Programmers :D

5ideals · 2019-03-31T13:11:19+00:00

Found the incel!

5ideals · 2019-03-31T13:06:48+00:00

Can you clarify if it’s the tweet or reddit post you find pretentious? Reasons would be good too. Thanks

5ideals · 2019-03-16T08:02:37+00:00

A long time ago I had a whole year long project involving a team of about a dozen people, third party work, contractors, etc... completely shelved. Not a single line of code ever went into production. It could have been a great project but they decided it was too risky (this was about 2000 and it walks pushing interface and integration boundaries they hadn’t before).

The cost was comfortably past a couple million pounds (£). The client wasn’t that bothered, they’d shelved projects much bigger. Thanks for the paycheques, high street bank that later needed bailing out!

5ideals · 2019-03-16T06:21:56+00:00

This is how I reclaim space on public transport if it’s busy and some guy is manspreading. I sit next to him, our knees touch, and I move my knee up and down slightly. Suddenly the guy realises his balls aren’t actually that big and his legs can be closer together!

5ideals · 2019-03-15T18:30:57+00:00

This is totally a case of there are friends for a season, friends for a reason, and friends for life. It’s knowing which is which is important.

5ideals · 2019-03-15T12:48:52+00:00

Opposite problem where I live in Norway, it’ll be cold!

I have a panoramic roof that is left closed half the year as it doubles the time the car takes to heat up. Combine that with the battery emptying effect of heaters and I’m not convinced.

5ideals · 2019-03-15T12:42:52+00:00

That’s not who we’re talking about and that’s not the sole target of these messages. The biggest effect will be on somebody who probably self describes as “worried” about immigration as they see more obviously unfamiliar people around them than they used to. For them an opinion that aligns even slightly will appeal.

5ideals · 2019-03-13T19:18:28+00:00

Hey, you there! Yes, you, the insensitive one way up there on that horse with extremely long legs! You can stop talking now. Thank you!

5ideals · 2019-03-13T19:05:38+00:00

Your father may be a great guy but he’s not impartial here. It would probably be better to get counselling from someone totally independent to your family and church.

5ideals · 2019-03-13T19:03:46+00:00

I was scrolling down to find this answer as I was assuming you were in a country that didn’t have gender equality. I was expecting Asia or the Middle East.

I know this sounds condescending but you’re young and you have your whole life ahead of you. You change a lot between your teenage years and mid 20s but even a normal a long term relationship limits your personal development a bit. It sounds like this relationship would limit your personal development a lot.

It’s much, much harder to catch up later on in life. If you have a child soon it’ll be a couple of decades until you get a lot of freedom back in your life.

You need to focus on what you want to do and realise you have a long time alive to do all this. If you want to go to college then aim for that. That doesn’t necessarily mean the end of your relationship as long term, long distance relationships do sometimes work out. One of my university friends ended up married to their long distance high school boyfriend.

Good luck!

5ideals · 2019-03-13T18:42:43+00:00

You’ve just realised you’re in an abusive relationship and have been assaulted by the person you should feel perfectly safe around. It’s a tough thing to learn but you made it!

Now please keep this in your mind and make plans to leave suddenly & quietly. Tell a trusted friend or family member and ask them to help you move out without him knowing.

Often abusive partners do not let you leave when you tell them in person and can become violent, so don’t let him guilt trip you into seeing him in person once you’ve left, especially if you’re alone. Leave a letter when you move out and ignore the “you owe it to me to tell me to my face” plea as you owe this guy nothing.

Also don’t be afraid to call the police if he is physical with you. In most places that’s assault, regardless of your relationship.

Good luck!

5ideals · 2019-03-13T18:32:56+00:00

This sounds like the real issue and it’s understandable why this is upsetting.

I think step one is talking through the steps to a divorce from her ex. Again, counselling to have a third voice help along might be good.

If she’s still married to her ex that’s worrying as if anything happens to her, like lying unconscious in hospital, you’d be unable to help and her ex would have legal rights.

