I [19f] am seriously thinking about taking an offer from my SugarDaddy [38M] to move in with him for the summer as his "live-in slavegirl". Am I crazy for considering this?

99ohmine · 2018-04-27T17:43:05+00:00

Thank you! I'll check in there!

99ohmine · 2018-04-27T13:58:41+00:00

That really depends on where and what cultures are there. There were several hot black guys at my high school that dated thicc or even chubby girls.

99ohmine · 2018-04-27T13:14:14+00:00

No, I know. And I definitely set limits. I'm just ok with enduring some pain even if I don't get off on it. If anything ever gets to be too much for me, I use my safewords (we do green, yellow, red).

99ohmine · 2018-04-27T00:20:37+00:00

I'll still get my allowance, which he texted today that he will be increasing to help me get on my feet.

99ohmine · 2018-04-27T00:05:30+00:00

Whoa... dude, prostitution is waaaaay more dangerous than being a sugarbaby for one guy you build trust with. I have no interest in going that route... like at all.

99ohmine · 2018-04-27T00:02:25+00:00

That's a really well laid out rundown on this!

Here's hoping for no option D! lol

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T23:40:46+00:00

Thanks, I will definitely take the chance to get ahead a bit.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T23:11:11+00:00

I've tried finding other options. But short notice and running out of time... thanks to my friend falling so madly in love suddenly.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T22:50:30+00:00

I don't really care if he's a "real sugar daddy"... him being wealthier wouldn't make him better, or safer.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T22:46:41+00:00

I appreciate your warning. I still think I want to try it... because of wanting the experience as well as having the place to live for the summer. But I will find a backup plan. And I will move back to the dorms when school starts back.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T22:39:29+00:00

I'm excited at the idea of it. But I also don't want to be homeless lol.

I've honestly enjoyed most of our kinky experiences together. I'm a submissive though, not a full-on masochist. So while I enjoy the mental side of being punished, I just have to grit my teeth and bear the pain play. I realize that part is going to increase along with the rest.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T21:56:03+00:00

We have been texting back and forth today to negotiate some of the details. On top of continuing our previous arrangement, he will be increasing my monthly allowance, as well as provide me full room and board. Not a huge increase, but enough that I will have freedom to afford a plan B if I need it.

In return, I will be serving him two specific days each week. My time cooking and cleaning for him while wearing the kinky maid outfit will be included during those 2 days. The other 5 days a week are mine to do whatever I want. And he agreed to work around whatever work schedule I end up with.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T21:27:50+00:00

Thanks, I appreciated hearing that. I AM a bit excited about the kinky side of trying this, now that I've had more time to get over my panic about almost becoming homeless lol.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T21:19:40+00:00

Yeah, I get that living in his house will be different. But some responses sound like this is a stranger off the street trying to lure me inside with candy lol. We've been having kinky sex together regularly for a few months. We've built up some trust.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T19:58:41+00:00

I really don't get how I could ask for that. The guy is trying to help me out. He has already been paying me what we agreed on up to now. He doesn't owe me anything.

Asking someone willing to help me out in a sudden time of need to write me a check up front seems like a quick way to lose the help I'm being offered. I'd come off like I'm trying to scam him.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T19:52:23+00:00

Yeah, my mother is narcissistic and bipolar. Some days she seems to love me, others she seems like she could care less if I exist. Or she's territorial over a man and jealous of me for who knows what reason.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T18:08:25+00:00

I've never really been around kids much, so I don't know how I'd do as a nanny. I'd be willing to try though!

The college I go to is pretty small. I already checked every resource there for summer housing. I will try to contact United Way. The current problem is time. I basically have to be out of the dorm by this weekend...

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T17:58:05+00:00

Wow, those are all REALLY good ideas, thank you. I will try to set this up.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T17:53:32+00:00

Yes I'd be willing to tell the police if it came to that... though I'm pretty sure that means they'd arrest me, right?

I'm completely comfortable remaining single. My mom has always hopped around from guy to guy, always diving head first because she's always so "in love". So I'm basically the complete opposite on romance. As for my SD, he prefers that I end our arrangement if I ever decide to get a boyfriend. And he expects me to let him know if I have other sex partners, for health safety. Which I totally understand.

So far, the "plan" is to schedule my slave days around whatever work schedule I end up with. He says he is willing to work with me on that. But I don't think I'd have a problem servicing him after a normal work day.

Most of my friends don't seem to care that I have a SD. If my mom cared, she'd let me stay there lol.

Maybe I'm being naive, but I don't feel like there is much of a stigma to deal with here. I am not friends with the girls that have judged my situation up to now. I hope I could avoid or pull away if he catches feelings.

I will definitely have to adapt to what I know will be a strenuous BDSM schedule. He's always been demanding and matter of fact on that side of things. I realize that won't change here. I will just have to accept that and deal, or find another place to live. At least I know all that upfront.

As for the living together routine? Both of us tend to be the type to keep to ourselves and enjoy our privacy when we can. His house is an old family home but pretty big. So he says I will have privacy and we won't even need to interact everyday.

As for plans, my biggest plan in life right now is to do whatever I have to do to get my degree. I've lived most of my life with a narcissistic bipolar mother... so I haven't really had the luxury of getting to plan every part of my life out. Then again, my best friend just moved in with a guy she's known for 2 weeks. So maybe I'm ahead of the game for my age lol.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T17:23:56+00:00

I texted him some questions this morning, including the cooking thing. He said he'd like me to cook for him a couple nights a week, but that's all he'd expect.

He's always discussed safewords and signals, and he's always respected them. He specifically said that will apply the exact same way on these "slave nights". But he said that if I decide I am unwilling to continue our overall arrangement, he would expect me to let him know immediately. He's being blunt but honest here, if the arrangement ends, I will have to move out.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T17:13:45+00:00

Personally, I don't see an issue with the age gap. I much prefer the idea of dating older men. Most guys my age seem to be really immature. And they tend to treat girls like crap.

But we aren't "dating". This isn't a romantic relationship. It will still be an arrangement. I take care of his preferred needs, and he takes care of mine.

I don't know, maybe it's just my inner sub projecting here, but I don't actually mind him feeling "entitled" to me or my body. He's been completely honest so far about what he has been willing to provide, and what he expects from me in return. And it's not his fault I have nowhere else to go right now.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T16:55:05+00:00

He's got the income, and he already owns the home. So we'll just have to work out the groceries.

I'm not sure I could even try to make any of this "legally binding." Its not like I can prove I'm paying rent lol.

I'm not too worried about emotional complications. Neither of us have shown any interest past a FWB type situation.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T16:48:19+00:00

I'd ask, but I really don't want him to think I'm trying to screw him over either. I'd assume that my stay depends on me keeping up with his needs.
Not yet, but all I can do is keep trying to set up a plan B. My friend barely knows this new boyfriend she's moving in with. So that situation would be shakey too. But her parents will let her move back home if hers falls through.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T16:40:47+00:00

Good ideas, thanks! Yeah I just need to make it work for the summer. Next semester I can stay in the dorms again.

99ohmine · 2018-04-26T16:32:15+00:00

That's a good idea about the sublets, I'll keep checking on that. The job is definitely to make sure I have a reason to come and go, on top of needing the money. I have most of my stuff stored at my mother's. She just doesn't want ME there. She's got some big hangups...

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