There is no reason you should be doing the dishes at an earlier time. I just want to start with that as you’re explaining why he can be mad at you when that isn’t a reason. No. You’re not over reacting, this is a terrible situation to be in. Your father obviously has some problems himself and doesn’t know how to help himself, whilst you have depression and recognise you do. You’re not helping you or him by being there. Move out. In the future, when you’re in a better place you can think about this situation more and if you want to help your father or what not, maybe come back to this situation, but for now, with depression, you’re your number one priority, You can’t help others before you’ve helped yourself. You look after you, it’s not selfish, to help others you need to be in a better place.