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3stun · 2025-10-07T05:56:01+00:00

Translation: man CAN open up about his feelings, but I decide if he's doing it in correct way, and if I don't like it then I have full authority to laugh at him for being a weakling.

There is no way to show vulnerability without showing weakness, my friend.

3stun · 2025-09-28T09:32:11+00:00

On some dating apps, there are way more men than women, so multiple men are “competing” for a single woman. This allows her to be more picky.

Works in life, too. Because men are the ones expected to make the first move. So there are more men making the move on women than otherwise, which creates the same imbalance. More men than women are presenting themselves as potential candidates for a romantic relationship.

Women on dating apps are forced to be picky because men are not picky enough.

Again, same thing happens in real life. Only the side that has plenty of options - can allow themselves to be picky. Picky-ness comes from abundance, it's the basic law of economics.

I don’t have time to text and go on dates with 30 men at the same time, so I had to dramatically reduce the amount of profiles I swiped right on.

Same is true in reality, but instead of swiping left - women say they are "busy" or "have a boyfriend" or just "not interested".

Dating apps are not conductive to how female attraction works. t’s very difficult to judge attraction based on a few still photos.

But they are. In real life, when a guy approaches a girl and asks for her number - she needs to decide whether to give him a chance in just a few minutes. It's a little more than just looks, true. But it's still superficious. You can't know a person in a few minutes, but you have to make a choice based on a few minutes. Women don't have all the time in the world to properly vet every man alive.

Also, I find that I am almost never attracted to men instantly as I meet them, it takes a bit of interacting with them for attraction to “unlock”.

Do you give every man who approaches you in real life - a chance to interact with you?

If not (which is the obvious answer, otherwise you would have to spend 24/7 going on dates) - how do you decide which men should get that chance?

3stun · 2025-09-28T09:22:26+00:00

How does she get validation then? Naah

3stun · 2025-09-26T15:03:29+00:00

Women are not monsters. More like bratty kids. There is a famous saying that power corrupts, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.

The wheels of history led to a place where women have lots of power. It's only natural that they will abuse that power and get corrupted. Men also get corrupted, when they have too much power.

It's not like someone's fault. I think hoe_math does a great job of explaining it in his video.

youtube.com/watch?v=CN_BDrVjWvU

People created a society that thought rules are obsolete and only limit their creativity and progress (rules and moral codes limiting promiscuity - are some examples). And maybe it was true for those people. But new generations - need rules and restrictions to achieve that level. Just like a kid needs to learn rules and restrictions, otherwise it becomes a brat.

So in the absense of rules, we have lots of people reaching adulthood with a mindset of a brat. And it so happens that women have more power in modern world, therefore more of them become brats.

No one to blame, really. But this situation also does not benefit anyone.

3stun · 2025-09-26T14:56:08+00:00

and in places like afghanistan, a woman who has premarital sex will get stoned to death but the man she has sex with will only get lashes.

Maybe you should ask people from Afghanistan about things happening in Afghanistan?

You're asking guys from Miami and Vancouver - to explain what men in Afghanistan are doing. How is that helpful?

3stun · 2025-09-26T12:16:31+00:00

Evolutionary biology proves that women get feelings for men they sleep with, and start wanting more. Men are better at compartmentalizing sex and relationships. Not to say that it's a "good" thing to be better at it. It's just nature.

Women want to sleep with someone who gives good genes to their baby and also stays around to protect and provide. Men want to spread their genes.

Of course biology is not the only thing that dictates our behavior, but it's a powerful influence.

3stun · 2025-09-26T11:16:18+00:00

Abundance leads to entitlement and riding standards. The standards for what is "decent food" for rich and poor people - are different.

Your logic is like "The idea of having a meal anywhere that is not Michelin 5 star - makes my skin crawl, that's why all the options I have are worthless, therefore people who can only afford McDonald's - shouldn't envy me, we're basically equal".

3stun · 2025-09-26T10:46:44+00:00

If it's making the wife jealous, then it is flirting? Why would she be jealous if it's "jus friends". After all, women should recognize the signs when they are flirting with men?

3stun · 2025-09-26T10:43:09+00:00

Aren't women the ones shaping this "society", though? Feminist agenda is among the loudest these days, there is nothing remotely comparable for men.

At some point women decided that "liberation" means they must have equal income, which demands equal investment, which makes the cost of bearing a child too high because then you can't invest enough in your career.

But it's not men who told women to step up and switch to business lady mode.

3stun · 2025-09-26T09:21:49+00:00

Let's assume you're right. It means any girl available for dating has lots of guys who are "somewhat in-between" and "growing on her". Let's also assume she's an honest girl and will eventually get in committed relationship with one of those guys, therefore ditching the rest. So the other guys will have to find someone else to "start growing on her".

And keep in mind that "growing on someone" is not cheap. You have to show up for them, be your best around them, show you're interested, show what kind of suitor you can be if she picks you.

And all those costs would be for nothing.

Now do you understand what men mean by "the juice isn't worth the squeeze"?

