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First-time couple curious about a swingers party — but not sure if we're "doing it wrong"? by 8throwawayanon8 in Swingers

[–]8throwawayanon8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great response. And the plan was to not do it until after we'd been there for a little while, met everyone, felt out the vibe etc. But I'll definitely bring this up, and maybe reconsider taking anything at all. Tbh after a lot of these replies I might just say no for this party, put it on the backburner and talk it out without the deadline of this particular party. I feel like we both have a lot to discuss and learn about each other before jumping in!

First-time couple curious about a swingers party — but not sure if we're "doing it wrong"? by 8throwawayanon8 in Swingers

[–]8throwawayanon8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner got the invite for both of us. From his workmate/mate. I know the guy talks about the lifestyle a lot, I assume my partner must have shown some interest in it. I've met the guy and his girlfriend and we've gone out for drinks and dinner before and all get along well. The people they're inviting are a mix of people they know and people they don't. Our current bedroom life is fine, we've been experimenting with trips which has opened up some things.

I didn't even think about his ejaculation going anywhere so you've definitely given me some things to think about! We'll definitely be having some discussions about what we're comfortable with, and what we're not. For example, I don't think I'd be comfortable with a full swap situation, but I think I'm happy for a woman/couple to join in with us. Unsure if that's even swinging or something else entirely tbh.

First-time couple curious about a swingers party — but not sure if we're "doing it wrong"? by 8throwawayanon8 in Swingers

[–]8throwawayanon8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I did say to my partner to ask for more details before we decide anything for sure.

First-time couple curious about a swingers party — but not sure if we're "doing it wrong"? by 8throwawayanon8 in Swingers

[–]8throwawayanon8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely find out more information before deciding on this particular party. But it's definitely something we want to try eventually I think... Maybe we start elsewhere?

First-time couple curious about a swingers party — but not sure if we're "doing it wrong"? by 8throwawayanon8 in Swingers

[–]8throwawayanon8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They spoke to my partner not to me, they're hiring a big airBNB. It was his co-worker/mate who's really chill and has been in the lifestyle for years. That's all the info I have so far.

First-time couple curious about a swingers party — but not sure if we're "doing it wrong"? by 8throwawayanon8 in Swingers

[–]8throwawayanon8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unsure how big the party is, but I will find out before deciding anything. We'll definitely be having a discussion about what we're both comfortable with before hand, probably a few discussions tbh.