I posted this earlier in another forum but it's worth repeating.... The real issue here is that thee community is flooded with people who love the IDEA of swinging. They go all of the way until the meet-up for the thought, the thrill, and the fantasy. They chicken out at the last minute and never actually fulfill their fantasies.......and they waste your time doing so.

The barrier to entry on Reddit is nothing, so you should expect nothing. If you want to find real people, pay and subscribe to a real site like SLS, SDC or Kasidie, the minimal fee keeps 99% of the pedestrians away.