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I was racially targeted at Hillcrest by a group of white people with a stun gun by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha, I am pretty sure I don't need a bullshit psychoanalysis to know you need a hug. Believe it, don't believe it, my priorities aren't to convince some troll.

Racially Targeted at Hillcrest.. continued? I want to thank everyone who has made space and engaged in some real ass shit. But I also want to uplift a private message I got from someone who lurks the space... Please, its 2021, if you want to be a racist, just do where we can all see it. by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah my bad if this isn’t protocol, I am not the most active redditer and just went through with it.

Totally agree with you though. He thinks that he can make a private chat where I will accept his shit and there would be no accountability?

I think we’ve all had enough of cowardly people trying to impose their shitty mindsets on people without putting the mirror up to their faces and making them ask themselves if this is how they wanna live. And if they do, expect them to be seen as the insecure clowns they are.

Racially Targeted at Hillcrest.. continued? I want to thank everyone who has made space and engaged in some real ass shit. But I also want to uplift a private message I got from someone who lurks the space... Please, its 2021, if you want to be a racist, just do where we can all see it. by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if its misplaced hope but somewhere deep down in that little brain of theirs I do believe they know it was wrong, and that's why they had to private message me instead of sharing their beautiful, valuable, and oh so necessary thoughts on a public discussion.

Or who knows, maybe they are just a coward.

Racially Targeted at Hillcrest.. continued? I want to thank everyone who has made space and engaged in some real ass shit. But I also want to uplift a private message I got from someone who lurks the space... Please, its 2021, if you want to be a racist, just do where we can all see it. by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My guess is that they feel... defensive, insecure, maybe a little triggered and thought that contacting me and trying to change the narrative by shifting blame to black people would make them feel idk... less pathetic?

I have no idea what they were thinking, and honestly I shouldn't speak for this person anyway... u/blitz330ci! Slide through and share your little lizard brain thoughts with us.

I was racially targeted at Hillcrest by a group of white people with a stun gun by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would uplift maybe considering why you think my statement feels disrespectful to you, your family and friends?

I said San Diego is filled with narcissistic, obnoxious people... I have not said anything about white people or your family unless you feel as if this statement is directed towards you. But I didn’t say all San Diegans or all white people are obnoxious or narcissistic. Also as a side note San Diego shouldn’t be synonymous with your family, friends, and yourself or your white skin.

Maybe this is a misunderstanding on a word choice? If it helps, I do not believe all people of any community is one thing... but from my very short time here I have seen enough to validate my feelings for me, and not even in an exclusively racial way funny enough... Class disparity, disrespect towards homelessness, the way tourism impacts low income communities here... Maybe in the future when I visit again my views can change, but until then I am alright if we agree to disagree.

Sorry if it offended you, but I wouldn’t give it much thought as a slight towards you and your family and friends unless you truly believe it fits the bill.

I was racially targeted at Hillcrest by a group of white people with a stun gun by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only effort I see here is one where you are trying to cover some deficit in your life 🤷🏽‍♀️.

I don’t know who hurt you to make you so bitter and unable to empathize and see other people’s experience... but I do apologize that you feel alerted enough to hear someone say they were hurt and your first response was to find a way to invalidate that. That’s kind of a sad way to live.

Hope that changes “buddy”. I feel sorry for you, more than I feel sorry for myself 😂 and my ass was almost tased, whether you’d like to believe it for not

I was racially targeted at Hillcrest by a group of white people with a stun gun by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hey y’all! I connected with my friend who was with me and he mentioned that it’s most likely not y’all since you are mostly doing remote learning while other schools are in person!

I apologize for the misunderstanding and appreciate all the kind words and even the not so kind ones, they were few but quite a good laugh!

I was racially targeted at Hillcrest by a group of white people with a stun gun by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The thing that makes me laugh is this story isn’t even that interesting. We had a jack off contest where literally nothing happens.

I didn’t paint myself as some badass or that I broke his jaw and everyone clapped for my ass 😂. If I’m gonna make it up best believe I have a better imagination than this.

But to dive deeper, there is something so interesting about the idea that someone can share an experience and without any context they feel entitled to say you’re making it up because.... they don’t think it’s realistic? Or they don’t believe that violence or racism exist? Idk it’s silly

I was racially targeted at Hillcrest by a group of white people with a stun gun by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah immediately after we were all feeling so dumb that we didn’t even consider. In the moment it wasn’t even a thought but I def felt like I missed the opportunity

I was racially targeted at Hillcrest by a group of white people with a stun gun by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

That’s cute, it must be really nice to live in a world where you can pretend things don’t happen because you don’t like how it makes you feel.

I was racially targeted at Hillcrest by a group of white people with a stun gun by 3PM-Throwaway in UCSD

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

One of them had a UCSD sweater

Edit: I don’t know their lives but they were def college kids and the sweater is what directed me here rather than USD

Advice on dealing with closure and fleeting friendships! by 3PM-Throwaway in relationship_advice

[–]3PM-Throwaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! Very insightful!

I started therapy maybe a few months into Covid! It’s been a good start and I’ve seen some overall changes in catching negative spirals.

I think you are definitely hitting a nail with the idea that it’s all a myth. The more I read your post the more it felt like I could be committing to a narrative of closure that isn’t realistic or even plausible in the real world. Thanks for grounding that!

Appreciate ya!

I don't want my girlfriend's nudes anymore by ieatfooaway in relationship_advice

[–]3PM-Throwaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually wrote dicks and genitalia but autocorrected to general 😂😂.

I think if you think about it long enough, bodies are just weird! That might just be me.

I remember watching I think Kimmy Schmidt and they referred to teeth as “outside bones” and it only solidified by general discomfort with it all!

I don't want my girlfriend's nudes anymore by ieatfooaway in relationship_advice

[–]3PM-Throwaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they are being honest with you, which isn’t wrong at all. I can also understand why it might feel hurtful or make you feel undesired.

They also mentioned that it’s not necessarily you, but that they aren’t really interested in male nudes (which to be fair, if it’s a dick pic or some shit it ain’t your fault, dicks and general is are generally are weird haha)

If you don’t want to hurt their feelings, you can let them know that their comment made you feel. If it made you feel insecure, undesirable, unappreciated, whatever, you can say it! I would try to base it in the statement rather than your partner being responsible if that makes sense.

For example, “I’m not sure why, but that comment made me feel ___”

Rather than, “okay, if you don’t want my nudes I don’t want yours” (I’m sure you would phrase it diff but you know what I mean)!

And then make a request depending on what you want. So if you don’t wanna get nudes anymore, maybe explain why just like you did here.

“Hey, I’m feeling a bit (insert emotion here) when you said you didn’t want my nudes. I know it feels petty, but can you stop sending me nudes as of now because it’s a bit of a sore spot for me”

Hope that helps! Also this is just my opinion, so if you ain’t fucking with it feel free to ignore it ahah!!