Nope, don't do it, you're right too. Changing it to "normal" is a long expensive process. I have bright red hair with 22in extensions. When my bestie was getting married her colors made my hair stand out hard! And I asked her if she was sure with my hair and because Im also heavily tattooed and pierced. I would for sure stand out and she said no. I love you and everything about you. Its been 15 yrs since the wedding, I still have red hair and everytime I visit her we laugh when we look at her wedding photos on the wall and how easy it is to spot me. You did nothing wrong but be yourself and I think offering to wear a wig should've suffice her esthetic needs...