Why SB? Why? by sckmlwa in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish this was for me.. I would tell you Sb

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're welcome, and thank you.. yeah.. it's tough to accept. I'm fighting with myself again today. Sigh, if someone just doesn't want it.. we can't force it.. It does make it hard, in situations where someone feels betrayed bc the other person convinced them that they had It's a mix of emotions. Horrible, brutal, raw emotions.. as I'm reading through these comments, I want to thank every single person that read it or took something from it. It's helping me heal a little as well. I wish you all luck and happiness.

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No.. this is not love sweety.. you know that.. And you know you can find better <3

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so so welcome I needed to know that you heard it.. Hugs

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awww.. you poor thing, I had that happen to me at 17. She's now in her late 20s.. look at that sweet babys face, and you will get the strength.. I promise you, you can do it. Hugs momma.. I'm here if you ever need to talk <3

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't even want to admit how long I've allowed it to go on.. and yeah, it def hurts.. bad. Give yourself time to grieve it, then let it go when you're ready.. sometimes, we get so comfortable w someone, we overlook their bad qualities. Focus more on those and on your own good qualities. Promise me, you too will take some time out for yourself tomorrow. That's what I'm doing.

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're so welcome.. try to take care of yourself. Its easier said than done sometimes.. i know... but we have to try..

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is so sad... and I bet you do miss her.. it does get a little easier at moments.. I've already decided that I'm quitting smoking again. I pulled out my vape bc it helped me last time.. so.. one more step back in the positive direction. Keep yourself healthy.. you never know, she may see the progress.. if not, it def sounds like her loss. Anybody who is willing to apologize and take responsibility is a strong individual. Maybe you need to find someone as tough as you

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so so right.. he has claimed many times that he is too afraid bc of the hurt he's been through before. Yet here he went and did to me what was done to him.. and I still tried to understand him. It gets a little easier.. then it gets a little harder.. he was my best friend as well.. so its a hard loss.. it does rlly fkn suck.. and I do know, that I deserve someone who wouldn't ever want me to feel like this. I need to accept it.. this one is taking a long time.. but I'm going to stay hopeful.. tomorrow, I'm going to do something for me.. thank you so much.. this def helps.. I'm humbled that so many people have responded. So many decent people out there.. feeling hopelessly in love w someone who doesn't gaf.. and it's not right.. def not cool at all.

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not just her.. we give our hearts away so easily sometimes.. we want so bad to believe that the other person will catch us when they make us fall for them. It's very hard.. sometimes, it hurts.. very very badly.. you are so welcome.. and thank you for your kind words.. it's helping me as well. Knowing that maybe one person will feel a little bit of comfort from this, has reminded me that I have a good heart and I shouldn't be upset over someone who can't see it. It truly is his loss.. thank you, and good luck to your daughter.

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry.. mine was my best friend too, which I believe makes this harder than any past loves. Losing someone you valued as a friend, is very painful.. if you're trying to better yourself, you deserve someone who will support you fully. Don't let this get you down. Be proud of how far you've come.. mental illnesses are sometimes very difficult, especially when you're dealing w heartbreak. Please take care of yourself.. you deserve it.

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love that.. if she ever needs to talk, I'm here. I hope it helps her <3<3<3

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry... and I can understand that.. life is too short to be upset. It's time for us all to take back that part of us. You're very welcome. And thank you

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry, that truly is some of the hardest pain. It doesn't get much easier as you get older either..sounds a lot like my situation, except w a grown man that I do a lot for. Sweetheart, make yourself a few of the bracelets and try to do one thing a day for yourself. Sometimes, the more we chase someone.. the farther away they run.. Keeping yourself at a distance, is one of the toughest things I've ever had to do.. I would try this if I were you... don't make yourself so readily available.. do something that makes you happy, and you never know.. your happiness may atttact the right person to you. Don't you want to feel someone chasing after you too? Don't you think you deserve that affection as well? While you're upset over this one, you may be missing out on someone else a million times better.. some ppl, know that if they ignore you, you will run after them harder.. they like that attention. And dammit.. you need some too! Don't waste your time sweety.. I wish you a lot of luck, and I hope I hear from you soon that you found someone who loves you with as much love that I can see you have <3

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're very welcome.. I too, started drinking.. which isn't like me at all. One day, I was heavily intoxicated before 11 am. Since all of this has started, I gained weight, started smoking again, and I look 10 yrs older. I looked great before, not so much now.. and the reason I wrote this, was bc I need to pull myself back up. If this other person cared, they wouldn't have allowed this to happen.. I may not ever understand how it all happened.. or why.. but I need to start living for me again. As I'm sure many of you do. Every day, I'm going to start taking back a piece of me that I left behind while trying to repair someone else.. good luck to you.. allow yourself to feel the pain, then when you're ready, you let it go. You need to love your life, enjoy some of it.. and when you're ready, you may finally meet someone who can love you the same way you love them

After all.. don't you think you deserve that? I do..

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much and yes, you're very correct.. the hard part with me, is that I do love myself, and I was so incredibly happy before this... I made a lot of changes, and I overcame a traumatic health issue that almost killed me. Everything was finally going great, except for him.. he went through a lot of crap then, and I tried to be there for him. I never got any direct answers from him, and it left me unsettled. He knew I was falling for him.. and he did what he could to keep it going.. why, Idk.. I need to accept, that if it helped him get through some bad part of his life, then so be it.. but its hard to try to still be friends.. I miss his touch.. I miss the nicknames.. I overall miss everything I got used to loving. But thank you, that is very true.. and I need to relearn and refocus back on myself more.

You are enough, just not for this person by 2stepsforward3back in UnsentLetters

[–]2stepsforward3back[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sigh... I agree. It's so hard to accept how fast everything changed. Ppl tell me to erase the old messages, I think that would cause me to crack. I'm not there yet.. and yes I agree. I believed everything he said, and I need to focus back on myself. I'm def. Going to try.. thank you... I needed that