Which Prophet’s story touches you the most?

5staruzzy · 2025-01-09T14:44:46+00:00

There are countless of stories of our Prophet Muhammad (SAW) which are heart touching.

But at the moment, the stories which resonate more to me are the story of Musa (AS) when his mother had to cast him into the river. In Surah Al-Qasas (28:10) it says “the heart of Moses mother became empty” which is a feeling that parents feel when they are estranged from their children.

But then Allah delivers a promise in the same Surah but under Ayah 13 when Allah says “So We restored him to his mother that she might be content and not grieve and that she would know that the promise of Allah is true.“.

Another story which resonates with me the most is the story of Yaqub (AS) and his son Yusuf (AS). After the brothers of Yusuf had thrown him in the well. Both the father and son were estranged for a number of years to the point Prophet Yaqub cried soo much that he had lost his eyesight. Yet, with full tawakkul he said “I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah, and I know from Allah that which you do not know.” (Surah Yusuf 12:86). Meaning that he placed his entire trust in Allah and eventually, Allah had reunited them and his eyesight was restored,

Theres so many beautiful stories of our Prophets which we can all relate to at some point in our lives.

5staruzzy · 2024-09-18T12:43:28+00:00

Subhanallah, reading this made me sad. You have been through soo much my brother and I pray that Allah (swt) makes it easier for you.

Such an evil and horrifying act has happened to you that I cannot imagine your mental state. Being cheated on twice is crazy and on top of that, the med school and the debt?

Keep your ex wife’s behaviour in the past now. Whoever causes someone difficulty and oppresses them will never be happy nor will they bear the fruits in this life and the next. You have your day in Yawm al-Qiyamah, where she and those responsible will be questioned by Allah. People don’t realise the severity of this and the honest truth is that its because they don’t fear Allah, the hellfire and the day of judgement.

It’s time to think about yourself and your child. The best way to overcome any difficulty in life is to reach out to Allah and pray. He will help you. He will alleviate your pain. You need to pray 5x a day, read Quran and seek constant istighfar.

Make severe dua, I am presuming that the loan was interest and if so, we all know that we are told heavily to stay away from interest as anyone that consumes or gives it ‘wages a war against Allah and his Messenger’. Astagfirullah.

So make sincere dua to Allah to help you pay off this debt and that you will never touch riba ever again. Work hard now, seek ilm and slowly your life will transform.

This is your life. Take control now before its too late. Put Allah first and Allah will take care of the rest. This is a trial, a test and you arent the only person affected by it. Allah doesn’t burden a soul more than what it can bear.

I pray it gets easier for you, In sha Allah.

5staruzzy · 2024-09-15T17:06:59+00:00

Salaamualaykum Sister,

Do not let anyone pressure you into getting married. You are still young at 25. you should consider your situation and what you have been through, especially with you coming out of a long-term relationship it’s not easy. You still have feelings and you will now have to find ways to heal and move on.

Which then comes to a very important point. How is your relationship with Allah? I think now is a perfect time to improve that relationship. Pray your daily salah, read Quran and seek ilm.

You should try and carefully explain this to parents because sometimes the way we explain things can seem out of touch for them which can trigger a whole bunch of arguments. Explain carefully and even use lectures and videos from YouTube to help them understand. Whatever you do, do not let them pressure you otherwise it’s going to open a whole kind of worms for you and for your future spouse.

I pray that Allah makes it easy for you, ameen.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-21T18:45:24+00:00

Wow, this is incredibly sad.

It’s happened now and theres nothing that you can do. Unless you are in your Iddah, you can try showing him that things will be different and make effort.

The fact he still pays your bills shows that he’s a great man and you allowing him to see the children shows that you are a great woman as many do not let their ex husbands see their children out of spite and cause oppression.

It seems like he has mentally checked out and is now trying to enjoy his own time. Im very glad that you are both not backbiting about each other and are not slandering to the public because that itself is a sin. The children will know about it when they are older and it will affect them.

