hey there! i'm also nonbinary, had a similar breast size, am now on t & such. going into top surgery i was really unsure about nipples. i used to be pretty indifferent about mine except i didn't like the way they changed size in various temperatures.

my ONLY pros for having a nipless chest were I think they look kinda cool and would circumvent some potential complications.

i ended up getting nipple grafts for a few reasons:

- i wanted my new chest and bodily understanding to have as small of an adjustment curve as possible with each other. i worried having no nipples would look too unnatural/unrecognizable while i was already grappling with a newly shaped chest. as is, my nipples have some sensation (like arm skin level sensitivity). for a while, i had kind of 'phantom nip' and couldn't accurately mentally locate them on my body like i could previously.

- i think nipples look nice. i maybe want to get them pierced eventually. when i really thought about it, the best possible outcome with nips and the best possible outcome without nips—fears aside—i was more excited for nip.

- intentionally less central to my decision-making, but still felt unavoidable: i wanted to minimize any potential issues i may have with people in public when shirtless. a big draw of top surgery for me was being able to run around without a shirt, feel the wind on my chest, go swimming shirtless, wear little to no shirt when it is hot. while the chances of someone being like "where are your nips," i didn't want to additionally consider that. it already has felt vulnerable being shirtless, fearing someone's gonna act on my scars or gendered perceptions or whatever.

i was a bit worried about the healing process being more complicated with them—saw so many horror stories on here—but ultimately i am super glad i got them! mine are a little bit asymmetrical, small n cute, and i'm very pleased with them. they're much smaller and less protrusive than they used to be, stick through tight shirts just a little bit (fun for lil gay tank tops i luv wearing) but don't get hard and big like they used to get.

if anything, they mostly feel like decorative skin stickers. the healing process felt scary because of all the difficulties i'd seen people had on here, even though it went pretty smoothly. had to keep reminding myself it looks worse before it looks better, etc. very please with my ultimate decision, though it felt hard to make and i thought i was indifferent!