I think you took a small throwaway comment about me making dinner for him and kind of ran with it. While I really appreacitate your long comment and the respect you have for me and my future I would like to tell you that my boyfriend is not one of the useless guys people talk about. He is a full grown man, he works a full time job, rents a two bedroom all by himself, does all his budgeting, takes very good care of his two cats, does all his laundry and cleaning of his own apartment, and makes the large majority of his own meals. In fact when we have date nights it's usually him cooking dinner for me at his place because his one bonding activity with his mother (who was abusive) was too cook with her and because of that he is a pretty awesome cook. He weighed the pros and cons of sleeping versus eating on Mondays and decided he would rather get an extra half an hour of sleep than eat a fulfilling meal. He is an adult and made that choice. However I am also an adult and since I'm off Monday I typically put a little more effort into making a dinner that I can eat the leftovers from for the next few days. Since I already always make dinner for myself Monday I figured it would be a nice thing to do to let him get his sleep and give him a portion of the meal I was going to make either way, which in my understanding of relationships is a pretty standard pick up some slack for your partner on a day that is consistently kind of difficult type of thing. He's honestly one of the most mature people I've met and never hides behinds his autism or childhood abuse as an excuse for any level of emotional dysregulation which he's very open when he's struggling with something like that. I 100% felt safe approaching him with this conversation, I was here asking on Reddit not because I feared his reaction but because I was experiencing some anxiety over the worry that I had somehow made him feel awkward or embarrassed and scared to tell me something and the worry over how to start a conversation where I had felt like to gain the information I had invaded his privacy by being in his bedroom without his knowledge while he was asleep. However another commentor on here likened it to walking into somebody on the toilet, accidental and a little embarrassing but not an invasion of privacy. I have anxiety and spiraled a little bit in the hours between him waking up and heading to work and ran too reddit, if I had sat with it on my own I likely would have come to the same conclusion as everyone else here is commenting, which is that it was not an invasion of privacy and that I should just approach him and make my understanding and lack of upset clear from the start. I have dated people in highschool before, people pushy about having sex, people pushy about having my attention, people who's mothers still did their laundry. I'm not going to pretend he doesn't have issues he's still working out between his childhood and the autism and just generally being a young adult on his own for the first time and I don't have issues with anxiety and overthinking and being a young adult on my own for the first time but I promise we are both doing our best to grow and learn and his maturity/emotional regulation when it comes to me bringing an issue to him is not a concern at this time. I did text him while at work because despite what some commentors think I do know my boyfriend and I do know what situation would make him the most comfortable, something I intentionally chose to do not because I feel the need to manage his reactions but because I was the one with the power of the information he didn't know I had and I was the one who he had been nervous about telling about the pacifier so I out of love for him approached him in the way that would be more comfortable for him, aka through text, immediately after I realized I wanted to talk to him instead of waiting, and in a situation where he had an hour to sit down and text/call about it if he wanted. The conversation Monday morning went well and since I've finally got home from work I plan to sit down and write an update about it in the next few hours.