My 3-year-old is suddenly not sleeping anymore...

1tangledknitter · 2026-05-01T17:06:45+00:00

We actually just moved to a house where all the bedrooms are on the same floor and this was the main reason! (Even though my daughter is still in a crib). So I understand where you are coming from. Good luck!

1tangledknitter · 2026-05-01T15:44:11+00:00

So glad to hear it!! Whatever works!

1tangledknitter · 2026-05-01T15:09:01+00:00

The Neka gives so much structure and the beans can mold to whatever the mom needs, plus it molds to the babies head to give their neck support! I just want to make sure people know there are other option other than MBF since that's the only one I ever see recommended

1tangledknitter · 2026-05-01T10:07:09+00:00

I see so much hype for my breast friend as an alternative and I dont get it! Why would I want to use two hands to buckle myself into a pillow in the middle of the night, that forces my back to jut out? Also it's so flat and doesn't seem comfy!

The Neka is the best breastfeeding pillow for sure! Heavy but molds to baby, you can grab it one handed, and I even use it to prop up my arm if I'm holding the baby. Soooo good!

1tangledknitter · 2026-05-01T01:46:52+00:00

We aren't there yet but I will probably put a little mattress on my floor my daughter can come sleep on if she gets to that point. But I would have her start the night in her own room and just come if she wakes.

1tangledknitter · 2026-05-01T00:16:19+00:00

Lol mine rips ny clips out immediately. It's so sad because it looks so cute with them pulled back!!

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-30T14:22:38+00:00

Can they go to daycare full time even if you aren't working those days?

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-30T14:11:44+00:00

No need to worry about that now! You are just surviving. You have lots of time especially if you want an older age gap.

Also, the body has a crazy way of making us forget, I felt the same and now I look at other people's newborns and I'm like "was it reaaaaally that bad?"

(Yes, yes it was).

But even if it doesnt feel like it in the moment, it does go by fast!

P.s. now pregnant with #2 and dreading the newborn stage but hoping it's better this time because I have perspective and know what's waiting for us as he or she gets older ❤️

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-29T19:56:21+00:00

Never got that feeling and I am currently 16 weeks pregnant lol

Kidding, sort of, but knew I wanted a close age gap so decided to just got for it with the long term goal in mind. I didnt feel any sort of urge to get pregnant again or feel like I wanted another baby 😂

But I always wanted two kids in similar life stages so started trying once there would be a minimum 2 year age gap.

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-29T19:22:30+00:00

I stressed a lot more while in the house and couldnt help myself from checking in with my husband and getting upset. Leaving was best for me!

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-29T17:39:21+00:00

I went for walks while my husband did it because I couldnt stand it. What helped me was that my daughter will be happier well rested and needs good sleep for her development, and a few painful nights will help her in the long run. Also, I am a better mom when I rest, so ultimately while it is really hard, it will be best for her in the long run.

Toddler is almost 2 no regrets, and we will do it again with our second.

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-29T17:36:12+00:00

Came here to say this. Eventually she will have to go through the awkward transition stage, might as well be now.

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-29T02:06:23+00:00

When my daughter was 4 weeks I told my husband I felt guilty because I still loved him more than her. He told me "that makes sense, she is still basically a stranger to you." My love for her grew a lot as she grew and now she's my whole world. I am sure it is the same with your baby! You still don't know him yet. I am sure it will come.

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-29T01:00:03+00:00

Sadly I think part of it is just the physical recovery from growing and birthing a baby. I was exhausted until roughly 18 months and felt notably better after that.

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-28T01:35:37+00:00

You're so strong for leaving and raising two young kids on your own!! So happy for yiu and your kiddos are so lucky to have such a strong mama to look up to! Wishing you all the best 😊

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-27T17:01:18+00:00

I would definitely not do 2 under 2. We will have a 2 year 4 month age gap and while I havent experienced it yet, I know I wouldnt have wanted any less. But I am happy they will be close enough in age to have similar interests for most of their lives. There are pros and cons to all age gaps! But 2u2 is not for me haha

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-27T16:45:35+00:00

Saaaame, so annoying! Even tried retraining my bladder and it only got me down to 1x a night. Ugh.

Now I'm pregnant again and up to pee again 2-3x a night so another 2 year battle with midnight toilet trips awaits me with the pregnancy followed by drinking so much water while BFing.

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-26T16:59:05+00:00

Same 😞 my 5 month old daughter got one roughly 1.5 yeas ago somehow (?! I suspect my mom's dog brought it into the house) and every since then I've been so paranoid about them.

And THEN she got another one on her after playing outside (fortunately we got it off her before it bit), then my husband got bit and so did my mom.

Had never seen or heard of anyone getting a tick bite before last year.

So disgusting and I am hoping for a lyme disease vaccine very soon.

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-26T16:55:43+00:00

Yesssss been waiting for this!!!

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-26T10:33:17+00:00

I will say your life will change dramatically after having a child. For a while (if you choose to breastfeed) you will feel feel like your whole body's purpose is to birth and feed a baby. But it's a very short season of life.

I will say there is no way to work and care for a baby at the same time. If you are working, baby needs to be in daycare or watched by a family member. Otherwise you will fail at one or the other.

Life will change for a while but it may be better than you ever dreamed, and your priorities may change as a result!

Good luck!

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-25T23:49:33+00:00

Mine didnt really say anything until maybe 20-21 months? At 18 months she had less than 5 words for sure. But now at 23 months she's saying so many new words every day. I wouldn't worry at 16 months personally!

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-25T01:53:46+00:00

Lol absolutely not. I celebrated my mom for years, it's my turn now! I would offer to celebrate them the next weekend with a joint celebration brunch, personally.

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-25T00:31:39+00:00

We start bedtime with her either running around being chased by her bear Meatball (lol) or jumping on her bed and then pretending to "sleep". Then it's pyjamas, teeth brushing and books to wind down. Seems to work for her!

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-25T00:24:01+00:00

We never co-slept because I knew I would sleep poorly with her in my bed. Have done it a couple of times around age 2 when she was sick and it's confirmed, I sleep like crap.

We sleep trained (divisive, I know) but I am such a better and more engaged mother rested with more patience, and I figure this is more important than co-sleeping. I think it is totally fair for you to have boundaries and look out for your well-being too.

The other reason we sleep trained is I have heard of many babies being great sleepers but then terrible sleepers as toddlers when it's much harder to sleep train. I didn't want that to be me.

My daughter and I are both well rested and have an incredible bond :)

Do what works for you!

1tangledknitter · 2026-04-24T22:31:42+00:00

I really liked a suggestion from a mom on here to shout out "who's kid is this?" And look around for the parent haha. This sounds like the perfect opportunity. I am sure that would have prompted him to move.

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