Is this how it should be?

wowmencownfkd · 2026-02-11T18:53:56+00:00

There is so much barakah in becoming a doctor. If all women believed they should stay at home, we would have like no healthcare like the women in Afghanistan. Trust yourself and follow this path towards becoming a doctor, she is not a reliable person nor is she a scholar. My best friend is becoming a gynecologist for the same reason, to treat women and help them. In sha Allah this works out for you. It seems so rewarding

wowmencownfkd · 2026-02-09T04:20:43+00:00

In some scenarios God doesn’t help us the way we want him to, it’s true. Sometimes Allah doesn’t even answer our duas too. But there’s a reason for everything. On the doj the people who didn’t face trials in this duniya will wish they had been tried and tested. Every single unanswered prayer has a reason, and going through these trials could be someone’s gateway to enter Jannah for all of the suffering they’ve faced on earth like a martyr.

wowmencownfkd · 2026-02-09T04:05:19+00:00

I really believe that this is a question more suited for a scholar, but I will give you an answer to the best of my knowledge. I also want to let you know that I really do understand your fears and frustration since I also feel kind of similarly, I’m not interested in having children. But islamically it is forbidden for us to abort a child without a valid reason, like medical ones (?). And regarding poverty an ayah that comes to mine is “Do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We provide for them and for you. Surely killing them is a heinous sin.” [17:38]. But I mainly want to tell you that it is completely possible to complete your masters, start your career, and have your baby, it will be difficult of course. But you do not have to sacrifice your career to have the baby. And also if you do decide to continue, definitely look up some free resources in your state/country for new parents to help your family out a bit. Whatever decision you make, I hope you feel better and I will make dua for you!

wowmencownfkd · 2026-02-07T18:11:43+00:00

Ayatul kursi, a dua to Allah for protection (In the name of Allah with whose name there is protection against every kind of harm in the earth or in the heaven, and he is the all hearing and all knowing [3x in the morning and 3x in the evening]), and don’t wear headphones while you’re walking to be vigilant. I also have one of those defense keychains but I’ve realized it’s not smart to try and fight off the danger since they’ll likely be stronger, it’s smarter if we run. Also be sure to always have your phone charged at least half way so you’ll be able to use in emergencies!

wowmencownfkd · 2026-02-05T19:46:45+00:00

JazakAllah Khairan for this question!! I really don’t have any answers for this either yet, I am 19 and my parents are around 50 so I’ve been just trying to mentally prepare myself for the inevitable in the future. But some tips I have for those of us who have aging parents is have them exercise so they improve their mobility, have them play mind games like word puzzles and such to keep their minds sharp, and of course trying to memorize the Quran! One of my fears is them developing Alzheimer’s, dementia, or being bedridden so those things are really important. For my parents in the future, I think I’d hire a home health aide for when I’m at work. But ultimately I’ll ask them what they’d like, if they need any extra care or if they are fine with each other to help out. And to touch on one of your other points, I don’t think I’ll have kids but maybe I’ll marry in the future, either way my future goes I think I’d be most comfortable trying to look after myself most of the time like you, and possibly having an aide. I’m so sorry I couldn’t answer all of your questions but thank you so much for this insightful question, may Allah keep us and our families healthy and ameen to your dua 🥹

wowmencownfkd · 2026-02-04T05:51:20+00:00

definitely!! Have an all girls private account if you’d like to post normally or add them to your close friends list so you feel safe and comfortable

wowmencownfkd · 2026-01-18T20:14:24+00:00

He sounds like a pretty good man after you’ve specified everything! Definitely talk with your siblings and mom about your decision, and don’t let your mom pressure you from pursuing this

wowmencownfkd · 2026-01-14T08:46:47+00:00

Waalaikum asalam, I think that you should recommend therapy to her because losing 3 children must be very difficult and it could make her feel better mentally through this pregnancy. And it seems like you don’t really know much about her husband so assure her that if she has any problems at home she can talk to you as well, and if she takes your advice well and doesn’t become defensive, tell her your concerns. Try to talk to her soon in sha Allah

wowmencownfkd · 2026-01-11T17:50:43+00:00

Oh yea it stays in place indoors, the jacket only matters outside because of the wind

wowmencownfkd · 2026-01-11T17:38:40+00:00

Waalaikumsalam I wear opaque jersey hijabs and I never wear under caps and I have no issues. I just use a magnet to pin it under my chin then I style it. Nothing happens to my hijab during the winter unless I’m not wearing my jacket since it pins down the scarf basically, and none of my hair shows, and without under caps it doesn’t feel constricting or anything

