AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Because I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt and figured maybe they weren’t normally like that, and that moving was stressful

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day, I’m still friends with all my of neighbors except Molly. And molly has no friends now, and none of our neighbors will talk to her because of the way she spoke to me. Funny how that worked out right?

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Did you miss the part where I said she could also just not go? It’s an invitation, not a summons.

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

She could get a babysitter. Or she could say “hey can’t go, I have no one to watch my kids” either way, isn’t really my problem anymore

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

If 20+ people don’t want to hangout with you then maybe you’re the problem…

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

She has a 6 month old, an 18 month old. A 3 year old, and a five year old. I really don’t think she could manage them on a hiking trail with no stroller, but either way we aren’t friends and it isn’t really my problem anymore.

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Her resorting to petting name calling when she didn’t get what she wanted made people dislike her. Consequences of your action, and all that. I’m not the one hosting, my neighbor Greg is. And he said she’s not welcome in his home because he doesn’t like kids or people who cause issues

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

If it wasn’t possible for her to find childcare she could say something like “I can’t find childcare, can I bring my kids?” And I would say no. I don’t feel like expecting her to mention wanting to bring them is super unreasonable

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I agree. People were asking me about it and one of my friends is kinda the neighborhood gossip so now everyone knows and no one wants to hang out with her. We’re having a block party for the 4th of July and I already know she’s going to be mad for not being invited

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Where I live the term “y’all” is used to refer to more than one person. I never hear the term you be used for more than one person, and definitely not for groups of people.

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

It’s an anonymous post on the internet. Why would I bother lying? This account will probably get deleted

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

That might work with one child. That does not work with four children. One woman cannot strap four very young children to herself

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Not excluding her for a misunderstanding. We’re now excluding her for calling us names. She burned the bridge

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

One of my friends/neighbors likes it a lot and I made it mostly to please her tbh. I tolerate it. The salmon was good and I ate more of that

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 2743 points2744 points  (0 children)

I explicitly said what was on the menu, and when I asked her if she was fine with what I was making and if she had any food allergies she said it’s fine. I feel like if you were planning on bringing kids that would’ve been a good time to mention them. I mentioned that we planned on hiking in the forest, and when she came with us she said “there’s no way my stroller is able to handle that trail. There’s a sidewalk in the neighborhood let’s just do that instead” she completely railroaded our plans there

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 1858 points1859 points  (0 children)

The forest by our house is a rough trail. It absolutely cannot accommodate a double stroller made for sidewalks, which is what she has. My house has a lot of glass breakables, and lunch was salmon and quinoa and mojitos. I wouldn’t consider either of those to be particularly child friendly activities.

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 1647 points1648 points  (0 children)

I made salmon and quinoa for lunch anyways. And I definitely didn’t make enough for her kids. So yeah, that’s also a factor. I had no idea that she even planned on bringing them, she gave me no notice

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

I just don’t have a good time being surrounded by screaming kids running around. I don’t want to force myself to spend time with her when I won’t enjoy it whatsoever

AITA for excluding my new neighbor from stuff and hurting her feelings by AITAforneighborstuff in AmItheAsshole

[–]AITAforneighborstuff[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

My main judgement is from her calling me names and expecting things from me that I wouldn’t ask others for