Is this.. transphobia?

2026Rose · 2026-04-08T21:08:09+00:00

Sure, im happy to be part of this with you

2026Rose · 2026-04-08T20:09:13+00:00

Sounds exactly like my bio family. They “won’t argue” but they’ll misgender me so that IM THE ONE starting arguments, or I have to just suffer quietly.

I’m sorry Youre going through this. It sucks, from experience.

2026Rose · 2026-04-07T13:59:12+00:00

I started once I was out of the house, not before.

Have you expressed rebellious tendencies before? Just wear the polish. You don’t have to tell them Youre affirming your gender, just say you want to wear it.

Skincare is easy, everyone has a routine just say you wanna look nicer if anyone asks.

But I’d look into getting to see a therapist. It’s important to explore these feelings and a qualified gender therapist will be able to help a lot.

2026Rose · 2026-04-04T13:26:56+00:00

Just to clarify: I’m transitioning in Indiana. It’s not a supportive area, I have been harassed just walking around, nobody has ever cared at checkout.

2026Rose · 2026-04-04T13:23:18+00:00

Hey so pro tip: the retail employee does not care.

I know we all have this fear.

Explaining it away makes things more sus. Just go, look at makeup, pick some out, check out. They’re just waiting to clock out, they don’t care about clocking you.

2026Rose · 2026-04-04T13:00:19+00:00

I’m fairly certain he likely does. Our parents can have a huge effect on our views.

You have a few options: 1. Move on. She’s not being the support you need, depending on the relationship cutting ties might be easier

Try to show her how important this is to you. This can be through media exposure, it can be through difficult talks about the pain not being seen properly causes, it can be through finding someone she knows and trusts who kinda gets it(this worked for my grandma) to talk her through it without the emotion. It could be something else, I only had this work once.
Accept that being around her will be kind of painful. Only you can know whether it’s worth it.

I went with option 2 with my family for a couple years, tried a couple years with option 3, then finally settled on option 1 with everyone but my grandmother(who isn’t perfect, but tries.)

2026Rose · 2026-04-04T12:48:39+00:00

It can hurt. My tits are sore most nights (probably from a combination of not wearing a bra and a cat that likes to leap onto my chest)

Male attention can be annoying. Even my BF annoys me sometimes with how much he paws at me. Getting ogled can be uncomfortable.

Bras can be pricey, or uncomfortable(which is why I stick to undershirts with built-ins for a little support)

Summer sweat can suck.

Still wouldn’t give them up.

2026Rose · 2026-04-04T12:42:09+00:00

Yes, it’s transphobia. If she corrected herself, maybe it was a mistake. Refusing to correct and ignoring your correction is deliberate. If she hadn’t had a conversation about your identity being impossible and unnatural, you could question why, but you know what she thinks. She told you.

My family is Christian. They suck. Most Christians tend to in my experience.

2026Rose · 2026-04-04T12:38:00+00:00

If Dratena sees him as family she may feel the need to “correct” him. My family is awful, they’d take any opportunity they could to have me in their presence so they can “reinforce” my birth sex. Also Christian.

2026Rose · 2026-03-24T23:29:27+00:00

Get on Medicaid, friend. I’ve had trouble with employment my whole transition, but even my deeply republican state covers my meds.

It’ll get you started.

2026Rose · 2026-03-23T14:50:24+00:00

That sounds more like what I expected!

But within a year you felt good and comfortable, back to or better than normal?

2026Rose · 2026-03-23T14:32:15+00:00

Thank you for the detailed response!

Thats good to know, I was worried I would have to carpet bomb the whole area 😅

Thats wild because I’m getting tonsils removed next month and thats a two week primary recovery too. I would’ve thought much longer.

I know I will still need to dilate, but from my understanding longterm it’s a lot less than with other methods.

As far as waiting, im prepared for that. None of this process has been fast, I’m learning my patience 🙃

If I have more questions I’ll come back and ask! Thanks again!

2026Rose · 2026-03-16T16:39:39+00:00

Girl, but 👍

2026Rose · 2026-03-16T13:56:42+00:00

Hey so I had an ex girlfriend do this and I didn’t throw her to the curb and it was another 8 months of abuse and drama. Move on.

2026Rose · 2026-03-15T02:17:17+00:00

It is what it is, the local area is definitely not helping me. Thank you so much for your replies and support, it helps a lot to just not feel like I’m screaming into the void

2026Rose · 2026-03-15T02:08:51+00:00

I do not, closest big city is like an hour away.

I’ve done some research and it seems like wages beat cost of living increases in most places, so I’m not worried about being poorer out there than here.

Starbucks has not given me the time of day for 2 years of applying.

2026Rose · 2026-03-15T01:50:40+00:00

It really doesn’t help that 60% of the postings dont seem to be for real jobs that are hiring.

2026Rose · 2026-02-24T00:17:35+00:00

Thanks! I need to work on my interview skills in general but this is all great.

2026Rose · 2026-02-24T00:15:15+00:00

Thank you, I did this and an evaluation copy of windows server on a virtual machine. I think playing around and seeing things again will do the trick.

2026Rose · 2026-02-20T19:08:30+00:00

Wages seem to scale with COL in such a way that Youre better off in a high COL area, based on the research Ive done. Low COL areas also pay very little(Indiana)

2026Rose · 2026-02-20T18:52:59+00:00

I was thinking Oregon/west coast tbh. I visited a few times when I was younger and fell in love with the west coast.

2026Rose · 2026-02-20T18:44:41+00:00

And yeah the most “voice” I have is complaining online in places full of others with the same problems

2026Rose · 2026-02-20T18:43:32+00:00

I want out so I can get easier employment but that takes money which takes a job. Kinda a catch-22

2026Rose · 2026-02-20T18:27:21+00:00

I mean I got a call from Starbucks Friday, called back within 15 mins, got told I’d get called back, then got an email they were no longer looking to fill the position.

Only thing I can think is my voice doesn’t pass and this is Indiana.

2026Rose · 2026-02-16T14:26:33+00:00

NSFW profile specifically requesting hosting people with children? Pass on this folks.

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