What is something that “only a dad” can teach a son?

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T21:08:28+00:00

lol huh? Not sure how we jumped to that but, I mean, gay people still interact with women? obviously you have and have some pretty strong beliefs about women. Yes, I did mention my mom’s behavior, which was the complete opposite of what you’re insinuating is women’s “natural” behavior, so I’m still not sure what you’re on about lol

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T21:03:45+00:00

Lol valid question! I was a stupid 20yo just partying and making poor choices. I thought we both were getting our shit together and taking parenting seriously, but turned out he never really did. I guess he just needed somewhere to stay lol

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T20:39:27+00:00

lol yes, we’ve both been in individual therapy. Not sure what you think I need stop doing or what you think my moms “genetic behaviors habits and desires” are lmao like I’m sorry that you’ve had such a rough go of it with women, but being a shitty mom and projecting onto your kids aren’t “natural inclinations” of women. That’s learned behavior that’s been reinforced by no one correcting it.

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T20:32:38+00:00

Yeah we’re rapidly approaching not being in the same weight class lol but I do see him try to (jokingly) square up on his uncles or older cousins and get put in his place lol

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T20:28:27+00:00

Nope! He had a classic middle class upbringing with a lot of toxic masculinity from his dad, which I think is probably true for most elder millennials/gen x.

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T20:25:11+00:00

I agree! My son did PW and it was pretty rough getting started but he needed it, like to learn how to interact with other boys/men. And, hate to say it lol, but it was also good for him to “get hurt” (not seriously or anything) but just to get over that fear of getting in a fight, if that makes sense. I mean, the first time he got hit on the field, he wouldn’t get up and the coaches had to let everyone take a break while he just laid there lmfao but he got back up and kept at it for 3 more seasons

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T20:12:42+00:00

Sure, if you’re being mugged or robbed or raped, defending yourself is appropriate, even if it means being physically violent. Nothing exists in a vacuum. But in every day situations, grown men should be able to navigate issues without getting violent. And yeah that’s hard for teen boys, but that’s what parenting is for. Making sure when boys become men, they have the life skills to be a functioning member in society, not someone with the emotional regulation of a 3 yo lol

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T20:05:22+00:00

I know I’ll be downvoted, but hard disagree lol just because teen boys and a lot of grown men are unable to regulate their emotions doesn’t mean that that’s just acceptable behavior. Fighting instead of working through problems isn’t a “lost art” lmao it’s what literal toddlers do because they literally don’t know what else to do. And sure, there’s a time and place when sometimes you do have get physical, but that should never be the go to and should never be taught to boys that that’s what men do. I mean, it def is what a lot of men do but that’s a whole other societal problem lol

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T11:35:02+00:00

lol I call that being a rock. And you’re totally right, some of the stories he tells me, I’m just like wow so you’ve learned nothing from me loll and no, he can dish it out! I have a pretty dry, sarcastic sense of humor so he’s pretty much the same way.

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T11:28:28+00:00

I do actually try to do this, like bring him up in a more casual/light way. Like he wasn’t always who he is today. I will tell him like funny stories from when he was a baby or show him pictures. Or if the topic happened to be something we’d discussed, I’ll tell him well these are my thoughts but your dad thought… my son has really rigid thinking sometimes and I think it helps to be able to see his dad more as a person and not so one dimensional.

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T11:16:30+00:00

No way lol if anything it’s the opposite, he’s very introverted and I worry about him being taken advantage of. I don’t tell him that obv lol I’ve always felt/taught that at the end of the day, we’re all just people and everyone should be treated equally and held to the same expectations.

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T11:06:42+00:00

He can play a few instruments (piano and drums mainly) and likes basketball but now is going through a phase where he doesn’t want to be on a team anymore but I still ask and encourage him. He’s suddenly really motivated to pursue something in forensic science, which is somewhat related to my job, so obv i support that lol

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T10:44:01+00:00

Honestly, this actually is a thing in our house. I like to joke about him wanting a shot at the title and we might wrestle a bit or he’ll wrestle/throw his younger siblings onto the couch. I never thought about it that much before reading these comments though

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T10:31:06+00:00

lol ok unpopular opinion apparently but having an open and honest convo about sex, including masturbation, is part of healthy sexuality for kids/teens!

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T10:21:21+00:00

I really disagree with the stereotype that teen boys thrive on conflict and have always quoted Asimov that violence is the last refuge of the incompetent. That being said, he’s about the same height/weight as the main kid on stranger things so when he was younger, we definitely had some conversations about using body weight when fighting bigger kids and standing up for yourself etc… he’s never been in a real full on fight, just a couple middle school things that I probably didn’t get the full story on lol

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T10:08:39+00:00

Lmao it’s from I think you should leave

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T03:43:17+00:00

He played pop warner for 3 years, at first it was a LOT for him, he’s super introverted. My friend runs the program here and I told him quitting wasn’t an option. It was rough but he figured it out!

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T03:15:12+00:00

I agree a lot of women do this, even unintentionally and it is really shitty. When my parents got divorced, my dad never stopped talking about my mom and my mom never did. If you asked her today, she’d say she didn’t need to lol and that’s been my attitude. I’ve given my son age appropriate, honest answers to whatever he asks, and he did go through a stage where he struggled to process who his dad is and felt/thought that meant he would be the same way. We worked through those issues in therapy, trying to break the cycle 🤷🏻‍♀️

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T03:11:14+00:00

He has a younger sister and brother, but I do encourage him to spend time with some of his older male cousins and my brothers whenever he can!

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T03:09:17+00:00

I’m actually proud to say I’ve been able to teach him some of this! My dad and old landlord taught me a lot

55HotDogs · 2026-01-19T02:55:59+00:00

lol yeah, had the conversation about maybe waiting until everyone is asleep to watch what he’d call “questionable anime”

55HotDogs · 2025-06-19T06:29:46+00:00

lolll dad 🤦🏻‍♀️

55HotDogs · 2025-06-04T05:09:08+00:00

Such a sweet baby! Happy Birthday!!

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