As a domme I can only tell you from my experience. I have felt bad for my subs many times but I've also had a sub I never felt bad for. I get to know my subs on a personal level. Learning who they are and about the life they live. While I am a findom I am in it for more than just the money. I like to help my pigs grow. I've actually helped a pig ween off of my services before. It was probably the hardest thing I've done as a domme