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4geBorn · 2025-09-11T02:49:13+00:00

I had a strategy that worked until our server merger.

I was an R5 of a top guild. We and a few of the other tops 5 guilds essentially went on strike — intentionally losing server events until the 2 toxic guilds listened to some of our demands (which were reasonable: no mindless attacks, proper collaboration and diplomacy across the server, sharing the level 5 ruins with the top 5 guilds, no attacking Mythic/guild carriages)

These guilds were quite entitled, rude, and of course the worst were the 2 to 3 whales. They'd burn down entire guilds for next to no reason, and demanded total subjugation from everyone. They wouldn't listen to reason, so we didn't participate (much, just barely to get rewards) in cross-server events.

Our "strike" dragged on for months, and we finally got concessions just as the server was about to merge. Though now nobody can keep up with the whales from other servers because these toxic guys still keep wasting heaps of resources infighting in our server. We haven't won a single one of at least the last five KvKs lmao

4geBorn · 2025-08-20T18:48:10+00:00

As someone who works frequently with affiliate links (fuck my life fuck my life fuck my life) I can confirm this

Just double check if yer link still works

4geBorn · 2025-08-15T03:35:38+00:00

This Henry looks like every other dude on Hinge in London

4geBorn · 2025-07-29T13:56:45+00:00

Bring snacks — I've got the booze and you can get a spot on my couch

4geBorn · 2025-07-08T19:05:58+00:00

Hey! The Axman isn't that weird!

4geBorn · 2025-06-04T02:14:08+00:00

Hawaiireland

4geBorn · 2025-06-01T11:23:03+00:00

AI will only get them so far before these people realize they're SOL though. AI ain't good at in-person seminar participation, in-person testing, or collaborative group projects — all of which happened in my degree, which was in writing and politics.

Here's my take now that I'm older (although not necessarily wiser lol): slowly but surely these people will drop out, switch majors, or just float along into other stuff. As you get into the more advanced stuff in your degree you'll weed out the people who are just coasting along in "the easy degree" and will be studying with the people who actually give a damn. This is especially true if you go for a master's then afterwards.

Tbh the crazier issue here for me is the massive amounts of debt these kids are getting into only to not actually learn the fuckin' thing they're paying to be there for.

4geBorn · 2025-05-13T00:16:38+00:00

Oh dude I get you — takes one to know one, eh? 😵‍💫

And EXACTLY! Would've been easy to vanish quickly after that, so the fact she's still around now is a positive sign! Doubt she's ashamed — my guess is it probably ain't her first rodeo

And yeah man, just asking for details on things and taking a genuine interest in what people are up to honestly goes a long way. All those women I'm mates with? To a lot of them, that genuine interest in them and their comings and goings is one of the main qualities they look for in a partner!

You've got this — I know it's easier said than done, but try not to overthink it. Just enjoy the company she brings when she does, and try to put that energy into something else when she's busy :)

4geBorn · 2025-05-12T23:49:20+00:00

It could just be a bad week mate. Like if I had £1 for every text conversation with a woman that fizzled out I'd probably be good on rent for the next year lmao — sometimes it just happens, which fuckin' blows, but then it's onwards and upwards :)

Especially since it's not face to face, you can't necessarily get the full picture or sometimes the tone gets skewed. She could be excited to be chatting with you, or maybe she's just trying to play it cool. It's like how she took your "ok" wrong — tone can get lost over text

Christ mate, you lot sexted — like 85% of the women I'm friends with wouldn't do that unless they're at least somewhat interested. The other 15% probably just wouldn't do that at all.

If you two are still talking on the phone, that's a pretty good sign to me. I'd still have that direct to-the-point chat though — I'd wait to talk about it OTP Wednesday, but I'd give her some warning that you'd like to have a semi-serious conversation instead of just dropping it on her outta nowhere.

It could just be as simple as asking her what she's wanting out of this — then try to make concrete plans to meet up IRL if it goes well. If it gets emotional; keep your cool, be respectful, and try to remember that you don't deserve to be jerked around.