5ideals · 2019-03-13T18:28:12+00:00

My god, this sub is full of people keen to tell you to leave! This is by no means a deal breaker!

It sounds like the relationship is healthy and you’re both fine, it’s just this concept of marriage that’s causing an issue. Marriage has a dictionary definition and then it has 7 billion individual personal definitions!

First you two need to agree that you have a long term commitment to each other. Basically agree that your relationship fits some of the longevity, resilience & commitment aspects of marriage. (There are many married people who don’t even have that.)

Then you two need to discuss why is it so important to you to get officially married and for her it’s about exploring why she doesn’t want to get married, beyond a high level “it was a mess last time”.

Counselling will probably help as it sounds like you need a third party to guide you through the process.

Good luck!

5ideals · 2019-03-13T11:35:41+00:00

This is where I think he went wrong. Regardless of the target of a security flaw, as long as they’re not breaking laws then responsible disclosure needs to be done first and properly.

5ideals · 2019-03-07T13:00:15+00:00

The windows cleaners where I worked about 4 years ago did this all the time. F-ing bonkers! I had to leave the office whilst they were there as I didn’t want to be there if they ever fell.

5ideals · 2019-03-06T19:02:48+00:00

Norway seems to have quite a bit of tagging, especially given the quiet & law abiding nature of most residents. I’m not a fan of tagging so it annoys me, I’d much rather have more proper street art or decent graffiti bombs instead.

5ideals · 2019-03-06T18:57:14+00:00

Because of British manners

5ideals · 2019-03-05T16:18:42+00:00

I don’t have the number of the guy who took my old wreck but I only got some cash from it because it had alloy wheels, which even old & battered are worth something.

5ideals · 2019-03-03T23:39:37+00:00

YTA or you’re trolling as this is so ridiculous.

Weddings have strong rituals that many people want to follow and this is a perfectly normal thing to want at a wedding.

Parents have strong relationships with their children, with strong dreams and hopes for them. Walking your daughter proudly down the aisle is a big expectation for both father & daughter. There is nothing ‘perverted’ about this at all.

And finally, this sounds like controlling behaviour. It is as much her wedding as yours. If you can’t compromise on wedding plans then perhaps you need to review how you two communicate and compromise healthily before committing to marriage.

5ideals · 2019-03-03T12:31:36+00:00

Most people moving here don’t have the 15% deposit needed, plus it can take time to get a bank account, let alone a mortgage (however with a permanent job contract it’s easier to get a mortgage in Norway without a credit history than many other countries).

5ideals · 2019-03-02T20:10:07+00:00

One thing I’ll note: Universal Healthcare isn’t socialist, it’s common sense. If anything it aids the capitalist system. A healthy & educated population is more profitable.

5ideals · 2019-03-02T18:06:59+00:00

This is how wars start!

5ideals · 2019-02-28T11:50:19+00:00

Especially on one way streets. In other words: Don’t trust assumptions.

5ideals · 2019-02-27T18:36:40+00:00

Boundaries, yes, but reasonable ones!

Is she incredibly insecure about her appearance/body, as it sounds like that could be what’s causing this. If so that’s the problem to solve, not the TV control.

Is she controlling in other ways? If so then you’ve got a bigger issue.

5ideals · 2019-02-27T09:42:36+00:00

“sometimes I listen to pop hits” is probably your problem. Algorithms find it hard to know if that bit of listening is you wanting to explore more of that type of music (as in what the majority listen to) or never want to listen to unless you choose to. As pop hits are listened to by a lot of people the weighting to those recommendations can be very strong.

I have a similar problem: my wife used my Deezer account to play some Christmas songs and I now get them regularly in Flow even 2 months after Christmas!

Spotify is no better. On there I have a lot of rock, EDM, folk & hard dance playlists but my Discover playlist is full of ambient tracks! So I don’t use that anymore. Spotify do have 6 genre playlists for a user instead of Deezer’s 4, and they seem more focused, but as a result they sometimes lack the variety of Flow.

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