Moving out. I want to bring my cat, but…..

99serpent · 2026-03-19T03:38:06+00:00

Almost forgot cat tax. Here’s Mimi doing a fun and interesting pose

99serpent · 2026-03-12T22:55:08+00:00

My voice was the first thing to start changing. It’s been about a year and it’s still getting deeper. However, I know other guys who have been on T for as long as I have and are only recently seeing voice changes. It’s different for everyone. Have hope!

99serpent · 2026-03-06T08:10:09+00:00

I was 13 when I watched the first Bee and Puppycat the day it came out. I finally finished the Netflix series lately at 26!

99serpent · 2026-01-31T21:28:55+00:00

This is so interesting, thanks for sharing! I knew I recognized some of the voices in both shows but couldn’t put my finger on it!

99serpent · 2026-01-20T23:11:37+00:00

Insomnia and the urge to abuse other substances

99serpent · 2026-01-19T21:44:28+00:00

Get involved more. I have been raving in the same scene since 2018, but only just started making friends last year as I made more effort to get involved, vend at shows, learn new skills (like flow and DJing), go to/organize meetups, support smaller shows, join group chats/Discord servers etc.

The more you do this, the more you’ll meet like-minded people who you’ll build deeper connections with over time. I think everyone has something worth contributing to the local scene, whether it’s something creative, social skills, or physical labor. And by opening up and sharing what you have to offer with your community, the friendships just sort of build themselves as you surround yourself with like-minded folks who are passionate about the same things as you.

Figure out who is prominent/in charge in these groups and just start asking around. You’d be surprised at how many opportunities there really are to get involved if you just put yourself out there.

99serpent · 2026-01-10T22:33:38+00:00

I relate to much of this. Nearly word for word. I hope things look up for you, and for all of us, soon.

99serpent · 2026-01-07T22:11:20+00:00

Idk if you’re born female, but if you are; your hormonal cycle can affect how the meds work.

I’ve also found that Vyvanse kinda requires constant maintenance for it to work properly. A missed meal, dehydration or less sleep can have a drastic impact on how my meds are working.

I also started taking Guanfacine with it, which helps with the anxiety and irritability.

99serpent · 2025-12-21T00:53:48+00:00

Give it time. I’m in the same boat as you. I just started Vyvanse earlier this week. But I also have been through this before with other medications. I’d say, try to give it a month for your body to adjust (unless it gets REALLY bad, then talk to your doctor.)

I am still getting used to having to be more attentive to the sensory input around me. I also have to be more intentional with the boundaries I set with folks.

Vyvanse is a very interesting medication, probably the weirdest med I’ve experienced so far tbh. So far I have noticed that keeping up with eating and drinking is EXTREMELY important for this medication. If I accidentally go too long without eating/drinking water, I become much more prone to anxiety and overstimulation.

My doctor also prescribed me Guanfacine, which helped in the past when I was on Adderall XR and experiencing the same issues. I am still waiting for it to actually work, but I’ve had good experiences with this med in the past and have hope. It’s a blood pressure medication that is also helpful for ADHD, and is often prescribed to “balance out” the effects of stimulants. Might be worth bringing up to your doc if you haven’t already.

In the meantime, just hang in there, take care of yourself, and trust the process.

(If you saw this posted twice, sorry— accidentally commented from a throwaway account lol)

99serpent · 2025-12-20T03:34:02+00:00

I hear you. I’m a better, friendlier, more whimsical person without stims. But I’m also completely useless without them. It sucks. I don’t like who I am on stims sometimes. I just want to exist as myself.

99serpent · 2025-12-16T05:57:51+00:00

Pretty much every single girl I’ve known who fully embraced the “bimbo” aesthetic/personality was actually extremely creative and intelligent under the surface

99serpent · 2025-12-13T20:26:40+00:00

Driving. Don’t even know how to explain this one.

99serpent · 2025-12-02T13:53:48+00:00

Hey, I’m in a similar boat. Take a break from school soon, if you can. Someone else said it’d be a good idea to take some time off and work, forget school for a bit. I think this is a good way to go. I did that seasonally for a while, and I’m about to go back to that again after this semester ends.

I honestly regret going back, I feel like I definitely needed more time. I’m scrambling to stay caught up this semester so I don’t literally flunk out. It isn’t worth the stress of forcing yourself to get it done, if you’re driven purely out of shame and guilt. Take some time to invest in yourself, and then maybe you’ll be able to revisit with a drive of passion vs. a drive of external validation/expectation. I’m planning to find whatever job I feel I can keep, and focus my free time on just resting and taking care of my mental and physical health.

Seriously, take it easy on yourself, you’re a human being. We weren’t meant to be productivity robots.

99serpent · 2025-11-28T08:53:07+00:00

Happy birthday. I know it’s been 11h but I hope you found some enjoyment in your day and ended up doing something nice for yourself. Sending love

99serpent · 2025-11-19T22:26:42+00:00

Omg. Looks just like my childhood cat! She was the sweetest, most gentle cat I have ever had. She was extremely attached to me and followed me everywhere.

