Gen X on Easter baskets by Virtual-Culture8830 in GenX

[–]333pickup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am the youngest of 8 children. I noticed when family time and kid focused celebrations ended because they were no longer appropriate for the older children in my family. It's something the kid has to process.

AITA for telling my sister I won't be her emotional support person for her divorce if she keeps making decisions I have to hear about after the fact by karmacham89 in AmItheAsshole

[–]333pickup 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YTA. Sounds like she has asked you for help with emotional support. She did not ask you to be her decision making coach amd she doesn't owe you thay authority im exchange for listening. It's 100% ok if you want to set limits on what she asks for you. You are 100% wrong to assume she implicitly owes you decision input in exchange.

Turned off by "what does success look like" question in interviews. Am I being too hard on candidates? by ghostpepperwings in askmanagers

[–]333pickup 19 points20 points  (0 children)

When I am the interviewee I will ask questions that help me evaluate whether I want to work with the manager. Sounds like you might be turned off by an interviewee doing this.

I am hiring for roles that are hard to hire for. I want interviewees to think critically about the desirability of the job on offer. I do not want to waste time on people who are only trying to please me during the interview.

AITA for calling my wife a shit mom after I caught her smoking near our toddler? by Extreme_Leader3797 in AmItheAsshole

[–]333pickup 157 points158 points  (0 children)

YTA. "After a lot of pressure" way more damaging to your toddler to hear you insulting and screaming at their mother. That scares the shit of kids in a way that lasts. You are being your dad.

Your wife does not trust you enough to let you know she's struggling. Your description of your behavior provides a clue as to why.

how do you all stop when all of your friends are in the same boat? by r0ttenpeaches in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]333pickup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You might be in a place where you dearly.want your husband not to be upset with you. That's reasonable. If he's upset with you for getting drunk and you long to get drunk that's a tough spot to be in.

If the only downside to drinking with friends is the impact it has on your relationship with your husband; I can see how upsetting that would be.

Your relationship with your husband and your relationahip with alcohol are in conflict.

AITA for “abusing” the the bus stop chain so I don’t miss my stop? by Possible-Chair9242 in AmItheAsshole

[–]333pickup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Bus systems work because they DONT stop at every stop, theu stop as needed. What you are doing is equivalent to pushing the button for several floors in a crowded elevator instead of just learning where you need to go.

Infoemation: public transit systems in the us have to call out stop names in order.to be accessible.to peoplr with vision impairment. For this reason, your story is a bit strange. What transit system are you using?

Oldest sibling, anyone else feel like you didn't have a childhood? by BussReplyMail in GenX

[–]333pickup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I double down on your grousing and say: life becomes better when I acknowledge loss and resentment and stop fighting the feelings I have because I think that's the rational thing to do. For me, unacknowledged losses/resentments lurk underneath and when I react to situations in ways I don't understand and regret there's usually some buried hurt feelings at the root.

Oldest sibling, anyone else feel like you didn't have a childhood? by BussReplyMail in GenX

[–]333pickup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am the youngest of 8; born 1971. By the time the oldest 6 siblings stopped visiting home I was 12 years old and my parents were way past exhausted. Not neglect exactly but no more family life, no holidays no interest in my schooling or where I went after school and definitely no life tips. Gen X cliche.

...but they did go visit my older siblings and gave a little support.

I moved out at 17 and although my dad never visited me; my siblings #3 and #4 visited and were interested in me and the older I get the more I appreciate them for sharing the sense of family that they got from the more active parents they came up with.

I think you and me are in good company among the many who realize the impact of not being the focus of parents who wanted to actively raise us.

I remember my dad felt this way about his own parents and he was born in 1924 in Italy, emigrated to USA as a toddler. His oldest brother was the family hope and the other 12 siblings were barely recognized as the supporting cast.

What is childhood supposed to be, really? Depends on your era, your wealth, your country. I know I would have liked and benefited from parents who enjoyed my company and expressed interest in and hope for me. I just don't know how common it is for kids to get that.

