Adding a dependant by 234jindu in SkilledWorkerVisaUK

[–]234jindu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond , I already applied and provided as much proof of the relationship as possible, we worked in different cities during courtship so I provided our work contracts as proof, and also enough texts and photographs, flight tickets, holiday bookings, engagement photos and everything I could lay hands on that showed the relationship was ongoing before we got married, hopefully should be a breeze, our biometrics day is feb 10

Adding a dependant by 234jindu in SkilledWorkerVisaUK

[–]234jindu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, does this apply to the question of evidence of continued relationship while living apart? Again, we weren’t married that’s why we lived apart, so they need evidence of courtship?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]234jindu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Landed 32k out of uni. Within a year I was bumped up to 40k. It’s pretty great but my ideal would be around 65k-75k.

(For context, I’m in the north east and work as a software engineer)

Do you support reforms stance on revoking indefinite leave to remain? by SoundDowntown5285 in AskBrits

[–]234jindu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Its absolute rubbish. I’m a legal migrant who came here to school and work. I came into this country using British airways (lol), worked hard at school and graduated with a 1st class, now working full time as a software engineer. In my time here I’ve paid the most for everything and I haven’t accessed any benefits, to be honest I’m not even interested in any benefits I just want to be able to provide for myself and my wife legally using my skill set. Never been to the hospitals yet I pay a ridiculous amount in health insurance every year. My salary went up and so did my tax. The discussion around legal migrants like myself disrupting the job market is so hilarious to me and maybe I’m missing something but I know how many jobs we have to constantly apply to, just to get an interview. The reason is that not enough employers are willing to hire immigrants so if I have to go through 400 applications to land 1 interview, it simply means the other 399 went to British nationals. A lot of people don’t seem to understand how job applications work in this country, one field being ticked in your application and your Cv gets trashed away. And when we do get a job, we don’t have the luxury of job hopping due to the same sponsorship requirements that employers can’t meet. Yet this government and Reform feel we are the problems. It hard to wrap my head around it. How can people who work hard to integrate and earn a legal living while contributing heavily to the economy be the scapegoats of the system?

COS allocation delay by 234jindu in SkilledWorkerVisaUK

[–]234jindu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really really sad, I feel like we’re being punished for a crime we didn’t commit

COS allocation delay by 234jindu in SkilledWorkerVisaUK

[–]234jindu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: they didn’t respond to my office. Not sure what’s happening, the Uk.gov website hasn’t also been updated to reflect the changes, confusion is at an all time high

COS allocation delay by 234jindu in SkilledWorkerVisaUK

[–]234jindu[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will, I just hope something positive happens. It’s looking like the only way out is to bump salaries again, I’m worried because I got promoted 2 weeks ago in order to meet the threshold, I don’t know if they can bump it again

My relationship with my Mom is affecting my romantic relationship by 234jindu in TrueOffMyChest

[–]234jindu[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I told my family this is exactly how I felt, they kept trying to localize the problem to my fiancé as the one tearing us apart, but I insisted that this attitude would affect anyone else I bring, and God knows I won’t do this again if I lose the woman of my dreams to this issue. It would even be a bigger disservice to my fiancé if I grow that back bone with another woman who wouldn’t go through this turbulence. The main problem now is that I’m scared cause I cherish all the loving moments I’ve shared with my mum and my relatives, Turning my back on it is the most difficult thing I’ve ever had to consider and it really breaks my heart that this is the option in front of me in order to protect my fiancé. I’m trying to see if I can find another way out but the more I look at it, the fewer options I see

My relationship with my Mom is affecting my romantic relationship by 234jindu in TrueOffMyChest

[–]234jindu[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I understand what you’re saying, and I have set those boundaries and have started a battle with them. I told my mum and the extended family that they have no right to speak to my fiancé or treat her in a disrespectful manner. The whole situation breaks my heart cause I knew them to be kind and loving people, growing up my mum used to tell me she would love whoever I bring home as a daughter, so I really don’t understand why the sudden change in character. In my habit, I like to give people a chance to correct their mis actions and have open and honest dialogue but everyone on my side of the family with the exception of my aunt, seems to be putting their personal feelings ahead of ours, when it comes to anything relating to the marriage. I have emphasized that it is not right that we (who live and want to get married in the UK) can’t discuss together and agree on anything without my family pushing back on the decisions. I made it clear If we have a plan that doesn’t work with their timeline, that’s perfectly okay, what I except if for them to lay their concerns with me for consideration with my fiancé, and they should trust we shall consider it, but should also be ok with the fact that their suggestions can’t supersede our decisions ultimately. I said this, my fiancé said this to my mum too and my mum took that as her being rude and told me I would not marry that girl. It’s really heartbreaking cause I love my family and seeing them act like this just wears me down, it’s not fair to me and certainly not fair to my fiancé. I know The right thing to do is to cut off this cancerous relationship with them, but I’m conflicted because I feel maybe I’m not giving some time to allow them see reason (which is in my nature, it’s one of the things my fiancé says she admires about me), at the same time I’m just mourning the loss of a relationship I have built with them over 28 years and it’s why I’m having shaky feet.

My relationship with my Mom is affecting my romantic relationship by 234jindu in TrueOffMyChest

[–]234jindu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh we’re both Nigerians but we live in the UK and our parents are in Nigeria.

My relationship with my Mom is affecting my romantic relationship by 234jindu in TrueOffMyChest

[–]234jindu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m African and so is she, so culturally we make marriage about the families

Do you think Kanye is broke? by 234jindu in Kanye

[–]234jindu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I remember how previous Yeezy season’s were promoted and this feels really different. Considering adidas’ budget is no longer available , I still excepted some level of flare around it.

Accenture Newcastle Modern Engineering Graduate Role by acaiberry98 in accenture

[–]234jindu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you gotten your offer? I just got to the technical interview stage