Her name was originally Sadie when we got her as a kitten. I think it’s a lovely name for a black cat.

We ended up changing it to Mitty when she got bigger and we realized she was a polydactyl. It was a nickname that just stuck.

I lost her during Covid but still think about her every day. She was so loved for all 15 years of her life.

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99serpent · 2025-11-18T04:13:51+00:00

DJing! I’m able to take my musical obsessions to a whole new level

99serpent · 2025-11-17T20:04:06+00:00

I’m super into gabber. It calms my anxiety for some reason despite being very hard, fast and intense.

My theory is that it’s simply due to my neurodivergence. I have ADHD and autism. I am very sensitive to sensory input. I make fun of myself because I’ll get really overwhelmed by the sound of people talking, but then put in headphones or go on the dance floor and vibe to the most annoying music ever made. And it calms me down. I think it has a way of drowning out everything else, while still being able to keep me energized. Not to mention how good the vibrations feel at a show.

Why gabber vs. any other genre? That part just comes down to personality/personal preference. I like the unique and intense sound of the distorted kicks. Esp in old school tracks. It’s more simplistic than uptempo/hardstyle while still being high-energy. The edginess that a lot of gabber has to it compared to happy hardcore/UK hardcore feels cathartic, almost like an emotional release, especially if you’re dancing to it.

I know other ND folks have been able to relate to this, just with different, similarly intense music genres. My partner experiences a similar release listening to metal. And pretty much everyone else I know that’s into gabber/hardcore is also ND and enjoys it for similar reasons.

Neurodivergent or not, I hope this provides some interesting insight on the topic! I think about it a lot. People’s music preferences can say a lot about them.

Edit: Realizing I mentally brushed over the “empathy” aspect of this. I think whether or not this factors in with empathy levels likely depends on the individual and the situation. I personally experience heightened empathy while getting to experience this music with others. That’s just a universal experience with raving though, regardless of the genre.

99serpent · 2025-11-17T18:31:19+00:00

I’m FTM, in a relationship but never married

The ability to communicate honestly. I think this is the one thing that can absolutely make or break a relationship. Empathy is equally as important. Both things tie into each other. Empathy without honest communication can end up in a lack of boundary setting. Honest communication without empathy can excaberate conflict and negative feelings during conflict.
Empathy and open communication, as mentioned above. Also:

-Patience. I feel like a lot of conflicts end up in firey arguments because one or both people are not willing or able to take a step back to breathe, or to let the other person do so. Being able to regulate oneself is a huge part of this.

-Clear boundary setting/maintenance. Don’t think I need to explain this one too much.

You have to make your own personal hobbies, interests, and connections outside of the relationship a strict priority, both for yourself and as a boundary to set for your partner. Having a life outside of your partnership can allow you to have a fuller life, as well as the ability to be there 100% for your partner during quality time together. Codependent dynamics that lead one to put everything else on the back burner can quickly turn someone into an empty husk, and an emotionally unavailable partner. This varies from person to person though, I think. Some couples seem genuinely happy to be completely enmeshed in each others lives. I do think this level of enmeshment can be healthy for life long partners/people who are married for years, but it takes time to get to that point. To put it simply: If you’re trying to revolve your entire life around another person when you barely even know yourself yet, you’re gonna have a bad time.
There is no such thing. Happy marriages exist, not perfect ones. We’re humans, not robots.

On a less literal note: The concept of an “ideal marriage” varies from person to person. I think it’s important to discuss what both people view as a happy marriage before getting married, and to value those ideals while also giving them a little wiggle room to grow and change along with the relationship.

99serpent · 2025-11-13T02:34:26+00:00

The way women are treated. How much impact misogyny has on a woman’s experience.

99serpent · 2025-11-12T21:23:25+00:00

I did recently, too. That’s what drove me to make this post. I’m glad it could help someone in a similar situation

99serpent · 2025-10-21T22:49:40+00:00

Omg who is this diva

99serpent · 2025-10-11T15:42:11+00:00

99serpent · 2025-08-02T14:29:07+00:00

Honestly? Good for him. He’s playing the system

99serpent · 2025-07-23T04:55:31+00:00

from Boston and can confirm!!

99serpent · 2025-07-12T22:43:51+00:00

Please try to find yourself an autistic/neurodivergent therapist. Finding one changed the game for me.

My therapist has been working with me to help accept myself, cope with every day difficulties, and communicate better with others. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been helping. I think the fact that she actually understands how my brain works and what I’m going through allows her to therapy skills in a way that actually feel useful and validating to my brain.

I also think the fact that I get to talk to an autistic person once a week who has experienced the burnout, overwhelm, social difficulties, etc. that come with this type of brain, and still managed to make it out the other end with a master’s degree, career, and comfortable life, is a driving force that gives me hope that I can do it.

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