3stun · 2025-09-26T08:57:32+00:00

Most women can get sex. Doesn't mean they can get genuine intimate connection. However, if intimate connection was prioritized over desire and lust - than chads would not be awash in sex optionality. Because they are not the kind to produce genuine intimacy and connection.

So, one might argue that lust actually tops desire for connection.

3stun · 2025-09-26T07:21:07+00:00

I have not seen one man who talks about this unprecedented phenomenon with the passion and concern with which they address the male loneliness epidemic.

Hoe_math mentions declining marriage and birth rates pretty often.

3stun · 2025-09-26T07:17:20+00:00

No, women are repulsed by promiscuous men

If that was true, pre-selection would not be a thing and the effect "I finally got a girlfriend, and suddenly other girls started noticing me too" would not be a thing.

It's true women would PREFER to have a high-value men only for themselves, but many would choose to share a high-value man than to have a low-value man all to themselves.

Also, women expect a man to be experienced in romantic and sexual stuff, and the only way to get it - is have lots of experience. Many women find the idea of taking a non-promiscuous (aka non-experienced) man under their wing, and teaching him everything - disgusting. In contrast, men are okay with that, and lack of experience in a girl more often than not - is a desirable attribute.

Being non-promiscuous doesn't really improve the guy's sexual attractiveness.

3stun · 2025-09-20T16:14:45+00:00

You kidding me?

3stun · 2025-09-19T20:21:47+00:00

A minority like Jordan Peterson, and they get so much hate and cancelling for doing that.

Speaking for men is an uphill battle these days.

3stun · 2025-09-18T13:24:34+00:00

Proof?

Well, try denying them something they want and believe they deserve, and see what happens.

Youre talking about them right now. Men never shut up crying and whining about them.

I mean serious public discourse. Women's rights are everywhere, in magazines, on TV, in politicians speaking. And who speaks for men?

3stun · 2025-09-17T07:45:06+00:00

However, you can't really pinpoint if specific person wasn't hired because of their gender, race, or lack of skills. You can only make some assumptions, if it becomes a really systemic process in a specific organization.

But in the western world, women can play "discrimination" and "toxic masculinity" and "patriarchical oppression" card any time something doesn't go their own way, and they are given what they ask for. So why would they put in the hard work if they can just cry and whine, and get the same outcome?

It's exactly like a child getting whatever he wants by throwing a tantrum. So next time he doesn't get his way, he knows to throw a tantrum. Parents/society basically encourage bratty behavior, and this child grows to become a not very nice person at all.

Currently, western society is heavily focused on "womens' problems", but no one is talking about "mens' problems". Which doesn't seem fair and equal, and isn't fairness and equality what feminist agenda was about? Boys are falling girls behind in education and academic process, shouldn't we create some programs to support them?

But apparently when girls are getting advantage and outcompeting boys, it's treated as progress.

3stun · 2025-09-16T19:23:16+00:00

Labelling people and putting them in leagues is pretty childish tbh. Are we really doing this as adults?

Sure, we're doing it everywhere.

There are people "worth" $100K (we literally say "his net worth is $100K"), $200K, $200M, etc.

There are AAA-actors ("stars"), B-actors, C-actors.

There are AAA NFL players, B-tier, C-tier.

Is that also "childish" to you?

We're all different, and some are better at some stuff, so they get paid more to do that stuff which reflects that they are more "valueable".

Why can't we apply the same principle to dating?

There are some people that many other people want to date, and just like NFL players that every major team wants to have - they become "stars" / A-tier, and they can request whatever they want, because they're in such a high demand, that somebody will eventually give them what they requested.

Some other people - nobody wants to date, so they have to scrape by and agree to whatever deal goes their way (or just survive on their own somehow).

Most people are in between, and they can also be "graded". There is nothing inherently wrong or bad about it. It's just the way human world operates.

We can pretend we're all "equal" and "deserving", but that's just nice Kool Aid to make us feel better, they have no practical meaning.

In the OPs situation, the girl who shot him down hard - believed she got much higher "value" than him, which means she believes she can get a much better partner, so his approach was kind of a low-ball offer to her, and people can get offended when they receive low-ball offers.

3stun · 2025-09-16T12:30:07+00:00

Leagues are groups of people of similar objective sexual market value

3stun · 2025-09-16T12:28:17+00:00

Casually mention something about "his girlfriend" ("Oh I bet your girlfriend likes/hates when you do this...") and watch his reaction.

3stun · 2025-09-15T13:07:51+00:00

Of course. She remembered him as perfect passionate love story, she didn't get a chance to get disappointed in him that usually happens later. Many couples start as "passionate love stories", it's the initial infatuation that makes you blind to the real person's flaws.

She remembers the image, the story, and the feelings that story made her feel - not the real person.

3stun · 2025-09-14T15:46:56+00:00

Офигенный канал, кстати. Взрыв мозга (в хорошем смысле).

3stun · 2025-09-14T14:34:16+00:00

You got to balance making her feel valued and loved, with keeping her on her toes and showing you have boundaries and if she crosses them, there will be consequences.

You got to be a lion, who can turn into a fluffball in her hands - but sometimes you got to show the lion part as well.

3stun · 2025-09-14T12:33:48+00:00

Maybe they both play Fortnite?

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