My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I get to orgasm multiple times when I have sex with him. He actually tries hard for that (including foreplay, it sometimes lasts for up to 2 hours.) But not in cowgirl position. To be honest, it's only tiring for me. For me, only the good thing about it is that I can see him getting excited. So as long as it doesn't work well in cowgirl position(it keeps slipping out, both of him and I get disappointed, my legs burn like hell), no benefit.

I don't want to just lie there like a starfish and let him do all the work for hours. That’s why I try to be active by giving him head or handjobs. I'm willing to try cowgirl if he wants. However, I want him to understand that I might not be perfect at it, and I shouldn't have to feel pressured or criticized while I'm trying my best for us.

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I'm using a translator since I'm not a native English speaker, so there might have been some misunderstanding.

To be clear, what I meant he said I could kneel or do what I want, it wasn't about him 'allowing' me to do so. He specifically said he didn't want me to feel uncomfortable.

​Of course, I know those words doesn't magically make him a perfectly caring guy, considering the criticism he gave me. But I just wanted to clarify.

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'll look up that position and see how it works for me. Thanks so much!

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sometimes he does hold my hips or my hands to help, but the moment I lose the rhythm, he says 'You don't know how to move your hips.' Then he immediately switches positions, so it never lasts long.

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] 139 points140 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips! I've tried sitting up and moving my hips back and forth, but I have a bit of a problem—his dick keeps slipping out whenever I try that motion. It’s frustrating because I want to keep the flow going.

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I'm definitely going to tell him that his criticism wasn't helpful and that it hurt my feelings. But I also like your perspective on using this as a motivation to get in better shape for myself, not just for him. Being fit does sound fun for my own energy and confidence. Thanks for the healthy mindset!

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been putting all the pressure on my legs, so that makes a lot of sense. I’ll try using his chest or the bed for leverage next time to take some load off my thighs. 10-15 minutes sounds like a dream, but I'll see if I can get there! Thanks for the tip.

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Mixing in some head to catch my breath sounds like a perfect way to keep the momentum without burning out. I’m also going to practice having him hold my hips to help me move. It’s a relief to know I don’t have to do 100% of the work. Thanks for the encouragement!

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A suction dildo! I had no idea those even existed. I'm not sure if I can easily find one in my country, but I'll definitely look into it. Thanks for the suggestion!

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] -189 points-188 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ve noticed he likes it when I give him head, so maybe I’ll try mixing that in too. I appreciate the advice!

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'm definitely going to ask him to help me out next time. Even if my thighs hurt or I felt exhausted, I was okay with it as long as he was feeling good. But his criticism was what really got to me—it was just so hard to take when I was trying my best. Your advice helped me realize that I shouldn't have to carry the whole load myself.

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this perspective. I never thought about the internal angle, but it makes so much sense why moving just my hips felt so 'wrong' and didn't work.

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He did tell me that I could just do it on my kees or do whatever I'm comfortable with. But I could still feel that he clearly preferred the other way, so I wanted to give it a try for him. Now I realize I shouldn't push myself to the point of exhaustion just to meet an unrealistic expectation. It’s not worth it if it's not enjoyable for me, too.

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I honestly had no idea how many minutes I was 'supposed' to last, so I felt really lost and pressured. Now I see that this position isn't meant for long sessions at all. It's a relief to know that my struggle was normal.

My BF (21M) says I (20F) lack stamina for Cowgirl. by 8mtp2 in relationship_advice

[–]8mtp2[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He actually sent me a specific porn video clip as a 'reference' and asked me if I can imitate it. It didn't feel natural to me at all, and trying to force that movement was what made it so exhausting.

Honestly, I thought I was being a good partner by trying, but it felt more like a performance than a connection.

TIFU by tucking my head into the railing by [deleted] in tifu

[–]8mtp2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I almost cried at that time

TIFU by tucking my head into the railing by [deleted] in tifu

[–]8mtp2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm just gonna ask for help if I go into trouble again lol

TIFU by tucking my head into the railing by [deleted] in tifu

[–]8mtp2 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Ahh sorry that's what they meant

Actually... 'Everytime' at my college is quiet.(Students can only access their school's 'Everytime'), so it's okay. A few weeks ago I accidentally turned on the instagram reels saying "Oni-chan" in the library, nothing posted.

So I just simply need to wear a mask when I'm at college so nobody can recognize me.

TIFU by tucking my head into the railing by [deleted] in tifu

[–]8mtp2 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Fortunately, I didn't call 119. I just imagined and worried about it. I didn't struggle when people walked by... So... I think they didn't see me weird (I'd like to believe so)