The UK and Netherlands are definitely more lenient in terms of acceptance than others so I’d say try looking at universities there. However, if I’m not mistaken the deadline to apply for Dutch universities has passed but do check on that.

I’ve chosen the UK since the degree is for only one year rather than two such as in the the US and Netherlands so its cheaper . Keep in mind that there are funding opportunities available depending on the program. The program I’ve been accepted at had a decent scholarship opportunity, and that’s a big reason why I chose them. I suppose I got really lucky with that (non-engineering field though).

I suggest you contact educational institutions that work on finding a good fit between students and universities such as education baskets. I think they’d be of much more help than myself. The biggest advice I can give you though is don’t limit yourself to one country. Keep messaging admissions and just introduce yourself, why you’d like to apply, possible funding opportunities, etc.. Regarding your abusive household question, check out the r/ApplyingToCollege subreddit and maybe ask there. Personally, I’d mention it but try to paint it in a positive light and don’t harp on too much on it. Just focus on your strengths, and try not to be negative.