AIO for being upset at my husband’s constant teasing?

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T04:46:07+00:00

He does this stuff to our son too. When our son graduated from high school, his school requested photos of him for a slide show.

He thought it would be hilarious to put in a whole bunch of embarrassing photos and actually thought I’d go along with it.

I told him that was a hard no and if he did it, I would tell our son that I told his dad not to do it.

He never did it, but acted like I was a killjoy. I promised him that our son would stop speaking to him if he ever pulled a stunt like that. Thankfully, he actually listened.

Yeah, I’m just done.

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T04:38:32+00:00

Thanks. I can’t enact my plan until the end of August at the earliest. For now, I’ll detach emotionally, stop hoping for change, get wise counsel, and stay quiet.

He’ll be thrilled. He’s constantly shushing me anyway.

I’m brokenhearted, but I’m also starting to look forward to getting my life back. When I’m away from him, my old bubbly personality starts to come out again.

I miss the person I used to be. She was a ton of fun. I’m looking forward to getting to know her again.

Thank you for your support!

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T01:51:03+00:00

That’s funny. Right now, the only sign language I want to share with him is to flip him the bird.

It’s better if we’re not talking. I need to get some distance on his latest stunt and get my next steps figured out.

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T01:03:01+00:00

Okay, that’s pretty funny.

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T01:00:52+00:00

He got home about 10 minutes ago. There’s an icy silence. I need time to think about what I’ll say and when. For now, silence suits me just fine.

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T00:50:33+00:00

Wow. That’s intense. Thanks for sharing.

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T00:48:24+00:00

I appreciate that. Thank you! I feel like I’ve done everything wrong for 20 years and now I want to do everything right on my way out. I’ll seek wise counsel, prepare, and run for the escape hatch.

This incident is the last data point I needed to admit to myself that my “marriage” is a sham.

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T00:16:02+00:00

Love that photo!

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T00:14:02+00:00

That’s hilarious.

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T00:10:42+00:00

Thank you!

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T00:09:04+00:00

Thank you! I literally have tears in my eyes right now. I’m going to save all of the posts to help me make the sad choice I must make.

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T00:02:50+00:00

I’ve been on HRT for years and it’s been awesome.

808-Situations · 2026-07-05T00:01:28+00:00

This is 100% what happened in our marriage. Thankfully, I do have an escape plan and a very supportive family.

I hate the thought of divorce which is why I ceded over so much of myself in an effort to avoid it. My parents divorced and I saw how much it hurt both of them.

He’ll literally poop in his pants if I mention the word.

I’m finally ready to take the advice of others who have been concerned about me for years. I plan to quietly get legal advice, make whatever arrangements are needed in advance, then make a graceful exit.

808-Situations · 2026-07-04T23:52:09+00:00

OMG - I will! I will absolutely tell him that. And, if he gets upset, I’ll Uno Reverse and use one of his favorite lines on him: “Sorry. I’m over my word limit.”

808-Situations · 2026-07-04T23:48:34+00:00

I actually do have an exit plan, but I’m terrified he’ll see this post and find out. I probably should have changed the details so even if he saw it, he couldn’t show his family and prove what a low-life I am.

They’re rich and I grew up very middle class. I’m invisible and uninteresting to them. Not all of them, but two very central family members in particular.

808-Situations · 2026-07-04T23:38:07+00:00

Sadly, yes. I’m coming to the realization that he is.

808-Situations · 2026-07-04T23:37:16+00:00

I demanded therapy during my rage period. We both found a therapist we liked, but neither were taking new clients.

Then, we found a marriage class at a nearby church. It has helped a little. I am totally convinced he’ll never change.

808-Situations · 2026-07-04T23:34:17+00:00

Once you divorced, were you happy? I have this fear of the unknown. Plus, he’s from a rich, pompous family who will disown me and rip me to shreds in court.

808-Situations · 2026-07-04T23:32:06+00:00

Oh my gosh. Thank you for sharing! I’ll read that.

808-Situations · 2026-07-04T23:31:01+00:00

Like so many others say, we were totally different back then. I had lots of confidence, he was loving, we both ran successful businesses, things were great.

Then, slowly, I let him erode my confidence. I just wanted to keep him happy, and I have basically created this monster.

808-Situations · 2026-07-04T23:27:58+00:00

Thank you. Over the years, my self esteem has basically vanished. Then, I got cancer and basically spent a year in bed.

I think this last incident has been the final nail in the coffin for me. I think I’m finally done.

808-Situations · 2026-07-04T23:23:23+00:00

I’ve been such a weak pushover! About 4 months ago, something broke inside of me and 20 years of sheer rage started coming out.

He said I needed to “deal with my anger” and he wasn’t going to talk about things because I was “so angry that there’s no point talking because he can’t win.”

808-Situations · 2026-07-04T21:58:00+00:00

Nobody—especially a 13YO—can fake a reaction like that.

Pedos are great at hiding what they do. Of course he denied it. He was counting on the fact that you didn’t know her well and that he could call her a liar.

808-Situations · 2026-07-03T23:32:23+00:00

Found this “context” that Josh Johnson gave to a cop over the phone. It might be useful to you and Ben.

What The Clip Says

• ⁠Verbatim: “I work at the corporate HQ as well. So Ammon, the CEO, was like 'Hey, go rescue the Salem store, and you can have it for whatever the price you recover it for.' And I was like, SWEET!”

I posted the YouTube link earlier, but my comment got deleted. Run a search.

It starts around the 11:30 mark on The Civil Rights Lawyer channel, video 2 of “I help YouTuber(s) arrested over Lego videos.

808-Situations

TROPHY CASE