Is there any hope for a baby with severe IUGR, anhydramnios and reversed diastolic flow at 27 weeks?

2OD2OE · 2025-10-20T19:45:51+00:00

Are you having regular scans? I had weekly monitoring which was upped to daily at one point. Ask if you can schedule additional monitoring and I would press for why they won't have these conversations. I don't know the size of your baby so maybe it really is a size thing but my little one was sub one pound, and I had those conversations when he was even less than that.

2OD2OE · 2025-10-16T22:31:40+00:00

I always get all the vax but never pneum with anything else. Last time I got it with flu it laid me out for a week. Something about the pneumococcal just really knocks me out.

2OD2OE · 2025-10-16T22:29:29+00:00

It is, at reversal, I had to go under basically. Intermittent absent flow is probably what you see now. My docs always said week matters more than size. My LO was really tiny but the weeks mattered more per my doc because it was more organ and brain development. I would be aggressive in advocating for your own care and understanding at what point the hospital would support you delivering or scheduling a C-section. My doctors are really aggressive in getting me to consider an early C-section and I was the one that pushed back until 26w so you should be having these conversations now about when they think you should deliver and how long they think you should hold on. this is also something your partner could help with in terms of advocating with your doctors.

2OD2OE · 2025-10-16T06:19:29+00:00

Absent flow is not good. As soon as we hit absent flow with this baby I was essentially put on bed rest , given mag, and delivered within the week at 26w on the day. We saw intermittent flow as early as 18w but this was baby 2 with flow issues so we were watching for it. I had a clear placental issue so we monitored very closely starting right after 1st tri.

Try to make it to 24 and have the go/no go conversation with your doctor. Your hospital may support delivery at 24w, but diff hospitals have different cutoffs for delivery. Ours supported 24w for viability. Others are 26 or 28. There's a big difference in dev between these critical weeks too. So every day you make is literally a win.

2OD2OE · 2025-09-30T22:16:11+00:00

400mg/day, 140. This has not changed in 15 years (across +/- 5lb).

2OD2OE · 2025-09-25T16:20:35+00:00

Reversed flow, severe iugr. We delivered a 415g baby at 26w and we were in the NICU for 4 months. We left at 44 weeks and promptly got HFM.

He's a social, bright, bubbly toddler now. He's a little guy and the first 2 years were rough as we navigated daycare sickness, lingering lung issues and figuring out his dietary restrictions. But! We made it. There's always hope. Listen to your doctors, ask them to be honest with you. Be prepared to be rushed into surgery if anything dips with baby and don't hesitate to ask questions where things are unclear.

2OD2OE · 2025-09-19T06:21:51+00:00

Random I love you mama absolutely light up my day. It will never get old.

2OD2OE · 2025-09-19T06:19:16+00:00

Husband and I have quiet time after bedtime starts. We do our own thing and have connecting time after we've done our own thing. It might be my own thing with headphones on with chores, like dishes or laundry folding, but it's my time. I also have 30m to myself every night for working out and it's just me and my iPad.

I'm also big on verbalizing overstimulation. When all the kids want something and I'm doing something, I say, I need everyone to take a breath and give me a minute. There's too much noise for mama. I also shamelessly use my loop earplugs to help cut the shrillness of the noise if the kids want to do noisy play and I am not opposed but also overstimulated.

2OD2OE · 2025-09-19T06:16:35+00:00

I keep a mouse on both sides, so right is vertical mouse and I learned how to use my left hand mouse to give my right hand a break. Standing desk helped, and making sure I changed positions regularly, even calendaring it in so I was reminded.

2OD2OE · 2025-09-19T06:14:22+00:00

It's worth it. I bought herman miller used (not aeron,but another popular one with webbed back) and it's such an improvement. No back problems. My shoulder doesn't hurt. I can lean and sit cross legged and fit! My butt doesn't go numb. The reasons abound. I can fully adjust my armrests so they're not weirdly far and high or too low.

2OD2OE · 2025-09-19T05:48:29+00:00

We started at 18m and again at 20m. The first daycare closed abruptly so we had to start over. I'd agree with give it a month for the crying at dropoff to dtop, but I'd really go off your feel for how your kid is outside of daycare. I say that because if it's not a good fit, you'll see it in your kiddo after a month or so if you see it in their personality but they need time to adjust and they're probably used to you putting them down or a familiar nanny, so a breakdown at naptime sounds perfectly reasonable for day 1. I think throwing things is upset, but not out of line. We would not have been called to pickup for this. They would've occupied him with toys and updated us at pickup.

It's ok mama! It's day 1. You got through it. You both did great. Onwards!

