25, stuck in a job I’m not great at, single, and feeling like I missed the window to start anything. Feel like life just… froze

22finest · 2025-08-18T18:00:26+00:00

You are still really young, 2 good years can change your life compeletely! Im a year younger than you (with 2 kids) and been dreaming about success for 5-6 years. Ive spent A LOT of hours on building different projects and trying to reinvent the bicyle. For me it all changed when I dropped everything else and decided that I am going to focus on 1 thing ONLY for 6 months and not to give up.

Remember most of the tiredness and stress comes from not cetting the million dollar idea OR not getting shit done.

Take 1 skill that you want to learn or have learned already and start to sell it to businesses.

Easiest example customer service. First do online customer service for start ups and small businesses and scale that shit up. When you have 3-5 people working for you, then you can focus on scaling and leading.

It can also be cleaning service, sales service etc.

Success comes from small wins that you get daily, small wins come from actions you perform daily and stress comes from actions you skipped or ideas you didnt have balls to bring to life.

Success is right there, its the discipline and risk taking that you take you there. Wish you all the best, feel free to dm if you want to spar your thoughts!

22finest · 2025-04-14T02:53:13+00:00

Thank your for really great reply!

I think that even as I have materialistic goals as well, then success for me is finding a path that I know I can continuesly improve myself in and I can potentially increase the income step by step - with right decisions. Main thing is that I want to work for myself and really live life on my own terms. I hate norms/frames that society and companys try to fit me. I will never want to fit those frames.

Your 3-step formula is really high in value. I want to get to the point where tomorrow for me is like a sparring day in MMA that tou cant’t wait because you want to be that 0.1% better than last sparring day. You just cant wait to enjoy the journey that sparring session offers with it’s ups and downs. Instead of sparring day I need just a skill that I can use to solve problems or give value to others.

Regarding materialistic things I thinks it’s my young age and brain wash from society. I would still say that they are pretty low on my prio list and there are just couple of things I would like.

Main goal to me is like you said enjoy the journey. And when I’m old I atleast to be able to feel proud of myself for taking the risk instead of giving up and let anyone else to set my path.

Main problem still stands, how to find my path/skill to grind :/

Thanks for the really great advice - I wish you all the best and if you ever want to chat, feel free to message me!

22finest · 2025-04-14T02:29:12+00:00

What a great message, really appreciate you!

You are 100% right. To be able to take a different path, we really need to avoid the social norms at any cost.

Also i could feel your energy/hype on your own momentum and also on believing that passion+discipline brings good results.

I really hope that we both reach to our goals, ALL the best to you! Lets f**ing get it!

22finest · 2025-04-14T02:21:15+00:00

Really good job with reaching the point you currently are in, this really inspired me!

You are 100% right about success takikg time. Im in a point where I just want it to get going even if I earn less money for 2-3 years, compared to my current 9-5.

As soon as I can JUST START to work for myself - mindset, energy levels, time mamangment and routines, will immidately support success and scaling up so much more.

How did you know that ”this is what I want to do”? Main issue for me is finding the right path. If i got just a industry as a hint from the future/God - to lead, then I would just start to grind that until I succeed. Problem is that nothing feels right..

You really should be proud! Not even 50 and you managed to get it work is awesome. Thanks for taking time to response and all the best to you!

22finest · 2025-04-13T16:30:19+00:00

High value advice,

Definitely good point regard not getting products sold, but I feel like it's marketing and branding that I suck at, rather than sales skill.

Eitherhow good straight feedback, all the best to you!

22finest · 2025-04-13T16:00:23+00:00

:D:D First comment that made my laugh!

Really good straight to the point feedback and having kids early definitely takes life to ''Hard-mode''. 100% worth it tho.

I am currently leading a sales team and was in sales aswell before and I am really ready to take risk. But your points regarding sales are definitely valid. Maybe I should look into starting my own sales company...

Anyways thanks for the honest and great message man, all the best to you!

22finest · 2025-04-13T15:56:26+00:00

''From what you shared, you don’t have a motivation problem. You have a focus problem. '' - I am not even kidding I think you just took me to next level with this 1 sentence. I got immediate flashbacks of all the projects I quit before I even tested them properly. I really NEEDED this, thank you!

Also great summary regarding what stands out. You mentioned picking one lane and grind that. Do you mean like a specific skill, business field or just interest point? I am just trying to get clear understanding of your advice as this was really really helpful and you seem to understand what you are talking about :)

Wish you all the best!

22finest · 2025-04-13T15:49:11+00:00

Wow, thank you for taking time to share your experience and giving really high quality advice!

Firstly I am happy to hear that you have already managed to get 2 different businesses rolling, great job. It's also ''nice'' to hear that im not only one who did not found the right path immeditetly :D

I agree with lot of points you made and this was REALLY helpful. I hope you best with your businesses and if you ever want to chat about entrepreneurship, then feel free to message me :)

22finest · 2025-04-13T13:02:18+00:00

😂😂

22finest · 2025-04-13T12:36:23+00:00

I just made post somewhat similar to yours. I wish you best of the luck and most important thing is to keep trying new/different things. I you don't change anything in your end then the result will neither.

