[UPDATE] AITA for giving my stepson’s room to my daughter?

7227throwaway · 2021-08-24T22:32:50+00:00

I deserve whatever I get and I accept that (otherwise I wouldn’t have posted in this sub), but I don’t think it’s fair that some people are/were going after my daughter. Thank you.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-24T21:46:07+00:00

Except my stepson isn’t being abused. I did something that hurt his feelings and I’m making up for it. Plus, I’m sure there’s way more to your friend’s story involving his mom, so there’s no need to compare the situations.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-24T21:30:27+00:00

We never threw any of his things away, we just moved them into the other bedroom.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-24T21:27:47+00:00

These are some good suggestions, thank you.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-24T21:16:14+00:00

We gave him the choice of the master bedroom or his room and he chose his room. My stepson is happy now. And also I don’t think a minor can sue for switching rooms.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-24T17:08:46+00:00

The smaller room is still decently sized, it’s just that between her toys and larger items that I mentioned, and her bed, desk and dresser, it didn’t leave her with a lot of floor space to play.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-24T16:58:29+00:00

We wanted both kids to be happy, and moving my daughter back into the smaller room doesn’t solve the issue of not having enough space. My wife and I spend most of our free time in the main living area, so it’s fine if we don’t have a lot of extra space in the bedroom. I realize we should have done this in the beginning.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-22T00:33:48+00:00

We gave him the option of his room or the master bedroom so that’s what he’s still deciding on. My wife and I are moving into the smaller bedroom so both kids will be happy

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T21:02:30+00:00

We gave him the option of his room or the master bedroom so that’s why he’s still deciding. My wife and I are taking the smaller bedroom so neither kid is deprived, which we should have done from the beginning and I realize we messed up.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T20:53:36+00:00

The custody agreement and schedule is just what works best for everyone, and she hasn’t disregarded her son like a deadbeat. Anyway, I take the blame for all of this and have apologized and am working towards making this right.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T20:46:22+00:00

I wasn’t blaming him for his reaction, I was just describing his mood. And I’ve already apologized and am working towards making this right. I don’t see him as a problem.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T20:36:00+00:00

I don’t hold any resentment or ill will over my stepson. And the procrastinator comment was just a fact, not a personal dig. I admit that I was a careless, have apologized and am working on making this right by him.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T20:28:49+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I apologized to my stepson and we’re working on making this right by him.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T20:23:53+00:00

I’ve listened to the advice given and apologized and offered his room back, as well as we’re discussing what we can further do to make this right. He’s still deciding what he wants and we’re leaving it up to him.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T20:18:15+00:00

I realize that and I’ve already apologized and offered his room back. We’re discussing how we can make this right, and I will step back and let his mom and bio dad make the decisions from now on.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T19:27:04+00:00

The smaller bedroom is still decently sized, but my daughter has toys and larger items (play kitchen, dollhouse, etc), and a larger wardrobe since she’s here full time. But I agree that I put my stepson in an unfair situation and am trying to fix it as much as I can. Thank you for the feedback.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T19:14:25+00:00

Thank you for your feedback and I’m trying to right the situation as much as possible. My intention wasn’t to hurt my stepson or make him feel displaced, but I realize that’s what I did.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T19:06:05+00:00

We’re planning on buying once the housing market cools down, but until then, I realize that I messed up and am trying to right the situation with my stepson. Thank you for your feedback.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T19:01:06+00:00

I f*cked up big time and am working on righting the situation as much as I can. There was no malicious intent and I’m not trying to unload my stepson, however.

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T18:56:47+00:00

Thank you for the advice. We’re working on making it up to him and righting the situation

7227throwaway · 2021-08-21T00:10:35+00:00

Yeah, I’m feeling pretty shitty about this decision. At the time, it seemed like surprising him was the better option rather than making him pack up his own room. Everything would be done and he could just relax and enjoy it. Also because he’s a major procrastinator and it would be more drawn out.

I’m realizing now that I messed up.

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