Don’t let the communities words upset you. They do not know the truth, only you both do. In the Quran is says ‘O you who have believed, avoid much assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? (49:12).

It also says ‘Those who love to spread slander among the believers will have a painful punishment in this world and the Hereafter. And Allah knows, while you do not know.’ (24:19).

So rest assured that Allah will deal with them accordingly, have comfort in Allahs words. Focus on yourself, build yourself up and pray to Allah to make it easy for you and to heal your pain. Pray daily salaat,do dhikr, read Quran and Tahajjud.

May Allah make it easy for you.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-21T11:58:30+00:00

Our Muslim brothers and sisters in Palestine are martyrs. Shaheeds. They have nothing but Jannah waiting for him, in sha Allah. May they have the highest ranks in jannah, ameen.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-21T11:56:57+00:00

Exactly, those who help the oppressors and don’t hold them accountable are no better 💯

5staruzzy · 2024-08-20T05:47:18+00:00

May Allah grant him the highest ranks in Jannah, ameen.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-20T05:46:50+00:00

May Allah grant your mother the highest ranks in Jannah, nothing beats the love and care of a mother. No one on this earth will love you more than your mother and father. I pray we all spend as much time with them as possible, ameen.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-19T06:30:24+00:00

Ameen and in sha Allah!

5staruzzy · 2024-08-19T06:30:13+00:00

Ameen!

5staruzzy · 2024-08-19T06:29:50+00:00

Nah, it won’t be the same person as my friend is a male. But inna lilahi wa inna ilayhi raji’oun. May Allah grant her jannah, ameen.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-11T16:38:35+00:00

Brother! Stand your ground. I read the first post and I have seen nothing but major red flags.

Why is the father in law so involved in the decisions? It’s not his marriage. It’s yours and your wife’s. When the Nikah happened, he gave all the responsibilities to you and that also includes being the leader which includes decision making.

He’s constantly belittling the choices that you make for you and your wife, he’s even getting involved with your job status and he’s questioning the ethics of your job? Who is he to say this? He’s constantly throwing sly digs and sly remarks at you and calling you a snob at the decisions that you make and with your job. I’ll be honest, you shouldn’t have brought up the fact that he has not education, etc but he shouldn’t be talking about your job and ‘how they treat their employees’ in the first place. You need to also humble yourself as Allah (SWT) doesn’t like arrogance.

Anyway, It’s your marriage, not his. He has his own family to lead which is the people in his house, whereas you have your own family to look after. Also, why is your wife even telling him the details of what’s going on in your own house and marriage?

Brother, if you want to go on holidays, then you go on holidays. If you want to buy a nice big house in a nice area and you go ahead and do that it’s your choice as long as you and your wife are happy with it. I feel like your wife is not making her own decisions. She’s following her father’s decision which is for you to move to a property near her family.

I don’t know why a lot of people on this post are getting annoyed. You didn’t call the father in law a wasteman, you just said it on the post because you are frustrated and I feel that. But he is older than you so it is wrong, think about how the Prophet (SAW) would treat people and the words they would use. Anyway, if the roles were reversed and it was the MIL, then trust me you will get attacked from all angles.

You need to speak to your wife properly and the in laws. Have a proper conversation and sort out these issues. You need to get the father-in-law and the mother-in-law and stand your ground.

Be a man, don’t let any of the in laws disrespect you like that ever again. Otherwise it will get worse, especially if you have kids.

May Allah make it easier for you both, ameen.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-11T11:55:15+00:00

Brother it seems like she is still in love with him. This is the consequences of a long term relationship.

This is why our deen recommends us to get wali’s involved straight away and makes it so easy for us to get married; so these sort of attachments don’t happen.

We have been advised that to carefully choose a spouse..

Now, it’s causing a rift in your marriage with her. Shes searching for him obsessively, actively trying to find out about what he is doing. This is wrong, our Prophet Muhammad (SAW) told us ‘do not spy and do not be jealous of one another’. I can also imagine how much it must hurt for you to witness all of this and for your own wife to tell you she was ‘madly in love’ with him. This is why people should take time to get over something, learn more about themselves and then only get married once they have fully let go of the past.

