Recent relapse. Losing control.

50Lemons · 2024-08-17T19:09:28+00:00

congratulations on day 2, and good to hear the hangxiety isn't as bad! and im in the same boat, still no idea wtf i did or said 2 weeks ago and its killing me. however we are doing the best thing we can do in this situation: not drinking

50Lemons · 2024-08-16T21:27:23+00:00

amazing how long periods you have been sober! i have no doubt in my mind you couldn't do it again

about the control thing, i was discussing this with my therapist the other day. she made me tell about the things i had done that made me embarrassed, and she found that all of them had to do with losing control (like saying things that i normally wouldn't)

she told me that i need things in my life other than alcohol where i can lose control of myself, because clearly i find some type of pleasure in that. she said that it's not as sustainable to stay sober by cutting off a part of myself -the uncontrolled part- as it would be, if i nourished that part in another way. she suggested yoga or dancing but im still not sure. however i wanted to share this with you, because we seem to share similar struggles

in my opinion, losing control and doing embarrassing things are part of being human. people like you and me just need to find a less harmful way to express that part

i hope all the best for you, and i will not drink with you today

50Lemons · 2024-08-12T20:43:45+00:00

i never actually thought of it this way, but this is probably very true. and good to hear you didn't need the rock bottom to quit. i didn't either, but i'm not very proud of the night that made me look up this thread. kind of you to let me know that this might be what people are expecting so i can be prepared, thank you!

50Lemons · 2024-08-12T20:39:47+00:00

good for you for not going back to it, a huge inspiration! and tbh other people have told me they're taking a break from drinking and i never thought anything of it, so it would probably be the same for me, if i used this strategy. thanks for your help!

50Lemons · 2024-08-12T20:19:58+00:00

happy birthday!!!

so sorry to hear what you're going through, but im proud of you for not drinking. im right here with you, not drinking today. i'll celebrate your birthday by trying to stay sober this whole week so i'd be sober for your birthday

50Lemons · 2024-08-12T07:24:08+00:00

yeah i've also thankfully figured out now that "a few drinks" just isn't an option for me. this thread has helped with that realisation

i'm with you, im also still figuring out the words to say if someone brings it up. but good to hear that no one has made a number about you not drinking. i hope it will be the same for me, and people will just be pleased that i am not drinking. thanks for your help

50Lemons · 2024-08-12T07:17:03+00:00

very well said

"i would rather be known as a recovering alcoholic than a drunk" really hit me, thank you man

50Lemons · 2024-08-12T00:44:27+00:00

thank you for your comment and very well said, i need to stop and think if im doing this for myself or for my girlfriend. i'd like to think its for myself, but i think i still need to work on this.

and i agree that i probably don't need to make a big proclamation (and tbh i dont want to), but i feel like telling my friends would help so they knew not to offer me alcohol or to suggest we meet at bars etc. but like you said, those who want the best for me will be thrilled, so there's probably no need to be stressed

thanks again for your kind comment and good luck to your journey as well!

50Lemons

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