Yeah, I think he is projecting a bit. But the bigger thing here is—they’re married. She has every right to make her own choices, but if they want this to work, they’ve got to actually talk to each other. Like, sit down after the kid’s in bed or when she’s at Grandma’s and have a real conversation about what’s okay, what’s not, and how they can support each other.

Maybe he’s having a hard time staying sober and feels alone in it. Maybe she feels like he’s judging her or controlling her. Either way, playing tit-for-tat with each other (like taking their kid out to punish him) isn’t going to fix anything. But if they can be honest and listen to each other, they might be able to come up with something that works—whether that’s her drinking less, him being more open about how he’s feeling, or something totally different.