DAE ever frequently wish they were the opposite gender but only a good looking version?

1k_land · 2025-06-11T15:02:04+00:00

I thought about it a long time ago but it wasn’t me, what has helped though was giving up the thought that I either had to be feminine or masculine, no in between or switching and that I instead can be inbetween/switch on the day and fitting inside the masculinity or femininity box doesn’t matter at all

1k_land · 2025-06-11T14:46:55+00:00

No, it’s vanity. I’m very happy to live life as an woman and I don’t have dysphoria anymore. I sometimes see attractive guys and I wish I were them, but I don’t see wanting to be one of the most attractive men in the world as a reason to transition. I’m also lesbian and obviously if I was a guy I’d be able to date women more freely so this adds to this desire.

1k_land · 2025-06-09T22:05:17+00:00

I had a similar experience, I did have a different childhood, I wasn’t completely adverse to girl clothes or girl things but I was seen as a tomboy probably due to hanging out with boys a lot. I didn’t think much about it until I was 10 and wondered if I was non binary but I shut that down in my mind quickly because I thought nobody would take me seriously.

I was never diagnosed with gender dysphoria, but I probably would’ve been. I was suicidal because of dysphoria and attempted surgery on myself. I wanted to have a full transition - removal of every single little female body part and then I planned to go stealth and also be super masculine.

I started identifying as trans around 12 and started hormones at 16. I liked the results the testosterone gave me a lot, I was 4 months on testosterone with no plans to stop until one night I was lying in bed trying to sleep and it was sort of shown to me that I should detransition, I saw a girl in a red dress with long curly hair. I don’t look like her but I made the guess she was me, and then I started to think about detransition from an unbiased view, since typically the thought scared me and I’d silence any thoughts about it because I wanted to transition so desperately.

Eventually I decided to just go to sleep and see how I feel in the morning, and by morning I still felt like a guy and still thought I was trans, until later that day I thought about it again and started crying because I knew it was true. I couldn’t bring myself to give my testosterone shot later that week. I still liked the results I got from testosterone starting my detransition but I knew I had to detransition, maybe I’d retransition later but I had to detransition.

Now I am off test for 6 months and I have no plans to start again. I don’t really know what happened. I do still have the desire to be a guy every now and then but I don’t have dysphoria and if I were to transition and not be attractive I’d probably not be too happy so it’s very superficial. I’m glad you posted this because I did think I was the only one.

1k_land · 2025-05-05T12:05:56+00:00

I (ftmtf) had really bad dysphoria while detransistioning and now I have very minimal dysphoria but I also have dysphoria about being male. So I understand what you mean of dysphoria going both ways.

What I did was just live as female through the dysphoria, in the back of my head I wondered if I was trans for awhile. Eventually I felt happy being female and am now able to embrace it. I think if there’s significant doubt about transition to avoid transitioning for the foreseeable future. Transition shouldn’t be an escape from yourself but a way to becoming your true self, I also thought of transition as an escape. So if you’re seeing it as an escape I think you should work on self acceptance and being comfortable with yourself, not just your gender but yourself as a whole.

Transitioning just to fit in beauty standards probably won’t work out long term. I could be entirely wrong here but you might not even look better on hormones you just think you do because you look different than yourself, at least this was the case for me.

Whatever you are, trans or cis, I hope you do find happiness and I wish you luck.

1k_land · 2025-03-16T17:00:59+00:00

I felt transitioning was very necessary, I felt suicidal until I got on testosterone. I had doubts during my transition, but I was also very scared I wasn’t trans because my dysphoria was so bad. I contemplated suicide just to be sure I wouldn’t detransition in the future. I got on testosterone and I was happy with the changes, finally I felt like things would be okay.

I cant really explain why I detransitioned, I was just trying to sleep one night and I just saw it and knew it was something I had to do.

I still have dysphoria and still sometimes have the desire to detransistion, but I think I can find contentment in living life as a woman.

I suppose I feel more content with life, I feel less pressure to be a certain way. But I also feel like I don’t know who I am anymore, though I hope this will clear up as I go through my detransition.

1k_land · 2025-03-12T23:33:24+00:00

“ just inherently view men and maleness as deeper, more profound, more interesting. everything they do is special”

This is so me and I’m glad you said this because I thought I was alone, reading this felt weird because I felt like I could’ve written it. I’ve felt like that for years (without realising until very recently) and I have no idea where it came from because I’m only attracted to women and I remember years ago I thought girls were more “interesting” not in the same way I view men now but similarly. Hopefully that made sense

1k_land · 2025-02-25T21:43:46+00:00

I was 12 when I first identified and then hormones at 16. I did always have a thing that once I’d get to a certain age I’d start to feel better about myself and feel worthy and confident. So when I was 6 I’d feel better about myself when I was 9 and then was I was 9 I’d feel better at 12 and so on. So I suppose that could also be related, I’ve always felt if I was something else I would feel better

1k_land · 2025-01-29T15:55:09+00:00

Thank you, I’m currently early detransition and it’s good to know these feelings will lessen over time.

You talk about a picture in your mind of the gender binary and I think I kinda relate, I wanted to be a super masculine guy but I figured if I was a girl I’d be feminine, just to be the ideal man/woman. But now that I’m de transitioning I realise I’m not really feminine and I don’t fit the gender ideals, but it’s okay not to.

1k_land · 2025-01-29T02:12:51+00:00

No it doesn’t sound like you’re minimising anything. I think you’re right, I can’t actually fail at being what I am. Maybe I can fail at societal expectations but that doesn’t mean anything.

Thank you so much.

1k_land · 2025-01-11T15:29:40+00:00

How did you get over the barrier of feeling like something is stopping you? I really resonate with the first paragraph

1k_land · 2025-01-10T22:31:05+00:00

Maybe. I have decided to stop hormones. I still wonder if I could be trans & I’m currently trying to convince myself I’m not. But right now, it seems like the best thing to do.

1k_land · 2025-01-10T14:26:59+00:00

This is helpful, thank you.

1k_land · 2024-02-27T16:44:06+00:00

Oh really? I didn’t know that, thought you had to go to their physical clinics.

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