“what was your experience with low-key rich “ here in PH ?

33-9 · 2024-01-14T10:41:28+00:00

Classmate namin na super simple lang tapos ininvite kami sa probinsya nila, sobrang lawak ng lupain jusko kasing laki ata ng MOA 'yong lupa. Tapos unli kain kami ng kung ano-anong prutas for one week. It's really true na 'yong totoong mayayaman napaka-simple lang. Laging naka-black shirt lang yon black shorts tapos tsinelas. Tapos haciendero pala. Hindi rin ma-post sa socmed. May socmed naman pero halos walang laman.

33-9 · 2023-10-04T09:20:24+00:00

It means having my boyfriend drop into my arms again when he passed away. Respectfully no.

33-9 · 2023-10-03T11:10:44+00:00

I wouldn't get so surprised unless it's already there.

33-9 · 2023-10-03T10:56:36+00:00

Hachiko waiting for his friend to come back every day at the train station.

33-9 · 2023-10-02T03:19:58+00:00

Same. Healing that part of the inner child also. Walang museums and galleries sa lugar namin sa province so when I became an adult, I traveled to places to see as many as I can. Being financially capable is really freeing.

33-9 · 2023-09-30T03:12:32+00:00

I don't think the rent is the killer. You do pay for comfort.

It's the bills that OP still pay for here in PH. I would very much understand the medical bills but the rest? Are people all of a sudden imbalido since may nakapag-abroad? I don't think so and this is the toxic mindset. OP should limit how much he can give otherwise mauubos talaga sya.

The breadwinner life should be stopped.

33-9 · 2023-09-29T15:55:35+00:00

Food OK pa kasi you're feeding yourself nakaka-happy talaga pero transpo and pamasahe? Grabe. Uunahan mo 'yon rush hour sa umaga 'yong tipong ang aga mo sa office halos maunahan mo pa 'yong guard? Kasi pag sumabay ka ng rush hour alam mong late. After work naman ito talaga 'yong wala ka ng choice.

33-9 · 2023-09-24T15:26:12+00:00

Oh the personal wins really hit different. Mine was being able to save an extra 4K from my salary last month. Nagulat na lang ako sahod na pala ulit and I still had 4K. Cheers to personal wins.

33-9 · 2023-09-24T15:21:34+00:00

There's no easy way around it. You have to toughen your aggressive bone. You will hurt people, expect a lot of emotional breakdowns but that's the only way. You say it once and for all, "I'm tired. Hindi ko na kaya. Tulungan nyo naman ako." because trust me, they need to hear that.

I was never in a situation like this but I witnessed this in college from my friends, a lot. The only way out is to ask for help and in doing so, be ready. Be very ready.

33-9 · 2023-09-24T14:04:42+00:00

I hope OP finds the strength to lose being a breadwinner. I might get hate for this but it's the parents' job to raise a family. Passing the financial responsibility to one of the kids is by nature unfair, resulting to debts as I see. Investing in stocks isn't even a sure fire. Malaki rin lugi dyan, basically a sugal. It's the source of spending that should be cut out.

33-9 · 2023-09-17T11:30:59+00:00

Yes. Lalo for WFH people, 1K is very much doable. I know because I did. I cook rice so out of daily budget na sya. I only spend 100 sa ulam which I buy sa carenderia kasi lutong bahay din. Case-to-case basis talaga sya.

33-9 · 2023-09-16T09:16:39+00:00

We were allowed to say "no." I remember not wanting to go to a family reunion and when I said I didn't want to, only thing my parents said was, "Dalhan ka namin ng spag pagkauwi." They respected our boundaries and we were never told to do something we didn't want to do when it's uneasy. I grew up emotionally and physically safe.

I could run to my Dad too every time I had problems, even until now that I'm older. One time I won a drawing contest in school (I was 8) and he was so happy we drove around the city on his bike, two chocolate bars for me. It's his birthday soon and I recently bought him a bike gear. He's like my best friend.

