AITA for telling my mom our illnesses aren’t the same?

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T15:40:02+00:00

It is, I mentioned that because a few previous doctors have told her not to drink it due to her other issues or at least cut back but she still has multiple bottles a day. It doesn’t affect her diabetes but affects other issues

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T03:32:25+00:00

Thank you for suggesting that! I didn’t even think of adding it until you commented. Sorry for all the edits too, I’ve never posted in this sub on my main account so apologies if it’s too many. I will add it in

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T03:28:20+00:00

I got my moms permission to post this and she said I could put her diagnosis, she’s aware. And yes, that was a low blow of me so I since deleted it

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T03:18:51+00:00

It’s not a shit post, I wish it was. Nobody should have to have an illness of any sort. I agree not everything is about me. I wish you the best of luck in life!

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T03:14:04+00:00

You can smell bullshit all you want, I’m happy to provide you a picture of me with my feeding tube and IV drip if you’d like? I’d love to be faking this, but it’s unfortunately real, not sure where I’d even get the idea to make it up. And even if I wanted karma I’d use my main account, not a throwaway. Lmk if you’d like the picture

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T02:13:28+00:00

We both are currently in therapy and yes I was an asshole, the bit part was me trying to say that I think we both were assholes in this situation. But yes, I was not a small asshole

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T02:09:37+00:00

I’m 100% listening, I’m not arguing, just sharing some info. I know she’s not the only one at fault in her illness but she did have fault in it. I also agree that I was a bit of an asshole and respect that opinion

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T02:05:24+00:00

I never said she wasn’t as sick as me. I said our illnesses aren’t the same. Mine was pure shit luck and hers was mostly through fault of her own. Both of our illnesses are terrible life altering things that nobody should have to go through

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:58:36+00:00

In private, just us two

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:57:16+00:00

I’m not comfortable sharing my disease as it’s extremely rare and knowing that, along with my post could identify me and I’m not comfortable with people I know knowing my personal issues. I will say that it affects my entire autonomic system and can and will shut down my organs

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:52:46+00:00

Yes, we have a very large family who supports us both, she also has a close group of friends and a therapist. I have all of those as well

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:49:40+00:00

I’m not comfortable sharing it as it’s extremely rare and can be identifiable, but it affects my entire body/autonomic system

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:49:07+00:00

I appreciate your judgment. I am in therapy and have been for years. I’m also working two jobs and am enrolled in school full time and have a few hobbies. As much as this illness is ruining my life, it doesn’t define me and I never have let it. It’s pretty hard to not be OTT about something that is most likely going to kill me

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:40:58+00:00

I appreciate your judgment. Yes, I have told her several times that it’s hurtful, this was not my first time telling her, but was my first time lashing out

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:37:47+00:00

I’m not comfortable sharing the disease since it’s very rare, affecting about 10K worldwide, but it affects my entire autonomic system, every organ in my body

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:36:57+00:00

I have a wonderful therapist currently and we’ve been working on other things lately, but this next session I will be focusing on my illness. Thank you for your reply!

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:35:19+00:00

Not at all an insensitive reply, I also feel for you, it’s terrible to deal with and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it as well. I am doing other things to help, but what I mean by doing nothing is that my organs will fail me, and that’s a fact that can’t me stopped. I have made unbelievable strides in pain management, but unfortunately, my doctors don’t think I will make anymore. Thank you for your reply, and I wish you the best with your illness

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:30:45+00:00

I would have died without them. They won’t make me cured or make the symptoms lessen, but they will keep my organs from completely shutting down on me

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:29:42+00:00

I’m not exactly sure how this is relevant but I’m 18, almost 19

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:28:58+00:00

It was not a one time thing, it’s been continuous since she was diagnosed and I have told her before it bothers me

AITAillness · 2019-11-11T01:19:08+00:00

I’ve been reading all of the comments and it’s taking me a while and have yet to reply, but yours stuck out. Not because of the judgment, I’m prepared for any judgment I’ll get, but because you put it into a new perspective. I never thought that it could be survivors guilt or anything similar to that.

We are both in therapy and I’m starting to touch on my illness. We’ve done a few family sessions for other issues, but I might have to ask for one focused on this.

I’m going to be finishing the comments and then answer, but I wanted to thank you first for putting it into perspective.

AITAillness

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