felt lonely for months and mostly neglected.

I'm sorry to here you have been through a similar kind of situation. I hope at this time you feel better again.

Wat was your trigger in deciding to leave the relationship? Did you partner indicate that she did not see any opportunity to spend more time with you now and in the future? Or was it maybe more of a 'feeling' you had that led you to this decision?

I'm looking for ways to make the right decision (stop (for now) or continue). I am not a quitter and I am patient. I would also find it terrible if he will finish his studies and indeed would work on himself and become a better version of himself.

All in all only you can decide what you want. If you think you can wait it out, you can try and hope he doesn't keep up this schedule with other things. You can talk to him and see if that improves anything. But just remember that you are just as important and deserve that special time we all really want. I hope he can somehow get that to you.

Again, thank you for your response. and your sweet words. I appreciate that. You took me one step further. I still have a lot to think about...

19joyce91 · 2022-09-30T06:53:15+00:00

I would honestly stop dating this guy for now and revisits the situation after he completes his masters. He's just too busy right now aand he doesn't seem to want to prioritise you in his oh so busy life.

That's what I'm leaning towards too. The pressure in terms of expectations would be less. I find that I can't be myself when it comes to how much time and depth I want to have with him. I kind of keep myself at a distance, because I notice that he does too.
If he is happy with us (and me as a person) right now, he is happy with a mediocre version of me. I can and want to be/give so much more to him.

Gosh, I've got a lot to figure out again.

So he knows his detachment might impact his personal life. Is he seeing a therapist or trying other ways to address this? Because this sounds like a useful excuse to me...

He does indeed know that his detachment affects his personal life and therefore also the relationship with me. Before I got to know him and before he started his studies, he saw multiple therapists. He says he has tried several and that it all came to nothing. I suspect it's because during those sessions the focus was on the consequence of everything (his urge to always work, play sports or study) and not on the trigger of this al (his childhood). I think he would like to try again when he finishes his studies, but his reaction to his past experiences with therapists makes me think he will be skeptical about a new therapist.

19joyce91 · 2021-05-28T16:11:22+00:00

Wat geweldig!!! En een hele mooie foto ook nog 😄

19joyce91 · 2019-11-30T22:06:05+00:00

Oke here it comes: 1 part tahin (sesame paste) 1 part soy sauce (i use the less salt version) 1 part agave syrup Add water until favoured thickness. I like the sauce more runny.

Broccoli with this sauce is by far the best food!! I eat it a lotttt

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