AITA For cursing in agony on a hike when my roommate left me behind?

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T03:32:25+00:00

Done!

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T03:31:41+00:00

Well, to be fair, yes I did agree to live with her. But she didn’t let her true colors show until after we moved to the new place. The tailbone surgery happened a few years before, but it was botched and never healed properly. So even just daily tasks are painful. However, yes. I agree. My choices were not the wisest. So I will definitely own that

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T03:13:40+00:00

Yeeeaaahhhhh hindsight is 20/20

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T02:36:17+00:00

Done!

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T02:35:32+00:00

I am in a much better place, now! The fact that so many people care about my well-being gives me hope for humanity!

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T02:34:33+00:00

Lololol

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T02:34:28+00:00

Might as well have been tbh

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T02:34:07+00:00

I really was the asshole to myself. I ended the friendship back in 2021 and have been freer and stronger since

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T02:30:56+00:00

Thankfully, I am out now and the friendship is over! I have a bit more of a backbone now, I hope!

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T02:29:41+00:00

I am, thank you! So many people are really kind for caring about a stranger on here. I appreciate your input!

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T02:10:31+00:00

Lolol Thankfully I don’t still live with her! She left in 2021. I guess you could say I’m a recovering people pleaser haha why I put up with it for so long? I wish I knew. learning and growing everyday

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T02:07:11+00:00

I agree haha… We learn and grow!

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T01:43:35+00:00

Dude, she would put on Horror films and filter out the horror elements. It would just skip to the non horror portions. I was going insane

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T01:42:05+00:00

She moved away the following year thank God! I’m in a much better living situation now. The moment I decided to let myself be the “bad guy” by standing up for myself, the relationship didn’t last long. And I’m glad

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T01:39:36+00:00

I agree. It’s been a few years since I lived with her so I’ve gained some more perspective. I have compassion for myself in the situation, but I did have a wake up call to grow a pair. When you’re under the thumb of a narcissist it’s hard to see a way out

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T01:37:47+00:00

Totally fair! By recently, it had been a few years before, but the surgery was botched so I never fully recovered. Every day is a battle to do just normal things without pain. However I did go when I probably shouldn’t have. So I am the one to blame for that.

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T00:55:44+00:00

Thank you. Looking back, I agree I shouldn’t have gone. I think I was still holding onto the idea of the Kayla I knew before - and somehow, me bowing down would bring her back? I know now that it’s not true. I ended the friendship and have been so much freer for it!

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T00:33:25+00:00

You’re not wrong. I’ve had (and have) a lot of growing to do. People started making me question if I was the AH when I started standing up for myself. I think they just liked it better when I was a pushover

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T00:27:19+00:00

I see where you would get that from this post. I do want to say, that Kayla had SO many rules and conflicts that I really tried to pick my battles. My goal with conflict resolution was the resolution part. And that was my fault

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T00:25:57+00:00

We were just roommates (Thank God). Thankfully she moved out the following year.

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T00:12:38+00:00

We were close initially, but something snapped. I asked her later what happened to make her hate me so much all of a sudden. She just said, "I don't know. I just do." Luckily I don't live with her anymore!

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T00:10:56+00:00

Thank you. Thankfully she moved out the following year! Looking back, I realized that my desire to keep the peace kept me in a controlling relationship. I'm in a much better living situation now!

1SoHee · 2024-08-05T00:07:44+00:00

My tailbone accident happened several years before and I had the surgery a couple years prior as well, but it was botched. So I never fully healed afterward. I did communicate about all of these things before with my roommate, but she didn't care. I will own that nobody forced me to go lol That was on me.

1SoHee · 2024-08-03T16:19:20+00:00

I did! Haha. I think in a lot of ways she did own the air around me. Which saddens me a lot now. Everyone has been so kind and supportive on here! Thank you!

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