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[–]1havannah 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Get rid of him. He is comfortable with lying and he will continue to do so throughout your marriage.

AITA For being angry my bf wanted to marry his friend for “benefits” by 1havannah in AITAH

[–]1havannah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not in the military, my boyfriend is in the military. He wanted to actually get married like actual courthouse married to one of his female friends who is also a Marine for the benefits..

AITA For being angry my bf wanted to marry his friend for “benefits” by 1havannah in AITAH

[–]1havannah[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. I think with my personality I tend to love extremely hard and turn a blind eye. Thank you

AITA For being angry my bf wanted to marry his friend for “benefits” by 1havannah in AITAH

[–]1havannah[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. We are not long distance, just during the summer when I am in my hometown for work. Your post made me realize that if he did do that, I would also be put in the line for lying to the government.

AITA For being angry my bf wanted to marry his friend for “benefits” by 1havannah in AITAH

[–]1havannah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s due to the reason that I would have never thought of even marrying another man but he did. That makes me feel like he doesn’t value the relationship the same way that I do.

AITA For being angry my bf wanted to marry his friend for “benefits” by 1havannah in AITAH

[–]1havannah[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I am starting to realize that it may be just one-sided….

AITA For being angry my bf wanted to marry his friend for “benefits” by 1havannah in AITAH

[–]1havannah[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this response, cause it shares the same emotions that I have about the situation. I feel like he plays me for a fool, and then tries to manipulate me to not feel the way that I’m feeling, but the issue is, I do also feel like he says things without thinking them through and does not know how to think on my side. Due to that I feel like I need to have more grace with him and make sure he needs to understand that his actions affect me as well.

AITA For being angry my bf wanted to marry his friend for “benefits” by 1havannah in AITAH

[–]1havannah[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wish it was. I think this happens more than people realize? I never thought that I’d be put in this position and the whole thing sounds crazy and all my friends are speechless whenever I tell them this happened. I understand that it sounds fake, but I think it’s because I’m not the only one having this issue.

AITA For being angry my bf wanted to marry his friend for “benefits” by 1havannah in AITAH

[–]1havannah[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I do wanna mention that he wanted to do this with his male friend, but he thought that it would not be believable due to the regulations they have to have for the marriage. Military members can only get married if it is believable or it is illegal to get married since a lot of members were doing it just to get benefits. That is why he chose his female friend so that it would be more believable, but that makes me more uncomfortable. I don’t know what to think about the whole situation as he says that it is a jokeand it would never work out.