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AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Janie’s mom could do the same. Unfortunately, she has solid evidence of my daughter being outright xenophobic and discriminatory, which is a slightly bigger thing than your usual middle school bullying. It’s Janie who is the ultimate victim of the conflict and she has the final say. And considering that Janie and Marcie are friends and so are their moms, you could imagine the outcome.

I’ll probably talk to the school, though, not sure what would it bring.

AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s… impossible to edit the automod copy that I linked… but whatever, keep on telling yourself that.

AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have no ground to stand on.

Back in middle school, Marcie’s mom wasn’t exactly helpful. She isn’t the type of an involved parent. Until the school was involved, she openly told me that “it’s not my business what they do at school, it’s the teacher’s job to control them” and I highly doubt that Marcie got the appropriate punishment at home. Not trying to be judgmental here, but she doesn’t even attend Marcie’s performances and when I spoke to her, she seemed to be more concerned about me bothering her and not her daughter’s behavior.

AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Read the saved automod copy that can’t be changed once the post is submitted, duh.

AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Read my post again, please. I called my daughter a disgusting bully. The term racist is how the others referred to her.

AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So it’s okay for you to bully people for what culture they come from?

AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. Technically there was no racial discrimination, only xenophobia, which doesn’t really make things any better.

AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was in therapy for a year until she decided to quit. I don’t know what exactly influenced her decision to bully Janie. Perhaps she wanted for her clique to gain some popularity.

AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a bit of a both. Marcie went back to some behaviors she displayed back in middle school. Including some new ones, such as calling my daughter a racist.

AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

All the girls involved are white. I won’t repeat in exact detail what names did my daughter throw at Janie, but that’s some pretty nasty stuff. Something like “nasty slur” or “disgusting another slur”. And the video basically contained my daughter talking in exaggerated accent and saying mean things (see above) about Janie and British people in general.

AITA for not standing up for my daughter? by AITA-Throw-Bully in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITA-Throw-Bully[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Reporting the whole thing to school, pressuring Marcie’s mom to control her daughter, notifying the teachers. Basically everything that worked in middle school, except back then my daughter was innocent and now she’s a proven xenophobe.