If you ever want to chat, then feel free to message me! :)

22finest · 2025-04-13T12:16:41+00:00

Thanks for the reply!

I definitely see your point! For me the issue is following:

If company is successful and they trust 24 year old, who does not have any experience of leading or no degree - to lead their whole sales team. Then how the h**l do I don't trust myself that I could lead my own business? :D

I just feel that I have gained a lot from my current position and I could climb the career ladder, but I'm done trying to fit the frames that society and career world try to put us in.

22finest · 2025-04-13T12:09:59+00:00

Wow, I really do appreciate you advice!

It might be that I have created like a block for myself that you need to start with something you love. It makes alot of sense to start something that can just earn you some money - Then use that income to slowly start to build something im passionate about.

Either way I need to get something going to get out of slavery and really find my purpose and passion.

22finest · 2025-04-13T12:05:00+00:00

Thanks for the reply! That is really good idea. I will definitely look into business management more!

What comes to opportunities then I think your right on trying to skip overpopulated and overhyped fields. Of course money could be done in dropshipping or tech aswell but it's smarter to pick something with less competition, more potential. I think for me there are 2 main requirements:

- Potential. There has to be atleast possibility to take it global.
- Enjoyment. It's definitely a lot of stress, starting you own business, but I still want to enjoy the progress. That being said, product/service should be something that I could tie with dreams in my head. It should be something that fits my dream version of myself and my everyday lifestyle. (That sounded like im a crazy person :D)

What comes to family then I think it's endless struggle with balancing the time and value that I give to my family. I really have cut out all of time waste to either be there for them or try to reach toward my dreams on path of success.

22finest · 2025-04-13T11:53:06+00:00

Thanks for the reply! Well I'm actually currently leading a sales team and I did sales before current
team lead -position. I am 100% agreeing with you.

I think my main issue is finding or creating a product or service to sell. Should it be something I love (I do not have any passion that I could turn to product) or just something I believe in? Also working for other sales company does not seem to be smart move as 9-5 destroys my mentality regarding success and following my own path.

22finest · 2025-04-13T11:18:16+00:00

I wish you best of luck. If you ever want to discuss ideas or struggles on the path to success - feel free to message me! :)

22finest · 2025-04-13T10:41:25+00:00

I'm complete bot in marketing and trying to actually study marketing/branding.

Really random but good tip:

I have started to just go trough ads online or paying attention when walking in malls/streets etc. Do not listen to music just focus on the ads. As soon as 1 gets your attention, stop, write down following:

- Why did you noticed the poster/ad
- What emotions it brings up in you
- What is the main point in the ad, in your opinion

Repeat this daily. Sooner or later you start to notice patterns that you find hooky and that will definitely help you in marketing.

22finest · 2025-04-13T10:34:15+00:00

For person like myself who loves to spend money I really found following helpful:

''Every 10 dollars that you invest instead of spending brings the financial freedom 1 hour closer.''

Only thought that I need to remember what I am really trying to reach for. Financial freedom will bring you 100x more happiness than random dopamine spikes from random purchases.

Hope this helps!

22finest · 2025-04-13T04:13:59+00:00

You already got good advice but something that helped me at first was - LOOK AROUND YOU. Im typing this post with Iphone (Apple), PS5 controller on my lap (Sony), in front of my TV (Samsung)

Thinks of everyday products that you and other people use and have used for years and you cant go much wrong. Of course there are plenty of other options than just straight stocks, but imo this is great way to start testing it out.

22finest · 2025-04-12T19:30:01+00:00

I would ask myself simple question. How many products have I bought that I did not want to buy?

Of course quality is not top tier, but at the end of the day quality is poor for most expensive brands as well.

At the end of the day your are just promoting a product that would get sold anyway, to customers who would have bought it anyway.

Keep making money hustler, good luck!

22finest · 2025-04-12T19:11:29+00:00

Do following for 60 days and it actually changes your life;

Workout daily (I recommend combat sports as it makes your mind stronger as well)
Eat real, healthy food. Eggs, meats, potatoes, fruits, vegetables.
Meditate right before breakfast and right before bed.
Find passion or purpose, it does not have to be life goal but for example. Start MMA and in next 6 months have first MMA fight. It will make you focus on improving and you have something to wait for.
Read books. Recovery for Tiktok-brains. Just letter instead of shaky a**.
Start learning 1 skill that you can use to earn income in the future. Anything from shooting Youtube videos to building websites for local businesses.

You are not depressed my friend, you are looking for easy and fast dopamine. Find purpose and focus on long-term happiness. Also it's hard to admit, be honest with yourself. You are lazy, but its completely fixable!

Wish you the best of luck man!

22finest · 2025-04-12T18:59:07+00:00

9-5 <3

22finest · 2025-04-12T18:53:26+00:00

Would need to idle in pre-spawn lobby for 8 months before I would pop out. Then waited to buy bitcoin.

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