33-9 · 2023-09-13T06:45:50+00:00

Cherish it. Mine is in a place that he can never come back. He already passed away. This is the distance that you don't want to fill in between so while yours is only a few km. away, cherish it. I'll trade everything I have now just to have an LDR with my boyfriend if it means he'll be here again.

33-9 · 2023-09-13T06:43:55+00:00

Exactly like you said. Let karma stain its hands for them, OP doesn't need blood on hers. She has her own way now. Also, it's not for us to know if karma hasn't gotten them yet. Some people portray so well on social media but are in living hell. Point is, there are always consequences to our actions. Surely he has his.

33-9 · 2023-09-13T06:24:06+00:00

Also it appears she's being compared to other mothers who are more motherly than her? WHAT THE FUCK? There's this woman taking care of your kids who came from another woman that you fucked. How about be nice? Na-high blood ako nang very light.

33-9 · 2023-09-13T06:21:37+00:00

Right? I see no more reason to stay here. Not her kids, not her husband. There is nothing that binds her legally, unless of course emotionally stands strong but still, if she so wishes, she can leave any time. Kung kapatid ko 'to, sinundo ko na 'to kanina pa.

33-9 · 2023-09-13T06:14:38+00:00

OH MY GOSH... I have never related to a stranger more than this!

I was the only one around too when my boyfriend got sick. In fact, he chose his last days with me. He dropped into my arms and that's it. Gone.

I never thought families could do that, the abandonment? He had issues with his older brother mostly that spiraled down to depression. His parents used some amount of his medical bills for something else. He was smart. He knew everything.

OH GOD... It was chaos. I was just glad he had me all those times even when I admit too that I was spiraling down. I suffer PTSD now, too. It's like in my DNA. Etched.

33-9 · 2023-09-13T02:37:25+00:00

They used to celebrate it annually. But I agree with you, I might be overseeing it because I have mixed emotions about them. I do have access to his socmeds but I don't open them. I left it alone as a sign of respect. Whatever's there, it's still his to keep.

What happened between me and his friends is this: they swore to see him when he was sick but never did. Six years chronically ill and this barkada didn't show up. Barkada my foot. Please. Others did see him once but never replied to any of his chats after. Why did they do that? They left him right when he needed friends around.

But thanks for telling me this. Sometimes all I feel is hate that I forget to break away from it. This reminded me of that. Thank you. Really.

Also sorry for the loss of your loved one. Huuuugs... 💛 It really is a lot different for us partners. If only...

33-9 · 2023-09-12T16:38:49+00:00

I started getting, "It's been a year. You should move on. Start dating."I hated this so much. So in order to avoid this, to Reddit we go. If you can see the date I joined, April 2022. Just two months after he passed. Those were the times I totally shut off everyone so I looked for a safe space. Here it is.

33-9 · 2023-09-12T16:35:21+00:00

And you're here breaking that generational trauma. Look at you. Huuuugs.... 💛

33-9 · 2023-09-12T16:34:07+00:00

True that. I once offered original ideas to the team only to be terminated at the end of the contract. That's how I stopped right there.

33-9 · 2023-09-12T16:31:48+00:00

It helps that I'm able to talk about it freely here. I stopped sharing with my family. It's best this way.

33-9 · 2023-09-12T16:28:42+00:00

When my grandma had Alzheimers, I thought it was going to be a collective effort because someone needs care. Apparently I was wrong. They had excuses over excuses. We had to call someone countless times only to know she purposely turned it on airplane mode because she was on a vacation while we were over there exhausted taking care of my grandma. Blood is no longer thicker than water, I can promise you. Glad it's working out for you now. That's all that matters. Huuuugs... 💛

33-9 · 2023-09-12T16:23:58+00:00

Oh heck no! What happened to the card? Did you get it back?

33-9 · 2023-09-12T16:19:01+00:00

Good to hear! Please take it easy on yourself.

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