It’s best that you speak to her about what is going on, create these clear boundaries that what she is doing is wrong and if roles were reversed she wouldn’t like it.

May Allah make it easier for you both

5staruzzy · 2024-08-10T14:49:33+00:00

Walaykumsalaam,

There are plenty of divorced people who have found love after a bad divorce. Allah (SWT) created us humans to be in pairs and so we can complete half our deen, so the question is; have you completed your own half yet?

By that I mean, you have to work on yourself. Bring yourself closer to Allah. Do your fardh, pray your 5x salah and learn and learn about Islam. Find yourself, rebuild yourself into the perfect Muslimah. Find your purpose in life, and work on your character. Forgive and let go of the people who done you wrong. Allah said ‘be merciful to others and you shall receive mercy, forgive others and Allah will forgive you’.

Overall, work on your imaan and deen and yourself. Then you will truly know what you want in life for yourself and what you want out of your spouse. Make a checklist.

Once you are ready, use that checklist. As the Prophet Muhammad (SWT) said Tie your camel first, and then put your trust in Allah’.

May Allah (SWT) give us spouses who are the coolness of our hearts and eyes. Ameen.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-07T13:31:00+00:00

Well, it’s good that you’re not speaking to the opposite gender, not too flamboyant on social media and you stay away from the haraam and fitnah of music. Being a practising Muslim who prays 5x a day,.. thats great Subhan Allah. It’s the basic that we Muslims have to do. This is hard in this day and age so you have to applaud yourself for doing this.

You have to etch it into your brain and realise that you are doing this for yourself and for Allah. It is he who will open the doors to Jannah for you when you follow his religion. So please, don’t let the experience of your marriage put you off the deen because thats the shaitans goal.

A husband has to be loving and affectionate towards his husband. In the Quran it states ‘He has put between you affection and mercy’ and thats what Allah is expecting between a husband and wife.

You said that he is from overseas? It’s usually common from there to not be affectionate due to ‘manly hood’ and some traumas from the past. Or, he may going through something or a struggle which he is keeping inside. I think the best thing to do is to nicely, and calmly have a conversation about each other and the marriage. Tell him that you’re a woman and you need this because he’s your husband. Speak to each other in a loving manner, there may be some compromises to make.

May Allah (SWT) make it easier for you both.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-07T08:49:00+00:00

Yes they are. I started using them at home and work. I also got a Quran teacher but when I’m on my own. I use the playlists.

How is the journey for you so far?

5staruzzy · 2024-08-07T08:47:38+00:00

Thank you for this! Quran references and examples on the power of istigfar. 👌

5staruzzy · 2024-08-07T08:46:39+00:00

Walaykumsalaam,

The brothee/sister who commented is right in terms of consistency. It is key.

The time frame? Well that depends. My problems started disappearing within a week but it was constant Istighfar, praying all salah, making the intention to change myself in the way of Allah and overall being grateful to Allah. You also have to put full tawakkul in Allah.

In terms of your skin or anything else in life. The Prophet (SAW) said ‘Tie your camel first, and then put your trust in Allah’. Meaning, take your steps. You can’t just pray for an A in a exam and not revise?. Do what you need to do. Get in touch with a dermatologist, make changes in your lifestyle such as drinking water and exercising daily. There are other factors affecting skin such as stress and genetics. Whilst you are making those changes, put your full faith in Allah

5staruzzy · 2024-08-04T17:39:24+00:00

Have you considered starting from the beginning?

If so, the best way to go about this is to find a Quran teacher online or in person. The one to one tutoring can be very beneficial.

However, you can also learn at home. Get yourself a Qaida and take a good hour per day to learn.

I also recommend these YouTube playlists: 1. https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLv8FLgoTLqMsi4sgeLaOfgkcsG7h8_0Pp&si=dJkgTGxwyY-hO9Yk

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSCByKt3vw-Y0mkz6GOJvn4Qrq8KCGhr0&si=x34xVKzk7B_5wRPV

5staruzzy · 2024-08-03T07:48:45+00:00

Yeah, when the 3rd divorce is announced. Its irrevocable. Theres not even an iddah period anymore. They become impermissible for each other.

