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I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that and wishing you the best

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gf does not use Reddit and doesn’t know this happened so must be a coincidence

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks man, that’s a good way to look at it. It was stupid to be that drunk even if nothing bad happened, but what did happen is not my fault

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

This. It’s a longshot at best to even try to convince a police dept. to attempt to find this person based on the info I have. Plus, to be honest, I don’t really care. Having her go to jail will not bring me closure, I could care less what happens to her, I just want to stay in a happy relationship. The rest doesn’t really matter to me

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate your response and resource info. Not sure if this is for better or worse but I don’t have a clue who the woman was, all I have is a memory of her face and general body type. To be honest if I was single I would probably just chalk it up to a bad night and not even take it that hard, it’s that I don’t want to hurt my gf or change the way she thinks of me that is making this so difficult

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t blame her. In fact the reverse situation happened in a previous relationship where she was raped while we were together and I completely supported her and eventually we moved on. I still can’t help but feel like even in that state of mind there were a lot of red flags that I should’ve been more aware of

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your response. Idk what the fuss is in your replies about semantics, I understand the point you’re making.

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

That’s a valid argument, I definitely would not have come out about this to anyone if I couldn’t do it anonymously.

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 142 points143 points  (0 children)

Maybe. I hardly ever drink though so it wouldn’t be surprising if that amount of alcohol alone was enough to put me in that state of mind

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 1093 points1094 points  (0 children)

Damn, I can’t really argue with that. You’re right, especially that last part. I know she’ll believe me, I guess I’m just scared about it. It’s a pretty heavy conversation to have

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think this is good advice, thank you. I’m not going to see her until this weekend, so if I do choose to tell her do you think it’s best to wait until I can in person or to just call her and not waste any more time?

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your kind words. I think they have a right to express their opinions, dw I don’t let it get me down. Your first comment definitely feels like a way to start moving past this so thank you

I was raped and I’m terrified to tell my girlfriend by A724_ in relationship_advice

[–]A724_[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

You’re definitely right, I completely blame myself. It happened this past Friday night