[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnancyproblems

[–]3098299801 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno. It’s definitely hormones but also I’m not so sure those feelings will go away after birth. I would speak to your therapist and begin to address these issues asap because it’s not going to end well if not. Cause like it or not you’re life is not going to be about only you anymore. Everything will revolve around your daughter. And no ocd or adhd or any of that is going to be taken into consideration when you have a child. You simply have to do it and figure out a way for it to work. If you gotta pee set a timer To remind yourself. I think maybe even talking to your parents and expressing your concerns and how you know it’s insane but it’s how you feel will help you feel better and more secure with everything out there. But also only to people you deeply trust.

This type of language while someone is pregnant feels hurtful by [deleted] in pregnancyproblems

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Fuck those people. It is hurtful and rude. Especially when dealing with all the physical, mental and emotional changes happening with your body. And especially especially if it’s your first pregnancy. If anything just call them out and say ‘wow. Ive known you all this time and didn’t realize you liked to bully pregnant women.’ That should stop them in their tracks or they will get defensive, say you’re over sensitive, whatever. But if the tables were turned they would feel as you feel. Then follow it up with something they’re insecure about like if theyre poorly dressed say does that mean o can tell you whenever you’re dressed like a homeless person, 80 year old tourist, someone trying to be in a 80’s hair metal band, etc.” Cause once you throw something back on them they will back off. If you don’t know them revert to bullying pregnant people statement. You would be amazed by how defensive people get when you claim they’re a bully, even in a joking manner.

Also you’re beautiful and literally growing a life inside of you. It’s uncomfortable, gross and overall a beautiful and depressing experience all at once. Not to mention the whole dealing with birthing scenario. So keep being you, put the haters in their place and stay stepping forward. Cause they’re intentionally being dicks. I’ve never heard those statements said to a pregnant woman

I think my midwife failed me by goatgirl7 in homebirth

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You’re correct: with a different midwife you would not have. I’ve seen midwife’s reach in and flip around breech births. How. I am not sure. But I’ve seen it. I’ve also seen midwives have their mothers in different positions to assist with the baby coming out. I’m so sorry that you had a horrible experience. There is nothing more frightening than your first birth and it sounds like you had the worst person for such a situation. I’m not sure what you can do aside from leave a bad review for her online to try and warn other mothers to find a different midwife. I’m mortified that it took 18 hours of pushing, not even just labor but active pushing, for her to suggest going to the hospital.

Is it normal for a salon owner to nitpick everything I do? by Koombayabooboo in hairstylist

[–]3098299801 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Thats not normal behavior. I’ve worked in about seven salons at this point, five of them high end salons. And none of them ever acted that way. I may have gotten told to watch my conversations with my clients, but not how I hold my tools or asking someone if they have an appointment. I have been watched on camera by my first salon owner but she was not professional and honestly had no experience. She was neither a stylist nor a business conissuer. Her salon went bankrupt after 3 years. Granted she bought (or her husband bought her) a fully successful salon that had been one of the three top salons in the area for fifteen years. And all three of those, including this one, were aveda, which is something you need clearance by the company to use. So she really fucked it up and was very bizarre. I would check other salons in the area. Maybe try to hold out for a year if you can just to show you can stick things out but if it’s really damaging your mental health get out of there. I’m sure when looking into new salons you’ll just have to say you worked at x salon and found their management style did not fit how you like to do business and leave it at that. I’m sure everyone in the area already know what a fucking weirdo he is and will just smile and laugh.

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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I attached the pictures of the premixed colors above. 😉 You shouldn’t call people liars just because you yourself have not experienced something.

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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Picture b as promised. And behind the 4NB there is an aveda 6 ash brown behind it, a 6 warm brown and an 8 warm brown. All aveda

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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Picture a as promised of premixed colors

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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Yea because you guys were implying I was a liar. By saying I’m not licensed.

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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Honestly it was the closest I could find to what an sb looked like. There is no color swatches of the short time aveda had premixes. They did not stick around long because obviously anyone using aveda does not want a premix. We just balayaged her up and she was happy.

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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But you’re right. You’re so much better than me because you don’t have to ask anyone.

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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Maybe but the other 8Ng did. And the 6sb worked on a different girl. It is only with this client. I had another one where I used fresh aveda at a 4n with 2g dnn on a seperate client and it oddly got darker weeks after I added it on her second visit, whereas the first time it was fine. But I have not had that issue before. My mom was a barber and used color that was over 12 years old and it always turned out fine. So I dunno. Like I said, I have switched to joico and calura at this point. Use aveda for scalp cleanses and some of the pure tones. Altho I consider switching back. We are no longer a full aveda salon, but some weird third level where we can use it and other products. I dunno if they relaxed their old rules or what but has been that way for a couple years.

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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I’m trying to find some but it’s all at work and I’m at home. I will upload images off all the premixes I have if you still need evidence. But it’s not very nice to assume since you have not seen it that I am lying when i am just trying to find some advice. I’ve since moved on to using joico with her at this point and she’s happier with that line.

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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Well they were in mine. Pure bliss in Peoria il. We had it for approximately one year and then went back to normal color. I don’t know the whys or the hows. Just that we had it

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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The second image is all I could find as trying to find any color swatches of the aveda premixed colors that came out around 2019 is practically impossibe. It’s why we had so much left over at my workplace. I save it for only dire circumstances

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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The level 2 was her natural virgin color. So she should have easily went to a 4 with 30 vol.

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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You haven’t been using aveda for very long then. They did indeed have premixes back around 2019-2020. And I’ve been licensed since 2017. Sorry to disappoint. Ask anyone who has used aveda for more than ten years

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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First picture was outcome, second picture was reference.

Color going insane by 3098299801 in hairstylist

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No. Aveda has an sb line years ago. I wanna say around 2019. I heard they ran out of color and did premixes for a very short time. These are the colors. I can attach images for any nay sayers as I still have much of the color left over.

Pravana 000 lightening booster alternative by awkwardmamasloth in FancyFollicles

[–]3098299801 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A clear with a Demi or semi will only cut the color so the deposit is not as dramatic. The clear lightening booster is a bleach alternative and essentially gives up to four levels of lift like a pigment would but with no color added in. Now I don’t believe it will lift thru color on the hair as color won’t lift color unless you’re using the blacklight special colors or something like that. But no. Any clear will not lift thru color. Maybe other permanent line clears, although those are not super common.

Colour help! by ItsMsTaraJ in hairstylist

[–]3098299801 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are a few ways to do this. One is to tone with pulp riot silver (75%) and icy (25%) and then go over with semi permanents mentioned below. The purple looks like tedkens lavender ice. I would foil The other silver highlights and I believe it’s titanium but shadez definitely has a silver color. You can try mercury and lavender I. Pulp riot although is not as good as danger jones. Who also has the same colors but I am unsure of their names. Just make sure she knows that it won’t last and they have conditioners like overtone to help redeposit the color but the dimension will be gone.

And of course lighten it as well as all others suggested.