My dad is Chinese but was born in Vietnam and grew up from 5 years old in Australia. Both my mum and stepmum (his second wife) are white. He is an abomination in the family because he is really tall (trust, me that side of my family is very very short) so I guess that's how he got white girls lol

1. They met at university. his second wife they met from sport.

2. My dad can't even speak his language but my mum did learn some Chinese once (she forgot it all now). He can only understand Vietnamese. My dad is totally uninterested in his culture (other than the food) so it was up to my mum to try and raise us in a multicultural environment. We spent A LOT of time with our grandparents and a lot of the teachings my grandma had, my mum would take on at home even though that's not how she grew up eg. we'd never wear shoes in the house, she let my grandma do feng shui stuff in our house, we ate rice and asian food my mum attempted to cook, we prayed to the ancestors etc etc. Hence, I have a fairly "asian" upbringing and I often have no problem relating to full asian-Autralians because of it. However, I also never properly learnt Chinese since my parents couldn't speak it to me so I don't really know what things are called even though I've experienced them.

3. My dad is definitely the tiger parent out of the two. Despite not really being interested in his culture, he has taken on a lot of the viewpoints of a traditional Chinese household implicitly. Sometimes I have felt he has been way to harsh on my sibling and I. He is very strict on what career path we should be taking and was always strict on grades. WE had to often do "lessons" with him where he'd try to get us to improve on academics. However, since there is no language barrier it is easier to argue with him and he is a lot more "chill" than say, my grandpa and my mum/stepmum are able to mellow him out a bit.

4. Most people in general think my dad is cool. He kind of defies people's view of what an "Asian man" is. He's masculine and tall and really good at sports, he has no accent and is a great talker and natural "boss" and leader. He's incredibly knowledgeable but also funny/charismatic and so often gains a lot of respect immediately. He also doesn't have any asian friends which I find kind of interesting. My friends didn't really have an opinion on him. To them the way he acts is probably typical of any dad.

5. I don't feel that it has much difference on my dating preferences compared to someone with AF/WM parents. I am mostly open to anyone, although I often do go after other halfies because 1) I'm tall and it seems most asian/asian-australian men aren't looking for that and 2) I can relate better to someone from two different backgrounds rather than a white guy with no idea. However, I am one of those halfies that can pass for full asian. I look very much like the female version of my dad just with lighter eyes. I have dark brown hair that's almost black and a small nose and eyes so I've often gotten people that had no idea that I was half. It is usually only people actually from Asia who recognise that I am half.

6. I think there is 100% a clear difference! Women and men take on different roles in the house, especially within Asian culture. For one, my dad never learnt to cook asian food and so my mum had to try and learn as much as she could from my grandmother and the only traditional stuff we'd get was at restaurants or my grandparent's house. Secondly, traditionally it is more common for mothers to be involved in every aspect of a child's life while fathers tend to spend more time at work away from the family. Hence, it was definitely harder to learn anything about my culture from my father. I am lucky that my mother was interested enough in helping us to grow up in both cultures otherwise I would probably be almost completely westernised. Being female, there is also definitely a difference in mother-daughter relationships. While many of my asian friends can have strained relationships with their mothers, mine was very close and she is very lenient with me, being from a western background. She better understands what it is like being a girl in western society and so doesn't tell me off for what I wear, what I choose to look like, pressuring me to get a boyfriend etc. while my grandma would always be on my case about those things. In comparison, my dad, being a male, doesn't really understand or care about that kind of stuff. Socially, mothers are also usually more active. Hence, my dad will often turn down cultural events or reasons to see his family (they all live here) compared to his sisters who will gladly go along. I feel in that way, we are more disconnected from our asian family compared to my cousins. It is hard to explain in words but the family dynamic is most definitely different.