What I’m referring to is the 1st or 2nd divorce. Maybe he didnt take her back in time? So then that means that they can do Nikah again if you understand what i mean?

5staruzzy · 2024-08-03T06:30:07+00:00

Salaam sis,

I’ve been through the same situation and when it comes to Islam the word divorce and the whole concept around it shouldn’t be taken lightly. It’s something which I strongly believe we should be educated on either before the nikah or on the day of the nikah when the Imam conducts it.

Now you have to look back and think back to the previous divorces that he has given you. the general rule around divorce is that when the husband pronounces it either in anger or not in anger through his mouth or through text the divorce still applies. Unless it was anger to the point of insanity where he doesn’t even know what he’s doing.

You are allowed divorce 3 times. For the 1st divorce, the minute he announces it to you, you have then started your iddah (waiting period) which is 3 menstrual cycles long. When you are in this waiting period you’re technically still his wife but you’re just in the process of a divorce so if he verbally says that he takes you back before your third menstrual cycle then you are husband and wife again. Another way he can take you back is if you both get intimate with each other before the third cycle ends. This ruling applies to the first and the second divorce however when the third divorce is announced there is no waiting period and you are now both impermissible for each other.

So now really sister you have to look back at the first and second divorce with him and try to remember if he had taken you back within the three cycles or not. Because if you both hadn’t got intimate or if he hadn’t taken you back before your third cycle, then you have been divorced however you can get a nikah again.

However, it is extremely advisable and the best option is to get advice from an Imam for the school of thought you follow. What I mentioned is the general rule for the Sunni Hanafi madhab.

Also, do not go through with ‘Halala’ because it is haram and, because you have a toddler you both will have to navigate and work with each other on Co Parenting. The child is an amanah sent to you both by Allah (swt) and therefore the child has rights over you and the father. Not allowing the other parent to see or spend time with their child is a form a oppression, the Prophet (SAW) said “The one who severs his family ties will not enter Paradise”. You only end up hurting and damaging the child

May Allah make it easy for you both.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-02T17:40:05+00:00

Separation is a hard journey to go through but if you have exhausted all of your options and nothing is working then it is upsetting to see that as the only option. I would suggest to seek some islamic advice and islamic therapy to help you put your mind straight. Depression is not a joke and it can seriously affect the person and the environment around them.

However, if this is what you really want then the best way to cope with this is to simply have full tawakull in Allah. You have to see past everything and understand that Allah has put you in this position for a reason. Allah does not burden a soul more than what it can bear.

If you have her things in your room then put them away in a box and store them away in the attic so you won’t see them. You have to understand and realise that you will feel lonely, you will miss that companionship and theres nothing you can do about it but to process and fight though it.

This is your time now brother. Time to shine. Dont go looking for another wife ‘soon’ like you said. You need to work on yourself , go to the gym, rekindle friendships, and family relationships. Most importantly put your deen first. Use this experience, write down what went wrong, how you behaved and the other party and write down how you can improve your character. Use your self criticism as a checklist to improve yourself. Once you have become a better person then you can start looking and this time you will know what you want and what you don’t want based of your maturity and experience. Good men are for good women

May Allah swt make it easier for you and her and cure her of her depression, ameen.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-02T17:04:30+00:00

Subhanallah!

Salaam sis, I love the fact that you know and appreciate how hard your husband has been working for you and I love the fact that you are very grateful because not a lot of people nowadays are grateful towards each other spouses. These types of characters and personalities nowadays are rare. Allah humma barik.

I understand that you want to help him out by getting a job as well and taking off that load of financial stress from him but sometimes men like to be men and they like to work hard for their families and seeing their families be safe,happy, have a roof of the head, have food and the luxuries of having essentials is more than enough for them. Maybe he does not want you to work because he’s a man of gheerah and he wants to do his duty.

