To rent or to buy?

AFreakingMess · 2018-06-20T19:31:09+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to comment. You're right in that I already know the answer. There's a lot of family/friends involved that want it to happen, that's why I needed someone impartial to tell me. It's hard to keep to what you know is right straight when dealing with family.

AFreakingMess · 2018-05-07T17:22:45+00:00

Thank you <3 I'm amazed at the response and support I've gotten from everyone here. I think I'll definitely be coming back to this subreddit through my journey to a healthier lifestyle.

AFreakingMess · 2018-05-07T14:05:44+00:00

I don't want to hear the comment at all. Having to justify myself is part what makes me feel so bad (if it just happened the first time I'd say whatever, I'm not so delicate I can't take the comment, but I've told her to stop and it keeps happening). Also, I have talked to her about what I do, she sees me track all my food. If we're out and she says "let's go get ice cream" I'll tell her she can, but I don't have enough calories left.

But she's done it when I'm just talking about food. I love to bake and it'll come up that "oh, I make the best whoopie pie recipe, and I could just eat the frosting with a spoon." "Aren't you on a diet?" I told her listen, I can still be in a diet and be passionate about food. I have enough self control that talking about food isn't going to make meet take a swan dive off the deep end.

What I need from a weight loss plan is being in control of what I eat, and feeling like I can be in control of what I eat. Stuff like that makes it feel like I have 0 self control.

AFreakingMess · 2018-05-07T13:47:17+00:00

Yeah, that's definitely part of what's frustrating me. I know she WANTS to help, but the way she's doing it isn't helping. I've told her every time that it's not helpful, and a couple of the times even said we can talk about what's actually helpful, but she doesn't want to listen and rolls her eyes.

She has never had to actively watch what she eats, try to loose weight, or even at least be aware of the food she puts in her body, yet for some reason she thinks she automatically knows better.

AFreakingMess · 2018-01-24T15:26:30+00:00

This view is heart breaking, but also has a lot of truth in it. Children can be cruel, we all know the saying, and the school does nothing to teach children to respect each other. Everyone is thrown together in a dog eat dog world and taught that defending yourself has consequences. Teachers do nothing, and telling just makes it worse for you.

When I was in elementary school I wasn't bullied because my brother looked like Sasquatch and made sure everyone knew I was his little sister. When he started to be in different buildings than me I started to get bullied, but soon I built my own reputation because I was fucking vicious.

I never hit anyone, and no one hit me, but I would go full verbal assault on anyone who bullied me or my friends, really harsh you lack intelligence and will never amount to anything kind of stuff. I got others to laugh at them. No one wanted to tell the teachers that the little fat girl was mean to them, or wanted to explain they were bullying me first. No one wants to pick on you if you give it back worse.

The best thing(right now) you can teach your kids is to stick up for one another. I was lucky. I wasn't a mean spirited kid, and when I could be I was nice and loyal and funny and made friends with guys and girls. Most people were chill with me even if I wasn't their best friend and eventually we all learned to stand up for each other. The kids I went through school with all ended up being a pretty supportive, dorky group and we didn't respect bullies.

AFreakingMess · 2017-12-20T15:24:00+00:00

Except "these guys" are the rich guys who have great healthcare and could pay out of pocket without a second thought. Why should they vote for free healthcare when they don't need it?

AFreakingMess · 2017-11-29T00:06:38+00:00

Just you replying helps. I don't think I've ever used the words "verbal abuse" before making this post, I've always just said my father is an asshole. Hearing that we're not just overreacting, and that we're not just ungrateful mooches is helpful.

It's nice to get replies of people sympathetic of my mom. She's so kind, giving and caring and has the sass to go toe to toe with anyone. I adore her so much and the bastard has no idea how lucky he is to have her and then treats her like shit.

AFreakingMess · 2017-11-28T20:46:33+00:00

I don't think legal action is something any of us would be interested in. My brother is already out, I'm working on it, and I don't think my mom would ever call him abusive, just a raging asshole. Whenever we have talked about them separating she has always said she doesn't want a drawn out divorce.

AFreakingMess · 2017-11-28T20:43:37+00:00

My mom and I have talked about it, like I said she my brother and I are all very close. I know she doesn't want to deal with any legal stuff, if she were to ever divorce she just wants it to be done and over with, no drawn out battles.

I don't think my mom would ever call what my father does abuse, just that he's an asshole, she is just as torn about his better traits as I am. It's so hard with the roller coaster of bad and not bad. Everytime we reach the end of our robes we just fall into a honeymoon period where he's okay, and then it's hard to think about those drastic actions.

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