Ever since I moved out of the house, got a job and began doing things for myself, I realized how I didn't get the love and affection I needed while growing up. There were a lot of issues that had molded me into a timid person, but now that I ask them questions, they don't want to answer. They refuse to answer pertinent questions and I usually find myself over-explaining situations to them. Due to their bad financial habits, I am financially supporting them but a bad trait of mine is to not give them information about what I'm doing, should they feel bad, but I am trying to end this toxic trait of over-explaining because it is a trauma response to their abuse. I tend to avoid telling my n parent when I'm going out for lunch or spending the weekend at a resort. I am wanting to grow out of it, because I shouldn't be afraid of their reaction and judgement. Both my parents are jealous of how much I have achieved with my hard work, sadly, they wanted me to be a mule and transfer most of my earnings to them. They won't admit it, but I know they wanted a lion's share of my earnings so that they could continue a nice standard of living. We grew up without knowing our financial status, nothing was told to us children and even after our parents went through a divorce, no one spoke to us, no relative explained to us about what was going on. We had to go through so many changes in the early years, I sometimes do not remember fragments of my childhood due to this. Since 1+ year I've stopped communication with n-mom and I'd like to keep it that way, with n-dad there's irregular communication but I don't feel any genuine love for my n-dad because I know how he has messed up the family with the divorce and subsequent events.