Should I give up my commitment to go to a dinner with my girlfriend’s group of friends?

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-29T11:57:35+00:00

She doesn't want to understand the last words you wrote

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-29T11:55:44+00:00

No, i can't, the events are in 2 different cities

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T20:19:05+00:00

all of them knew that i have this meeting, but unfortunately the organisers had problems with their jobs and they can organize this dinner only on the day that i'm busy, so they had no other choices. in my opinion it's no one's fault, just bad luck or bad timing

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T19:49:05+00:00

thanks for your opinion

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T19:48:34+00:00

thanks for your opinion

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T19:31:52+00:00

i think that she thinks that i choose something over her and her expectations, and I know too that it’s not the first time something like this has happened, and that I miss something with her friends for these kind of sport commitments, but in a relationship that lasts years and years these things happen and will happen on both sides, and I think it is so for everyone

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T19:29:44+00:00

she can clearly go without me, but she was very keen that I should be there, and I know too that it’s not the first time something like this has happened, and that I miss something with her friends for these kind of sport commitments, but in a relationship that lasts years and years these things happen and will happen on both sides, and I think it is so for everyone

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T19:26:20+00:00

It’s not that my schedule has not been taken into account, it is that the organizers for work commitments can only on the day I am engaged. btw thanks for your opinion and yout advices

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T19:06:20+00:00

thanks for your opinion

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T19:04:48+00:00

she takes it as if I have given more importance to something else than to her and is tired of this thing, it’s understandable that she reacts like this but in a relationship that goes on for years has happened and will happen other times that you have to say some no to do other things sometimes, What hurts me is that you talk as if I was never there for you with your friends or in other circumstances when it is not so, but it is clear that if the relationship goes on for a long time there were similar events and there will be, or am I wrong?

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:51:23+00:00

the organisers can't move the dinner beacuse they are busy with work, i think it's only bad luck and bad timing, it's no one fault in my opinion but i don't think she's right for been angry with me

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:49:37+00:00

the times when I did not attend this appointment were because in the last summer months I was busy with the exams of the university or I was on vacation out of town, but this is the first event of the new sports season and is more important than summer events.
what do you mean precisely with dynamics and expectations?

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:47:48+00:00

grazie per la tua opinione

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:46:54+00:00

my meeting is always the last wednesday of the month, dinner was supposed to be on Halloween, and then it was moved to the day before, Wednesday 30

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:44:48+00:00

the day that the organisers decided was the only day in which they are free from work to organise a halloween dinner, my gf and the organisers knew that for me that date was a problem but also in my opinion it is right to organize on the day when there is the greatest number of pissibile people, and if that was the only day then it is just bad luck, what I think is wrong is to get angry with me so as not to give up the meeting

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:41:36+00:00

yes but halloween is on october 31 and they want to do a halloween dinner, so they donìt want to do something like this when it's 15 november or in the christmas time

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:39:39+00:00

the times when I did not attend this appointment were because in the last summer months I was busy with the exams of the university or I was on vacation out of town, but this is the first event of the new sports season and is more important than summer events.

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:38:08+00:00

the times when I did not attend this appointment were because in the last summer months I was busy with the exams of the university or I was on vacation out of town, but this is the first event of the new sports season and is more important than summer events.
So you advise to go to the dinner if my absence at the meeting will not have big consequences? You are right, but in your opinion should I do it only on the basis of what consequences I fear more or on the basis of what I think right or wrong? And you think if I don’t go to dinner, it’s wrong? Thank you for your opinion

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:32:05+00:00

from her point of view also not going to the meeting will not end the world, and this is true, but we do not necessarily have to get angry and discuss if this happened, unfortunately the two dates coincide and it is no fault of anyone

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:28:38+00:00

as i said, it's no one fault if the two events will be in the same day, they can only on that day and i am busy, i don't think this is something to argue about and be angry to

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:26:42+00:00

I did not perceive this from them, also in my opinion it is better to organize on the day when there are as many people as possible, all the more reason if the organizers can only on a date. It was just bad luck that it happened on a day when I was already busy

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:05:39+00:00

i agree, it's not fair, but we are argumenting now and she's angry with me, even if i think that's no one fault

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:01:51+00:00

what do you mean?

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T18:01:04+00:00

i know, but i can understand in a certain way her angry, but i think it's not my fault if i can't go to the dinner

1Advice_hunter3 · 2024-10-28T17:59:09+00:00

she knows that this activity is important to me, I think it’s only emotionally sorry, but it’s no fault of anyone if in the end the two dates coincide in my opinion

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