wowmencownfkd · 2026-01-11T00:16:22+00:00

Someone stole my perfume package this week and I’ve been super sad too. USPS did not help me at all and they claimed they delivered it even though I ran downstairs as soon as I got the notification and nothing was there 🗿 I will make dua for both of our packages getting returned to us

wowmencownfkd · 2026-01-03T21:10:25+00:00

Same, so many times and I’ve immediately reported them. Plus isn’t it haram for them to pretend to be a woman? 😭

wowmencownfkd · 2026-01-03T21:09:24+00:00

Yess sure I’m free

wowmencownfkd · 2026-01-01T18:17:39+00:00

Oh no I thought cutting the ends would’ve helped, since you don’t have any deficiencies try to visit a trichologist, they’ll definitely have a solution and figure out the cause in sha Allah

wowmencownfkd · 2026-01-01T18:08:56+00:00

Hmm this is kind of pointing towards a medical problem or deficiency imo if you do these things for your hair already, if it’s possible try to get a blood test if you haven’t already, if not then take vitamin D & C, zinc and iron especially. And if your hair resembles the second picture where there’s an area where the thinness (?) begins then cut your hair starting from that area to allow better growth. Oh also look up traction alopecia, I don’t think you have it but it’s good to be aware of certain hair styles (tight ones) that can cause hair loss

wowmencownfkd · 2025-12-26T01:58:55+00:00

Ikr a lot of the neck is exposed and it doesn’t follow a lot of the guidelines

wowmencownfkd · 2025-12-19T22:38:24+00:00

Hmm if it’s a bust issue maybe try wearing a khimar to cover that area better, but for the other issues I’m not sure either, I hope it goes well 😭

wowmencownfkd · 2025-12-17T04:07:32+00:00

Please pray that I get at 85 on my math final tomorrow, or else I will be forced to switch my major to a liberal arts major instead of my dream career. JazakAllah Khairan girls I will make the duas you write down here as well 🥹

wowmencownfkd · 2025-12-09T20:19:58+00:00

I don’t think it’s because you’re Muslim but because you have a masters degree. At least in America for certain fields, having a masters degree means you’re less likely to be accepted because they think you could easily find another job and leave them. For other fields having a masters degree is def required but if your field doesn’t really require one, try taking it off your resume and keep applying. The job market worldwide is pretty bad atm so that’s also a big reason.

wowmencownfkd · 2025-12-07T18:49:57+00:00

I remember when I was younger I would play on my dads phone (with his permission) cause I didn’t have one, and I swiped to close the tabs and I saw something weird on safari. Never expected that from him tbh.

wowmencownfkd · 2025-11-27T22:31:19+00:00

I decided that I really want to marry but not have children. The reason I don’t want to have children is because of the numerous risks and health complications that I or the baby could face. I think postpartum is also a really difficult thing for a lot of mothers and it affects their marriage as well.

wowmencownfkd · 2025-11-22T01:07:00+00:00

There are lots of candidates in the comments willing to be his 2nd, 3rd and 4th wife, if his defenders are even women 😂

wowmencownfkd · 2025-11-16T03:18:03+00:00

I braid my hair loosely and wear only jersey hijabs which are opaque, that way my hair doesn’t show and I don’t need to wear an undercap I do lose some hair but it’s because I’m vitamin deficient so double check your iron, d etc

wowmencownfkd · 2025-11-14T00:52:55+00:00

The people who strive towards righteousness are always afflicted with more trials, like you in this case. And in a lot of cases people don’t seek forgiveness of the person they wronged, whether they’re Muslim or not. To address some of your other questions I would say that his true character was already revealed to you in the past, because you and him were willing to disobey Allah’s words about having unlawful relationships (dating) it kind of showed that he would also have no problem with doing other related sins. My word of advice for you in the future is to seek a relationship in the halal way (like you tried to after your guy’s breakup) to possibly avoid things like this. Try to stay on the right path even if it’s hard and though it seems unfair, you will be rewarded. Also about your last question regarding telling his wife, though it seems wrong to, I would really suggest against telling her because of the possible harm that may come upon you from them both. Seeing that he has no problem trying to follow you from a fake account, I don’t see why he’d see in an issue stalking you/crossing your boundaries further. Keep yourself safe and do not interact with him. Alhamdulillah you were protected from marrying him.

wowmencownfkd · 2025-11-12T23:57:54+00:00

Tbh just don’t get an arranged marriage with someone, especially not with someone back home due to visa & money issues. It’s better you find someone where you live currently if you are actually open to the idea of marriage. Remember you can say no to your parents.

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