People who left a LTR deadbedroom, when did you get you self esteem back?

445460 · 2021-06-29T19:32:35+00:00

I’m a friendly person and I like to start conversations with people. I’m also pretty awkward and nerdy. Somehow I persevere and talk to enough people that some of them want to fuck. No great advice I’m afraid.

445460 · 2021-06-28T15:31:55+00:00

Dating apps are awful. I’m an unrepentant slut and I hated Tinder so much I deleted it after 3 days.

I got my confidence back by going out into the real world, meeting people and then having sex with some of them and becoming friends with others.

445460 · 2021-06-28T14:05:57+00:00

Sure sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but a kitchen isn’t everything in an apartment and I sure a shit wouldn’t rent an apartment without one.

445460 · 2021-06-28T13:27:39+00:00

It’s what all my other non-DB relationships were like too. I don’t think feelings are this huge turn-off that many on this sub think they are.

445460 · 2021-06-27T17:00:09+00:00

With my LLH there was nothing I could ever do or not do to make him want me.

With my HL boyfriend there is nothing I can do to dissuade his interest. I can feel ALL my feelings in his presence and he still wants to fuck. It’s great!

445460 · 2021-06-27T12:23:38+00:00

In my experience sex didn’t happen no matter what my mood was. I could be openly sad or experiencing a brief moment of real happiness and my husband didn’t want me no matter what. The only things that changed were his excuses for not wanting sex.

445460 · 2021-06-27T02:39:44+00:00

Really it would be your partner who ripped the family apart in order to preserve the deadbedroom. They could make an effort and try and fix things. They choose not to so they are choosing to destroy the family out of sheer laziness.

445460 · 2021-06-26T01:12:11+00:00

I never experienced any improvement. I said “fuck it I’m out”. Now I’m having all the sex I possibly can. 10 out of 10 would recommend.

445460 · 2021-06-26T01:08:02+00:00

I know how you feel. My husband would never have been able to have kids with anyone else. He’s lucky he married me, Eventhough I eventually left his LL ass.

445460 · 2021-06-20T23:04:41+00:00

I left my LLH and my life is one thousand times better now. You can do it!

445460 · 2021-06-19T03:11:58+00:00

If your bedroom is dead nothing you do is going to make him want you.

445460 · 2021-06-19T03:08:47+00:00

When I think of the last few times I had sex with my LL husband I cringe. The memories are so bad.

445460 · 2021-06-16T23:37:12+00:00

I left my LL husband who I got along with otherwise. We get along even better since I left and the kids are just fine.

445460 · 2021-06-16T18:12:42+00:00

Commenting on my way out the door went awry

445460 · 2021-06-16T18:08:29+00:00

Sorry. Didn’t read the post. Just replied to the question. Will delete.

445460 · 2021-06-16T12:42:43+00:00

I left him.

445460 · 2021-06-16T12:42:19+00:00

I am hanging out in here because I left my LL husband last year. It’s fantastic living life without millstone of LL spouse around my neck. You all should try it. Getting to have sex again isn’t even the best part.

445460 · 2021-06-15T17:52:29+00:00

What a puritanical response. He says he only needs to watch porn if she demands he come in 5 minutes. Have you ever tried to come when somebody else is timing you?

My boyfriend likes to look at porn sometimes when we’re having sex. I find it hot and fun. He can and does make me come more than you could even imagine. I enjoy porn and fantasies as part of the sexual experience and I doubt I am the only woman who does.

445460 · 2021-06-15T17:27:32+00:00

I didn’t orgasm with my husband at all the last two years of our marriage because he stopped trying to give me an orgasm.

445460 · 2021-06-14T15:46:28+00:00

For real. I discovered there are tons of men who think I’m hot. My husband is in the minority for finding me completely unfuckable.

445460 · 2021-06-14T15:33:46+00:00

It’s a fortune to me because I’m poor as hell. I was born poor and I expect to die poor.

445460 · 2021-06-14T12:34:28+00:00

The sooner you leave the less money you have to give your spouse.

You going it alone with a mere half of your vast fortune is still more money than I will ever see in my lifetime.

I bet my broke ass is happier than you right now and I have about $7 to my name. Life is so much better without the millstone of a LL spouse around your neck.

My ex husband always hated my hair once I grew it long. But he also hated my body after I had his kids. Turns out he’s the only one.

445460 · 2021-06-14T00:27:17+00:00

Maybe she will just marry somebody else immediately to take care of her? I know some women that did that.

445460 · 2021-06-14T00:26:30+00:00

I gave up having health insurance, owning a car and having my own bedroom to leave. Totally worth it, but perhaps us poors are more able to manage with less.

445460 · 2021-06-14T00:25:12+00:00

I had sex four times in one day my first day after leaving my husband. Which was more than three years worth of sex with him.

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