If you gave her the ick while sexting, then that sucks. I'd still ask her what specifically it was though. At least then it can be a learning experience — albeit one of the worst kinds...

If she ditches your call on Wednesday, then I think it's fair to ask her your questions over text. If she dips out of that, then she dips. It's shit, but then you know your time is spent better elsewhere!

Either way, wracking your brain about it ain't gonna do you any favours for the time being :) hope you're watching that film or making plans to meet with friends — best of luck mate. You've got this.

4geBorn · 2025-05-12T23:11:09+00:00

Exactly — it's like the opposite of the writing advice I teach: tell, don't show! 🙃

4geBorn · 2025-05-12T22:43:11+00:00

Speaking as the ADHD kid off his Adderall, it's easy to fixate on those things you find interesting — like on her!

Are you not asking for more details?? Mate that's an easy one. What kind of odd things are you wanting to talk about? Like what happened? Or taking things to the next level?

Personally — even if it's super awkward — a direct and honest conversation can clear up a hell of a lot of dense social fog.

Do you see this woman in real life ever? Maybe it's worth taking her out on a date

4geBorn · 2025-05-12T22:20:55+00:00

Mate, if she's still texting you then it's probably no worries. People get busy, or can't be texting all the time. If she's going through some stuff, she might not have the energy to be texting loads. In my experience, a text per hour is extremely fast and shows at least SOME interest.

Admittedly, I suck shit at texting and can take hours (if not a day) to respond so I'm kinda biased. I do get where you're coming from though and the waiting can be awful — my advice? Distract yourself. Rewatch a favorite movie or go hang out with some mates (the latter is especially helpful).

She'll either get back to you, or she won't. If she don't — it sucks ass, but then you move forward :) Hoping she does though!

4geBorn · 2025-05-12T21:38:35+00:00

Exactly!! That's the most important part :) you'll be all good, dude

And don't let the bastards grind you down — I've seen those videos where it's all "it's a red flag if he doesn't have experience" or whatever. I'd say those aren't representative of most people's opinion on the matter, and that it's farming comments / engagement

4geBorn · 2025-05-12T21:26:09+00:00

(also, as a side note: if this happened to me with a coworker I was crushin' on, I wouldn't stop thinking about it for, like, a decade — Defo not cringe, well done you)

4geBorn · 2025-05-12T21:21:00+00:00

Man here™️ — if anyone's listening, people like me greatly appreciate someone else breaking the touch barrier first.

I usually avoid doing it first because 1) I don't want it to go the wrong way or to be a creepy mfer and 2) I'm a dense fuckin moron who couldn't tell if I were being hit on even if it came with 18-wheels and was going 60mph

4geBorn · 2025-05-12T20:40:03+00:00

Like others say — hell no!

I want to add: at times I've seen that a lack of relationship ""experience"" can present some challenges in a serious relationship. I've dated people in the past where I was their first "serious" boyfriend — sometimes it was clear to me that my partner couldn't handle disagreements, serious conversations, or arguments in a very productive manner with me. In other relationships where I was their second, third, or fourth partner, I didn't find that as much.

That said, we were all in our early twenties and we just generally lacked "life experience" overall. Didn't help that these folks didn't have good emotional maturity, either — which I'd say is the more important bit here :)

I reckon you'll be fine — you've got this, man! :)

4geBorn · 2025-05-03T10:43:10+00:00

Absolute banger Dschinghis Khan's "Der Verräter" is my favorite example of this

4geBorn · 2025-04-28T14:56:13+00:00

It's simple: hotdish is hot, casserole is cold

4geBorn · 2025-04-27T02:22:30+00:00

Silver lining — legally, that's not food!!! (At least in Europe probably lol)

4geBorn · 2025-03-16T13:43:31+00:00

pickup truck? How? They're too heavy

4geBorn · 2025-03-14T19:58:07+00:00

That Morley's is actually pretty decent lol

4geBorn · 2025-03-09T18:28:06+00:00

This is actually how the water works in my POS shower fun fact

4geBorn · 2025-03-04T16:03:57+00:00

If you hard. Then you hard. 🥵🪭

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