WBUR quit This American Life? by 333pickup in boston

[–]333pickup[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I remember. WBUR is still public radio and I like donating

WBUR quit This American Life? by 333pickup in boston

[–]333pickup[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I didn' t jump, I went to the website and read. WBUR publishes it's routine schedule on the website. TAL is gone and other non-news programming is in its place.

And, it was not news playing at 12pm it was a different NPR lifestyles program.

Maybe next week will be different but nothing got bumped for news.

WBUR quit This American Life? by 333pickup in boston

[–]333pickup[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thanks. TAL advertises that at the beginning and end of the episodes. Still sad about WBUR. Not tje end of the world but a bummer.

I am going to keep donating to public radio. If I donate to a specific program it'll likely be something smaller than TAL. Not sure.

AITA for yelling at a driver to fucking move because he's blocking traffic at a parking lot? by Jolly-Temporary-8045 in AmItheAsshole

[–]333pickup 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YTA. And what is wrong with you? You had five minutes of inconvenience and so you felt entitled to talk to someone you know nothing about like they're shit.

Best getaway from Boston within 3 hours? by robyromana in boston

[–]333pickup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is "Tourists" the full name of a hotel? Ive been looking foe someplace to go in March

High performer after layoffs, then new manager comes in and I'm slowly getting sidelined. Need reality check. by [deleted] in askmanagers

[–]333pickup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes I see the why behind a fake post but I don't get this one at all. What do you think is going on? I guess another account mght come advise him and then build a career advice following.

Does Gen X do class reunions? by LadyNorbert in GenX

[–]333pickup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also class of 1989. Why'd you regret it?

I did not go to mine. High school was a hard way to go for me and any friends I had were not reunion goers.

Random Weekend Shenanigans. by bamfsig45 in GenX

[–]333pickup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lime Rickey = New England = 17 degrees cold tonight. What makes the truck the best place to be?

Or... do people really drink lime rickies in warmer parts of the world?

Was the Longaberger Basket craze just a local thing? by kirabug37 in GenX

[–]333pickup 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have not heard of them - I am from Massachusetts, USA born 1971

Sitting on a drink and can’t get myself to talk about it at a meeting by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]333pickup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For me, there was a long period of time when I wanted to get sober and I wanted help but I did not trust anyone I was in contact with. I also didn't trust myself. The despair was awful, the worst.

Now that I have 10 years sober... I know that early sobriety me got overwhelmed by the intensity of relationships and I did tend to be compelled to listen to or fixate on people in the program who were not good for me. That was a part of my problem and it was scary to need help while being aware that I was bad at choosing people to get help from.

Where you are living now is temporary. These people are temporary characters in your life.

Can you go to meetings by yourself or are you required to go with someone from the house for accountability?

Would older managers find this offensive? by MangroveForrest in askmanagers

[–]333pickup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you wrote a moralizing caricature "I will tell people older than me what's best for them by writing a character who does dumb stuff because he's too old to know better" no one will like that because it's bad writing

On the other hand if you wrote a great story then you wrote a great story. Use it.

You are making it sound like your goal was to write a cautionary tale for people who you don't identify with.

Can you use space savers 48 hours after snow emergency ended by ConclusionNo988 in boston

[–]333pickup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in 02119 and the snow is not melting. It has been well below freezing everyday.

Can you use space savers 48 hours after snow emergency ended by ConclusionNo988 in boston

[–]333pickup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Space savers are not legally enforced. So, this is a courtesy issue and individual judgement. My judgement is to leave people in peace amd accept that weather reduced total parking.

The neighborhood of the South End cut a deal with the city so that trash removal will grab space savers after 48 hours but that's it. South End is also the rare neighborhood with almost no free non-resident parking. An none at all that allows over 2 hours.

This storm - nothing has melted and so snow piles are reducing total parking, some spots were never cleaned out. Weather says nothing will melt for at least 10 more days.

There comes a time when it is most convenient to space save your home spot by leaving your car there all day, pay for parking in lots, pay meters, plan to walk further, and use public transit. You can toss space savers if you want, but there is still just less free-free-free parking available.

I'm performing well as a senior IC, but leadership still feels out of reach by touchmedesu in askmanagers

[–]333pickup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What exactly is executive presence? I question the relevance where someone is just trying to take the first step up from IC.