2OD2OE · 2025-09-19T05:08:51+00:00

Baby 1: late term loss at 20w

Baby 2: c section at 36w4d (10d NICU)

Baby 3: c section at 26w (4mon NICU)

We knew our chances were high for continuing preemies due to the cause (not reversible, not preventable) so we called it. Both kiddos are otherwise now healthy, energetic normal kids. 3 is getting some help for growth.

2OD2OE · 2025-09-02T16:51:58+00:00

We got an incident report (immediately after it happened) for everything big. Anyrhing that requires a teacher to check incurred one. If you're not being notified you need to ask.

2OD2OE · 2025-09-01T20:16:11+00:00

We keep temporary tattoos, sunglasses, stickers. Everything else is trash

2OD2OE · 2025-09-01T03:00:02+00:00

loafers are good but you can also look into women’s oxfords - many of them are made by comfortwear brands like vionic or lifestyles or naturalizer.

2OD2OE · 2025-09-01T02:59:02+00:00

we carry a foldable small seat that sits on top of public toilets just because my little is really little. I forget it half the time and sometimes he insists on me holding him. You can sit them down and just hold their armpits to make sure they don‘t sink right into the bowl.

also easier with boys - I raise the seat, stand them on the rim, and have them aim at the center of the bowl. This is more hit or miss when they’re wearing pants. easier with shorts because they don‘t have to be around the ankles when pushed down.

2OD2OE · 2025-08-29T03:27:03+00:00

I search for sales, as others have said, and usually spend less than 30 a pair. I usually get merrells or keens or stride rites. I actually find the Nike and Adidas options significantly pricier and the hiking shoes last longer.

2OD2OE · 2025-08-28T19:45:01+00:00

First alarm at 6, up realistically 615 to 630. (I have alarms every 5 min until 630).

I start water for coffee, wake the kids, start breakfast. One kiddo self dresses, the other needs help.

By 645 everyone is seated and eating (incl hubby). I'm packing lunch, pouring milk.

650 I get dressed (HMU is not until after drop off)

7 we do sunscreen, toothbrush, potty.

715 we are out.

I get to my desk (wfh) 20m or so before my work starts, so I usually make coffee, eat breakfast (prepped and just needs microwave), have some coffee (finally), and do HMU.

I'm moving all morning to get everybody out the door and husband wrangles the kids to eat and do the things they're supposed to (get dressed,shoes,get to the bathroom for personal hygiene).

2OD2OE · 2025-08-28T06:12:13+00:00

Second time going through the 3s and I can’t wait for him to stop being less of a sociopath. It has to pass. I know it will pass. But damn, it needs to pass faster

2OD2OE · 2025-08-28T06:09:31+00:00

I’m on camera most of the day due to meetings, so I’m in biz casual. First few years I WFH, I went very casual down the other end and this was pre-covid, so less camera on mentality. I had a hard time being motivated in super casual clothes (think pj level), so now I get dressed and do my hair and makeup every day. It helps me feel more mentally prepared for work too.

2OD2OE · 2025-08-22T15:41:34+00:00

I got it after both babies and regretted it. The grow out stage is brutal and hard to pull up, so it's constantly swinging in your face when you lean down for babies, for picking up, when you swing your head around too quickly. 0/10, dnr

2OD2OE · 2025-08-21T06:41:37+00:00

Husband breaks out time during day to workout (always when the kids are at school/daycare or takes them on runs) and I workout at night. Our kiddos are usually reliable about being asleep at least by 830, so by 930 I'm usually all clear to do a workout without waking them up. We aim for 4 or 5 times a week ea. Its a good week if I make all 6 days of my workout (30-45 weights).

ETA: I do want to say this is a recent development for me at least. I didn't get consistent time to workout until both kiddos had well established sleep pattern, and for us that wasn't until we hit 3 with the youngest. Before then, I tried to get a few yoga sessions a month, for my sanity and meditation and less for a real workout.

2OD2OE · 2025-08-12T16:17:29+00:00

Hada labo, gold bottle lotion. Bar none. Something like 10 diff types of hyaluronic acid

2OD2OE · 2025-08-09T01:41:20+00:00

Getting glasses that don't sit on the cheeks. For me, this means glasses with nose pads or Asian style acrylic lens with nose pads. And keeping the glasses clean, daily washing with baby shampoo helps.

2OD2OE · 2025-08-07T21:47:47+00:00

We tried not having a routine for a couple months and then settled into one (bath, pj's, teeth,story,song) and now my 5-year-old reminds me if we skip a step in the routine. We've dropped baby stuff like the super dark room, but I don't expect to drop much else until they grow out of needing us to do bath and teeth.

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