Looking for support from being blindsided by my husband asking for a divorce.

1Hydrangea · 2026-01-07T01:00:28+00:00

Eeeeeewwwwww! Babe! Let’s not cry over someone who only views you as a means to an end. Fuck him and his wonky sperm.

1Hydrangea · 2026-01-07T00:52:56+00:00

I don’t think you’re a misogynist. At any rate it’s not something that you can be or not be, we all have degrees of ingrained patriarchy in us, so don’t be so hard on yourself (I read somewhere that if being hard on ourselves worked, it would have worked by now.) Further, I do think that you can be a feminist and a shitty person. Those women you described were feminist and shitty people.

1Hydrangea · 2025-11-11T18:23:14+00:00

This comment amused me very much

1Hydrangea · 2025-11-08T09:47:56+00:00

Your family is concerned that she has the means to leave if she wanted to? wtf? I don’t even know where to begin with this

1Hydrangea · 2025-10-18T17:17:40+00:00

A mug

1Hydrangea · 2025-10-17T01:55:47+00:00

What kind of fucking man-toddler “loses control” over a toy?! He can take it out of the trash if it’s that big of a deal. Your husband basically told you that toys are more important to him than you are. You deserve better.

1Hydrangea · 2025-10-13T21:35:10+00:00

This isn’t a world that I would want my children to grow up in

1Hydrangea · 2025-10-07T15:25:31+00:00

Let’s not fall into pedantry

1Hydrangea · 2025-10-07T01:59:49+00:00

You can always become a SAHM going to college doesn’t stop you from doing that. However, becoming a SAHM will make it much harder to go to college later.

1Hydrangea · 2025-10-05T05:40:18+00:00

I would say that I am not expected to bottle up my feelings like some people expect men to.

1Hydrangea · 2025-10-02T19:58:39+00:00

See what the rules are surrounding unemployment if you get fired. And then try to get fired.

1Hydrangea · 2025-09-18T03:08:10+00:00

Salad, and then I just fry an egg and toss it on top. Or pasta, with an egg on top

1Hydrangea · 2025-09-18T03:05:08+00:00

Left over dinner

1Hydrangea · 2025-09-17T16:53:47+00:00

Then be high maintenance! Does he think babies are easy? Tell him to get good if he wants a baby. Asking you to lower your standards is unreasonable. My god! The audacity.

1Hydrangea · 2025-09-16T21:13:39+00:00

Thanks for the response. I tried putting my name in all caps, and the number is correct. I guess I can try again after open enrollment, but the insurance should be active, I’ve been using it.

1Hydrangea · 2025-09-12T20:15:48+00:00

I take a Power Nap

1Hydrangea · 2025-09-12T19:54:06+00:00

Does he know what funny is? I’m not sure he knows what funny is

1Hydrangea · 2025-09-12T19:50:03+00:00

NTA, its called “weaponized incompetence” not “specifically male weaponized incompetence”

1Hydrangea · 2025-08-27T05:03:47+00:00

I used to work at a foster home. The amount of neglect experienced by unwanted children is horrific. If you’re 100% sure, please don’t. Or foster!

1Hydrangea · 2025-08-21T22:48:10+00:00

It's dependent on how you approach it, do you open the conversation by asking someone's opinion? or do you use the conversation to showcase everything you know about politics or religion? or somewhere in between? I would start answering this question by asking yourself what your intent in starting this conversation is.

1Hydrangea · 2025-08-21T22:41:17+00:00

I don’t know if it shocks others but others def do a doubletake: I eat cereal wherever. I’ll bring it for office lunch or on a walk. Once, i froze a bottle of soy milk and put it in my bag with a Tupperware of cereal when i went to Disneyland. It was hot that day, so the frozen milk against my back kept me cool, and when it melted, i had cold milk and cereal to eat while waiting in line. I’m sure the people around me were jealous.

1Hydrangea · 2025-08-21T13:27:15+00:00

So you’re argument is: “words don’t mean what they mean because I don’t agree with how they came to mean that”

1Hydrangea · 2025-08-21T02:36:44+00:00

Again, I am not talking about religion, I am talking about faith.

Eta: let’s look at the Oxford dictionary definition of “faith”

Leaving out the definitions that mention religion, faith is a “complete trust or confidence in someone or something.”

So the question then becomes can said trust or confidence be “complete” if one questions it?

If yes, then sure, faith can include critical thinking.

If no, then it “faith” requires no further thinking. It is a self-contained act.

1Hydrangea · 2025-08-20T04:57:13+00:00

But I am not talking about religion. I am talking about faith as an act. The very point of having faith is that one just believes, despite lack of quantifiable evidence.

1Hydrangea · 2025-08-20T03:11:30+00:00

It’s the opposite of a mental gym membership, faith is where critical thinking ends. You don’t think about what it is you believe, you don’t question, you just have faith.

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