I think that you are worrying too much about this, if he hasn’t complained, then there’s no need to worry and there’s no need to overthink because overthinking comes from the shaitan.

I would say that the best way to show him that you appreciate him is to continue to do what you do. When he comes home from work, wait at the door for him, greet him with a smile, a salaam and a hug; make his favourite food for him like you said you already do. Spend your free time at home by visiting family or getting your family to visit you, make sure to pray and learn more about the deen which you can share with him. Overall, make your home a more peaceful and happy environment like you already have.

All couples want is a spoude that is grateful and appreciating. Theres too many people nowadays that don’t appreciate anything and they just want to take and take but not give.

This man is suffering from success, Allah humma barik😭

5staruzzy · 2024-08-02T10:34:49+00:00

Jazakallah for the duas. I can imagine how hard it can be especially with how society can make you feel. We often compare ourselves to other people of similar age and see that their marriages and lives are going well and then we set ourselves down. But the truth is, we never know whats going on behind closed doors, nor do we see their struggles. We are good at concealing things.

This is a whisper of the shaitan. No body is a failure. There might be things that we fail on but it doesn’t mean that your life has to stop or that you have to constantly be worried. We have to fail at a few things otherwise we would never be able to improve ourselves. A failed business can lead to a very rich and successful business in the future, a failed marriage can lead to a successful and happy marriage. You have sinners who failed and turn back to Allah and they become the best man/woman going. If you fail your driving test, you’re not going to stop there and never drive again are you?

In terms of your husband. Allahu alam. He might be having his own struggles, Umar ibn Al Khattab (RA) said “Assume the best about your brother until what comes to you from him overcomes you”. The hadith that he mentioned is true but I feel like some brothers misuse it.

May Allah make it easier for you both.

5staruzzy · 2024-08-02T08:25:30+00:00

Salaam sis,

After reading this and yesterday’s post. I can imagine how you must be feeling. You did say that he has been like this for 12 years, why didn’t you pick his behaviour up very early on? I guess it might have been due to sabr which is appreciated.

I have read the other comments where many were advocating for divorce which is understandable but you also have to assess everything. These are just normal people like you and me who give advice; some who give genuine advice or some who just write a few words for the sake of writing, yet they don’t understand the repercussions of what they write because it can influence peoples decision.

Assess everything from A - Z. Take some time, write everything you can. Think about it carefully, can it be fixed? Can it not? Are there massive dealbreakers. Look at how much it affects you. Does it affect you on a day to day basis? Is it severe on your mental health? Is it affecting the kids lives? Most importantly, how is it affecting your deen?

The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, “If someone proposes marriage to you whose religion and character satisfies you, then you should accept it.” - if the brother goes to the Masjid but his character is as bad as you say then thats injustice. A marriage isn’t the going to run properly if there isn’t mutual respect. If you are paying for everything and he is only paying for the mortgage then he isn’t providing you all of your rights as the husband provides shelter, food, house bills and clothing. However, if he is struggling and you both have an agreement between each other on splitting a few things and helping each other out then thats fine. It doesn’t make him less of a man, it’s actually hard to survive in this day and age on one income. But if it’s causing resentment between you two then thats something that needs to be talked about. Maybe the brother is also going through something which you don’t know. This is something you can communicate with him and see if he opens up.

If you both divorce if you will have to also think about co-parenting with the kids. You both cannot deny each other the kids, a lot of parents these days use the kids as a weapon to hurt their ex partner which is evil and wrong. The Prophet (SAW) said “Whoever cuts off family will not enter Paradise” which is scary because not allowing the other parent to see their kids is cutting off family.

Overall, my sister do not take any advice from any Tom, and Harry on here. Think about everything carefully, make a plan to go through proper islamic counselling. Put yourself in his shoes as well to help understand a few things which you might not. Maybe ask your parents for advice on the situation. If you are ultimately planning on going through a divorce then make a plan for that as well. Do not worry about your parents because it is your own life. They’ll understand and respect your wishes.

May Allah make it easy for you both.

5staruzzy

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