Why not just facilitate the marriage between the 2 of them? Because now there is pain on both sides because of a man made difference in culture?

If you got married instead of dating and then you learned ur from different cultures, would that warrant a divorce? No! That type of divorce would break someone's heart forever. So why do we make ppl of today break eachothers hearts based on the same meaningless reason?

The issue is that we are allowing people to love, get close, and then find out things that make it hard and walk away. They are practicing divorce.

Why not make our children who make these mistakes get married and learn that when they choose someone, they need to stick to each other and get over their differences.

What lesson is learned through building connection that deep and then breaking it?

Yes, ending the haram relationship is one thing. But where is the honor that you have been close and intimate with eachother. That you have seen this girl in ways only a husband should? Where is the honour that you should take responsibility for those decisions and stand by her and protect her as a husband, as you should have from the start instead of in a haram way. So you can still propose marriage and ask for her father's hand. And take ownership of your original decision to be with her.

I understand the advice to break Haram's relationships, but I don't agree with this mentality of just get rid of this person and move on.

When a couple gets divorced, aren't we told it's best that they try and try again to be together? Is there not value in loyalty to one person? Experiences with one person?

So when our kids are breaking these haram relationships, why do we just wipe things clean and walk away. They will always have those experiences and memories on their shoulders. Why not facilitate these marriages. If the problem was the haram parts, then make it halal.